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  • @llli*littlecavemomma's Avatar
    Today, 06:13 PM
    Alright ladies, seeking some guidance... I go back to work on Monday and I just got word that HR has recently placed some strong restrictions on pumping. My LO will be 10wo and is EBF, and because of her usual feeding demands while I'm home, if I go more than 3 hours without draining by some means, I'm engorged. There will be 3 pumping moms when I go back. In March there will be 4. We have a very small space, but from what I understand they've made it work so far, often times just sharing the room. We're not sure if someone complained or what, but here are the rules: only one person in at a time, and you must sign in/out and collect a key from HR. The moms have been using a room with a broken lock for months, but apparently they fixed in ahead of this rule. One of the mothers has already told HR that when I come back it simply won't work. There aren't enough hours in the day. We all work the same hours and we all have similar commutes, so our schedules are nearly identical. One of the moms has a specific concern that it takes her about 30 minutes to pump every session; it only takes me 10-15 and she's concerned HR will think she's lollygagging. I assured her I'm prepared to explain to them the physiology behind breastfeeding and storage capacity, etc to hopefully convince them it's not reasonable to compare 2 different mothers.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 05:13 PM
    What will decrease milk production is not frequent/effective enough milk removal. What is "enough" varies so much mom to mom that it is truly impossible to predict. Also moms respond to pumps so differently, and of course it matters how often you pump while at work, etc. Put it this way- it cannot possibly hurt to try to get some dream feeds in during the night, or to gently wake baby once a night and see if baby will nurse, or, should those fail, pumping once during the night. (By "night" I mean, the 6 or so hour sleep stretch you are currently seeing.) You can either plan to do this, or wait and see what happens. But it is harder (although not in any way impossible) to regain normal production than to keep it normal in the first place with frequent enough nursing/milk removal. Also many babies start waking more after mom returns to work anyway, or just generally 3-4 month olds tend to change nursing habits and this includes waking more at night some times. So this may not even be a choice you need to make, it may be made for you by baby. Also important that nanny knows how to bottle feed breastfed baby to help avoid over feeding with bottles and other issues: http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/22_bfabreastfedbaby.pdf
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 04:28 PM
    I don't know why it would be so bad. Basically, the first period postpartum is still a normal period. It may be different than your periods prior to being pregnant, but that could mean lighter or heavier. But still within normal parameters. Some incredible amount of blood would indicate hemorrhage and of course not be normal and in fact a medical emergency! Also the first few periods post partum may or may not be irregular. All These differences are due to the hormonal adjustments the body goes through as it becomes fertile again. It is not as if 21 months worth of uterine lining is hanging out in there and going to all come out at once., saying "here's Johnny":yikes
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  • @llli*browncow's Avatar
    Today, 03:52 PM
    OMG! I could have written your post with my first two!! In fact I thing I did write several that were similar. DS was TT and lip tied DD had a slight TT and an lip tie both were corrected but the tenderness you described persisted through out our nursing journeys! I tried and treated for EVeRYTHING! I assumed it was hormonal until I had my current nursling who was slightly posterior TT me lip tied BUT does not have the high palate his brother and sister had. I don't know if thats the difference or not and unfortunately there's not really anything I know of that you can do to fix that. Anyway, just wanted to say I've been there!
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  • @llli*rumka-78's Avatar
    Today, 03:41 PM
    Hell, dear people! I return to work at 3 months of my little girl which is a week from now. During the day she will be receiving my milk from a nanny. Concern and question: she started sleeping almost through the night at about 1.5 mths - falls asleep late, at 10pm then wakes up around 4am for milk. She started now more recently to sleep till 5am or later if I leave her. My breasts used to feel really full and uncomfortable at 3 am. Just as of few days ago they don't and I could in theory go on sleeping, and also not pump. (before I used to always pump after her eating, or sometimes before, at this night time). Would leaving her sleep and not waking her at the time she used to wake, 3-4am, decrease my milk supply? - I'm worried given that I'm pumping not nursing most of the day; I plan to nurse once just before going to work, around 6:30, 7am, then in the evening however many times I can... Most literature suggests Night feeding is a must for milk production; I want to continue ebf at least till 6th month. Thank you!
