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  • @llli*babymm's Avatar
    Today, 12:39 PM
    I have a history of depression and anxiety. Most of the women on my mother's side have it. I had been taking medication for about 4 years and stopped when I got pregnant. I surprisingly felt pretty good throughout my pregnancy and postpartum until a few weeks ago. I can feel the depression coming back and I decided to try therapy instead of medication because I don't want to stop breastfeeding. I think not breastfeeding my baby would be more damaging to my mental health. I have an appointment with the therapist in about 2 weeks. I know there are some antidepressant medications that are considered safe while breastfeeding including the one I used to take. My question is, does anyone have any experience with taking these medications while breastfeeding? I am wondering in case things get too bad and therapy isn't enough. I'd like to know what the other options are and possible side effects for my baby. I don't want to do anything to harm her and I'd like to know more about it from a mother's perspective to decide if that is even an option I would be willing to consider. Also, my depression symptoms are not horrible right now. I have no feelings of harming myself or others. It is mostly just feeling down and being unable to go to sleep and having trouble enjoying anything. I exercise every day and eat very healthy and unfortunately that has not been enough to help with the depression.
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  • @llli*soap.mom's Avatar
    Today, 02:03 PM
    Hi there everyone! This will be my first post...I am so glad to have found this forum :) I am a first time mom and my guy is now 5 weeks old. When we got home from the hospital, I just assumed I was supposed to pump as well as breastfeed him. Rather quickly I began dealing with engorgement and tapered off the pumping. I don't pump very much at all now - maybe 2-3 oz every couple days just in case (for freezer). Problem is, just about every time I go to feed him, he pops off and milk goes shooting (I feel terrible when it gets him in the face). I try using a cloth to catch it and apply a little pressure and eventually it will slow down, but it doesn't always stop flowing. Sometimes he'll cough or seem like he's choking. He also gulps a lot and seems to always have gas issues. By the end of feeding, I usually have milk all over the place :( I also leak a lot. Anytime I feel the letdown, I leak from both sides. So, I have at least two questions. How can I help making the feeding process easier on him? Will I ever stop leaking and/or are there ways to help curb the leaking?
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  • @llli*marjon.carlo-arce's Avatar
    Today, 03:54 PM
    I am regretting that I stopped nursing my baby and want to relactate. I was having flow issues since I went back to work and my breast milk was going away. Since my flow was getting less and less, my daughter was no longer wanting to nurse. I do not think it helped that she started to prefer the bottle that she was getting while I was at work. It's been about 3 weeks and my milk has dried up since I stopped attempting to nurse. I am regretting it and would really like to get my flow back. I purchased the Medela SNS system, however my daughter refuses to latch on and just cries when I bring my breast to her. She will occasionally comfort nurse, but will stop after about a minute or so. I am not sure if I can bring back my flow with just a breast pump? I purchased some Fenugreek, mothers milk tea and lactation drops. I would like to know if anyone has had any success with just using a pump to bring back their milk or if anyone had any suggestions? Thank you so much!
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  • @llli*banta-mantra's Avatar
    Today, 04:40 PM
    Is anyone available to jump on over to the sleep or lack of it forum to check out my post, please? Thanks!!
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  • @llli*chivislh's Avatar
    Today, 12:34 PM
    Creo que mi bebe olvidó como mamar, o no se que pasa, nunca me habían salido grietas. No se si es porque lo estoy tratando de destetar, solo le doy cuando llego del trabajo y en la noche antes de dormir, a lo mejor, el vio la baja de producción o no se que, no quiere soltarme por la noche, y además me lastima. Pensaba darle hasta que el dejara solito, pero con estas grietas pienso que a lo mejor será parar, solo que no se como, tampoco quiero que sufra mi bebe.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 06:46 PM
    If you have managed to raise teenage daughters who will follow your directions without arguing or thinking they know better than you, I feel silly offering advice to you as you are clearly an awesome mom! Sorry about having to talk to male bosses. There are several good resources out there with suggestions about how to talk to employers about the need for pump breaks. Maybe if you have something printed out in hand it will feel less awkward. The simpler and more direct your communication can be the easier it will probably be for you. There is probably not any need to get into much detail about the whys of pumping unless they question the plan that you are requesting. Which hopefully they will not do. If they do having a printed list of the importance of adequate pumping time and place might help. If you can't find information like this searching on your own let us know and we can provide some links it might help to know what state or Country you're in. Remember you can hand baby over to someone else in order to give yourself a break without also handing a bottle. Baby will be fine for a few hours without nursing or a bottle and whoever has baby can comfort them another way.
