Today, 11:36 AM
Let me first begin by saying that I am so happy that we have made it this far with our breastfeeding relationship! We had lots of struggles in the beginning with terrible latch, tongue-tie issues, crazy supply fluctuations, refusal to take a bottle for a long while (at the babysitter), etc, etc, but we managed and as of now my baby is still nursing a few times a day/night.
My problem is this: Throughout my breastfeeding duration, my libido has been very, very low. Normally I'm blessed with a high desire almost all the time and this made me happy. Now, though, while I'm nursing I often feel stressed out about not being in the mood... Only on very rare occasions have I felt a spark.
My doctor assured me that I am normal and this is totally normal for a nursing mother. It's the body's natural way of preventing fertility and all that, which I understand. However, breastfeeding is still touted as the #1 way of nourishing one's baby in a physical and emotional way. And when they discuss breastfeeding and all its amazing benefits, they rarely mention this downside, which is affecting me in a great way.
But how does one reconcile that with the drawback of a very low libido? If this is a common enough problem, how does everyone do it? Do they just take an intimacy vacation for as long as they are breastfeeding... even 2-3 years?
Does it get better if one is only nursing 1-2 times a day? As of now my son nurses a few times by day (small, snacky feedings) and 3 decent...