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 01:45 PM
    As babies get older and start noticing the world around them more, they can be pretty distractible and interested in everything but nursing! That's why they often nurse better when sleepy once they hit that phase. Usually it hits a little later in the first year but I guess your baby is just very aware of her surroundings! Hope the naptime nursing helps.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:17 AM
    Becoming a mother is a difficult transition emotionally, even for those with the healthiest self image. Parenthood is the greatest life change most people ever go through. As a society we pay so little attention to the enormity of what becoming a parent means, and this is very unfortunate. We are left comparing ourselves to a totally unrealistic and "idealized" view of motherhood which, in my opinion, is actually not very ideal! For the many of us who have experienced emotional pain or damage or abuse prior to becoming mothers, the emotions of motherhood can be especially difficult. I think taking a break from any books is a great idea. You love your child and your child loves you. You know your child better than anyone else does. This is really all one needs to parent a child! I personally slept much better after I accepted that I had not "done something' to my oldest child, by nursing him to sleep and overnight, or nursing into toddlerhood and beyond. He slept short stretches from the time he was born until he was about 3. His younger brother, raised precisely the same, slept longer stretches than his brother pretty much from birth. These two children are now 11 and 8, weaned many years ago, and are happy and healthy and smart and sweet- wonderful boys-who are still diametrically opposed to each other in temperament. I cannot take the credit, but to me they are proof that my parenting choices as regards sleep and nursing certainly did no harm. If you ever DO want...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:56 AM
    Hi ellie.vas. Just wanted to reassure you that you are not crazy! Thrush is super difficult to diagnose-even doctors and IBCLCs get this wrong all the time! And babies are often asymptomatic even if mom has clear signs of thrush, further complicating matters. So, white spots and a rash and fussiness/discomfort by baby when nursing are symptoms of thrush. But rashes and the discomfort can be caused by other things. I am not sure about white spots as in what else may cause those, but I bet there are some tings. Have you tried gently scraping the spots to see what happens? For thrush you would expect them to turn red or possibly bleed. What about you? Are YOU feeling discomfort or pain on your nipples or in the breast when nursing or at other times? Did you or baby receive antibiotics recently?
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  • @llli*new.mama86's Avatar
    Today, 09:53 AM
    Thank you, giving that a try today in the hope it will help! So far seems like she is much easier to feed when sleepy so it's a good idea.
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  • @llli*saturn.ring's Avatar
    Today, 07:19 AM
    Thanks for your message. Honestly, my goals aren't that big - I wouldn't mind nursing at night if it weren't so frequent (every 30 minutes to 2 hours). I think she's going through some teething and brain development right now, because I see changes every day! But I am starting to feel depressed and irritable most of the time. Ideally I could nurse her 2-3 times a night and she would fall back asleep nursing, but nursing doesn't always put her back to sleep anymore and she has rejected rocking after 11 months of it. I think I need to take a break from the sleep books and come up with something that works for us.
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  • @llli*happychimomma's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:17 PM
    Hi! Thanks for getting back to me. Weight gain has been slow: born at 6#6oz and this week he was 8#6oz -- he will be two months old on Thursday. The IBCLC we were working with didn't catch his lip tie but an IBCLC at a LLL meeting did and that was revised 10 days ago. Feedings were better after that but not significantly better. What seemed to make the most difference was the increased milk after the domperidone started kicking in. My breasts would feel full--not rock hard, just heavy with milk - and my LO was much more aggressive at the breast and seemed satiated. Then, Sunday, the milk just seemed to go away. They were full for the morning and afternoon feedings and then in the evening, they didn't feel full and when I went to pump, I got almost nothing (less than an ounce) whereas the day before I was getting any 1½ to 2½ ounces per pump without much effort (not needing to do much breast massage or compressions during pumping). The only thing that was different was that on Saturday, I had the prescription refilled but otherwise, activity level, water intake, food intake, stress, etc., was the same. It was such a quick change, it just seemed so odd to me! I called the pharmacy and they gave me a new set of pills on the off chance something was wrong with that set but that was just today so I don't know if that was the issue yet. I'm not sure if this answers all your questions but any help or advice would be great!
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  • @llli*ellie.vas's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:17 PM
    I have been looking around the Internet to see what's the matter with my daughter because I was told about thrush before I gave birth. My daughter had a white tongue so I assumed "this could be thrush" but then I read that milk can leave residue on the tongue like thrush but if it cleans off its milk. I told my doctor who said it was normal and searched her mouth for white spots. Safe to say he sent me home even though she had a rash that wouldn't clear up ( also a symptom of thrush). So then I went and saw ANOTHER doctor, who also did the same thing and said the same thing. Nothing. By this I was calm. I noticed that she seemed to be kicking in what looks like pain when she sucks. So again being another symptom I told my doctor yet again! And nothing....so i left frustrated. I know I was being parinoid but a week after that appointment I noticed her top and bottom lips were turning white on the inside. A SURE SIGN. So I sent pictures to my doctors and told them of they though I should come in for it. Being that I have an appointment for her in a week I thought I could wait but she's been spitting up almost Everytime I feed her. I also noticed today a white spot inside her cheek, and her diaper rash is worse! I don't know what to do or anything and I'm feeling depressed because my husband thinks I'm "playing doctor" and makes me feel like **** for even thinking something is wrong. But I'm with her all day and I feel like I notice if something appears where it shouldn't...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:12 PM
    :hug So much of what is written about infant sleep is toxic, and insidious. It's full of loaded language about how "dependent" a baby can become on nursing, and nudges about how you can foster greater "sleep independence" and "self-soothing"- and of course we adults all have a gut response that dependency is bad and that independence and self-reliance are good. It starts from the assumption that a "good" night's sleep is the same for all people- that ideally, everyone sleeps 8 hours in their own bed, by themselves, never stirring to attend anyone's needs but their own. I think you just have to discard everything that is common knowledge about sleep and go with your gut. What would make you happy? What are your goals? It doesn't matter if they don't match the conventional ideal, as long as you're getting the rest you need.