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  • @llli*measure.thesun's Avatar
    Today, 06:21 PM
    Thank you so much for both of your responses. I had some problems logging on, otherwise I would have responded sooner. I would rather stop the formula altogether, just because it does seem silly. Usually what leads up to it is that in the evening, he'll nurse one both sides and one of them twice and by then I'm frazzled because this is after I've nursed all day. Last time, we prepared 2 ounces and he didn't even finish one before falling asleep. This is a common scenario. I think it's just an emotional thing on my part. My pump is a medela pump in style and I'm not sure yet how pumping will go at work yet. Unfortunately, my local HR woman quit and we are HQ'd in another state. She assured me that my boss and his boss will cooperate and give me time and space but they are men and I feel so awkward talking about this topic with them. I'm going up there next week with the baby, so I'm going to try to bring it up. Luckily my teenage daughters will be watching the baby during the summer, so my feeding instructions will be followed without any argument or thinking they know better. And, no I do not have any pumped milk saved up. Every time I pump (about every other day), I end up using those ounces for an "I need a break" feeding. I'm very nervous about how I'm going to make this work as far as pumping enough. I'm going to check out those videos. Thanks again for the advice and encouragement. My attitude during breastfeeding improved immeasurably since reading the...
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 04:27 PM
    :ita Here are some pictures of reclined nursing positions to give you ideas, play around with them to see what is comfortable: https://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/01_laid_back_breastfeeding.pdf http://www.nancymohrbacher.com/blog/2010/10/11/some-ins-and-outs-of-laid-back-breastfeeding.html For the record, my LO is three and I still leak sometimes. Another mom on this forum put it in perspective: leaking is actually GOOD because it helps prevent engorgement. In earlier days I used to wear not one nursing pad but two. Including at night. And I slept on a towel for a long time. The spraying-like-a-hose thing definitely gets better! And baby gets much more adept at dealing with the fast flow as he gets older, so the choking/gagging gets better too.
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  • @llli*dracaena828's Avatar
    Today, 03:43 PM
    Thanks for the replies. I realized soon after posting this that I shouldn't take any supplements because we didn't know my son's liver function at the time and I was paranoid about adding any extra work to his little liver (he has hepatoblastoma, don't think I mentioned that). They were able to successfully remove the tumor, and we start chemo in a few weeks. I am so grateful that I hadn't weaned him completely. My milk supply is back to normal, and nursing has already helped him get through his tumor resection surgery recovery. He is just starting to eat solids again, and I'm sure that will stop again when he starts his chemo. It was such a comfort for both of us being able to nurse after his surgery, and I know it will help during chemo as well. Thanks again for the advice :-)
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 03:09 PM
    Okay it sounds like you guys are doing better and great the Bilis are so much lower. My best advice at this point would be to see if baby will nurse even more frequently. A minimum of 12 times every 24 hours is what I would suggest aiming for. My other suggestion would be to see a board-certified lactation consultant just to have breast-feeding assessed if that is all possible – to make sure baby is nursing as efficiently as baby should.
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  • @llli*reena's Avatar
    Today, 02:42 PM
    I too would like to know what weight gain looks like after 12 months. Anybody have a link?...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 02:23 PM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! I'm sorry you fell down the pumping rabbit hole- so many moms get told "Pump whenever you nurse" and it's terrible advice! The way to make feeding easier for your baby is to be patient and keep nursing on demand and avoiding the pump. That will help your supply throttle back so that it's just what your baby needs, without a lot of extra to cause fast letdowns and gas and leaking. When you're nursing, experiment with reclined positions; they use gravity to slow milk flow to the baby. The leaking should subside with time. One way to stop leaking is to put pressure on the nipple when you feel leaking start- sometimes that will stop the flow. But the best way to get leaking to taper down is to nurse on demand and be patient!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 02:19 PM
    That is so awesome! Fingers crossed that things continue to go well! :fingers
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  • @llli*perannie's Avatar
    Today, 01:52 PM
    Bilirubin is down from where it was!! It was up to 17 then came down to 16.something and now it is 12!! She nurses good I think!! She nurses at least every 2-3 hours! Her weight has been on the same scale at pediatricians office! Nude, and no conversions needed! She generally has a dirty diaper with every feed! Not always a lot but at least a squirt!!
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  • @llli*elandlanes.mommy's Avatar
    Today, 01:43 PM
    Also, he's 10 days old today.
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  • @llli*elandlanes.mommy's Avatar
    Today, 01:42 PM
    The scale came in.. It read him at 6lbs 14.5 oz. So, I guess I start with that weight and go from there. Maybe weigh him at this time every day???