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  • @llli*saturn.ring's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:01 PM
    I have recently been having sleep issues. I've been trying to read up on how I can move things along and help my daughter sleep better, largely because it has serious effects on my mood. The things I'm reading make me feel like I've done something bad by nursing my baby to sleep. It doesn't say so explicitly, but phrases like "sleep association", or the idea that baby is using my breast as a pacifier, are making me feel strangely disassociated from nursing. I have read all the "good" literature (like the No Cry Sleep Solution and James McKenna's stuff) that affirms the lovely and beautiful thing nursing is, for comfort or not. But I can't help but feel bad. Tonight when I nursed my baby to sleep I felt resentful and almost dirty, like I was hurting her by letting her nurse this way. I know this is totally not true, and I have loved nursing so much, especially as she gets older. I guess I'm just having a low moment. Mostly I just needed to write this out so I could see it in black and white and realize how much I don't believe it.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:44 PM
    If you are so concerned about lead, why not get yourself tested? That way you know whether or not your milk is likely to be a significant source of lead. Most lead exposure is environmental. In the US, anyone who lives in an older house is likely to come in contact with lead because lead paint wasn't phased out until the 1970s. People who live in cities also tend to receive elevated lead exposure from soils and from leaded gasoline, which wasn't phased out until the 1980s. So if you're concerned about where your child's lead exposure is coming from, I would look to her environment first.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:38 PM
    The red, flaky patches aren't painful now, but that could change. This really does sound like early thrush, and I personally would be very vigilant about it. If it spreads, if cracks develop, if you start feeling pain- then I would want to treat it as thrush, and make sure the babies are both treated as well so that you don't pass things back and forth. If it's not thrush, well, it could be bacterial infection, an allergic reaction to something you are coming in contact with, chafing from the babies' latch, or perhaps eczema. I think this is a wait and see situation!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:32 PM
    I've never heard of anything like this being associated with weaning. If you really feel like it is a problem, I think I would see the doctor. Make sure you get a test for thyroid function, since thyroid disfunction is really common in postpartum, and mental status changes are one of the many things an off thyroid can cause.
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  • @llli*apple963's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:29 PM
    I do notice some blanching but no increased pain with it. I read about vasospasms and it seemed there was an increase in pain wihen one happened. I just seem to have the same level of tenderness all the time. No obvious signs of yeast either. Wouldn't yeast at least show in baby after 7 months? I'm totally puzzled.
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  • @llli*skyanne's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:54 PM
    That's good to know. :) I tried to wake her up to feed before I went to the store today so I pinched my nipple a few times to draw some milk out and convince her to eat and suddenly I started gushing everywhere! I'm not sure how I didn't notice it before. This whole time I thought I had another reflux baby, now I'm thinking this might be the whole problem. :)
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  • @llli*mamawin's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:34 PM
    YES!! Juice is also a pet peeve of mine. Both DH and his parents still believe it's really healthy and are always offering it to my DS who of course says yes. Who wouldn't want a big glass of sugar water. It's frustrating.
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  • @llli*addy.smommy10's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:14 PM
    Thank you for all your advice and time. I really greatly appreciate everything.
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:09 PM
    So glad the panic is over and it's a good reminder about the need for proper scales! :)
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:57 PM
    I'm not sure that lead would pass through breastmilk... It's given me something to research! Are her lead issues a cause for concern? As for whether to wean I think only you know that, but if you do decide to wean it's best to do it gradually and not stop abruptly for many reasons!
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  • @llli*atvtk's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:48 PM
    Thank you so much for your reply, I really appreciated it. I know I need to calm down as I'm weary of upsetting my baby. My partner has been very supportive with everything which has been a help. It's just so upsetting to see her pull off and cry whenever I try to feed her. other than the feeding issues, I feel absolutely fine. Not on any hormonal contraception so that's not the issue. I will keep going and see how things go on weigh day. Thank you.
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