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:27 PM
    It is safe to take most anti-depressents when nursing, just as it is generaly safe to take any needed medication when nursing. Every medication has potential side effects. Whenever we decide to take a medication (or doctor prescribes it) the potential for harm from the medication is weighed against the good it will do. Unfortunately, for too long, instead of doing this when a mom was nursing, people have just said "Wean or don't take the medicine" Without looking at the potential harm of 1) mom not taking a medication she needs or 2) the proven harmful effects of baby not nursing. This has left moms with the terrible choice of either not nursing or not taking a medication that will help them. This is wrong, and it is REALLY bad medical practice to do this to mothers. Luckily there is now lots of information out there about most commonly prescribed meds and moms can make an informed choice. I have had three kids, all C-sections. During breastfeeding I have had to take prescription narcotic painkillers, prescription strength non-narcotic pain killers, anti- anxiety medication, prevacid (Chronic GERD), and anti-biotics on several occasions, and I am sure a few things I have forgotten. I always nursed and never even considered not doing so due to taking these meds. There is not a doubt in my mind that taking these meds-including the anti-anxiety med- while continuing to nurse, was 100% the right choice,.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:11 PM
    Ok, I understand why you are frustrated But the check shows baby IS gaining, and that is good. What about those bilirubin levels- are those up or down? Is any treatment being suggested? IS baby showing symptoms of jaundice like overt sleepiness or unwillingness/inability to nurse effectively? Weight checks- Same scale? Baby naked or in dry diaper? Measurements done with care? Any unit conversions done that may have been done incorrectly? Baby make a giant poop prior to 2nd check etc. can cause measurements to be 'off.' The closer together weight checks are, the more likely they will be somewhat inaccurate due to these kinds of factors. That is not to say don't weight baby weekly if that is what you and doctor want, just be aware that close together weight checks have this problem. How many times a day is baby pooping and what does it look like? As far as I am aware, spit up is not a foreteller of adequate intake one way or another. If your baby requires supplements, (Feedings not at the breast) then the first choice (if possible) would be your own expressed milk. But this would be AS WELL as normal nursing frequency, not INSTEAD OF. Same with formula supplements should it be they are needed.
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 01:09 PM
    Hi mama, I'm glad to hear that you are getting help for this. I haven't personally taken anti-depressants while breastfeeding but there are definitely others who have posted on here who have, hopefully some of them will jump in with their experiences. In the meantime, I just wanted to link to a page that has a lot of good resources for asking about medication safety with breastfeeding, including phone numbers for places in the U.S., Canada and UK: http://kellymom.com/bf/can-i-breastfeed/illness-surgery/med-risks/ Hope you start feeling better soon. :hug
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 01:04 PM
    I think another factor for many moms is that many babies can start tolerating cow's milk at a year. Of course, some babies are sensitive or outright allergic to cow's milk, and some families choose not to drink cow's milk, but it does increase the options for many moms and babies in terms of what to give baby during the day. Also, some babies increase their solids intake at around that time, though of course that is also variable, and certainly was very different between my three kids. Personally I view "around a year" (and that might mean at a year, or a year and a half, or even later, for different moms/babies) as a reasonable compromise - pumping at work for me, personally, was really rather difficult logistically, and again, for me personally, pump weaning has not compromised my ongoing ability to nurse. Overall I do think it's important to consider that this will differ from mother to mother and baby to baby, and I do think it's important to consider the various factors like feelings about cow's milk/ability of baby to drink cow's milk, baby's solids intake, mother's ability to maintain supply with fewer times of removing milk, etc. In short, it is not a black and white matter and will differ in each case, but I do think there is often more flexibility after a year and for many working moms it is a relief to know that. I mean, this is real life, it's not science or evidence but people making different choices and sharing their experiences, and I don't see anywhere on...
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Today, 12:34 PM
    Mine is toying with getting rid of her nap. She does get tired and cranky in the evening when she doesn't nap, I guess one solution to that would be to put her to bed earlier, but that's hard in our household because now all the kids go to bed at the same time, so it would be hard to get her to go to bed before the others. In your case though, maybe it's just not worth the struggle? ie, maybe give her 20 minutes to get to sleep, and if she doesn't, you do an earlier bedtime that night? We also go through days where it literally takes an hour to get to sleep at naptime, and I almost feel like it's not worth spending an hour to get her to go to sleep in order to get that golden hour of napping time. In your case, there may be some negotiation with your husband as to when exactly his child-watching duties start, but eventually you will likely get to that point anyway.
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  • @llli*perannie's Avatar
    Today, 10:59 AM
    Update: at day 17 she was 7lbs 2oz, today at 24 days she is 7lbs 6.6oz! Bilirubin was 12!! I'm thinking my supply did go down a lil due to sickness, but as much as she nurses and sometimes spits up, I would have thought it would have been a better gain!! I thought about pumping and bottle feeding her the breast milk but not really wanting to have to pump!! So much easier to nurse!! I'm lost!!! I have to go for another weight check next week!! I pray it will be better!!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:24 AM
    I am sorry to be the naysayer here, but I am aware of no evidence that it is always 'safe' for a mom to entirely stop pumping during regular long separations (such as for workdays) at a year or any other particular age. I think this depends tremendously on the individual mother, child, and situation. Reducing the amount of times milk is removed from the breasts acts to reduce milk production, and (in some cases) might also lead to uncomfortable overfullness or worse, no matter what age the child is. Whether milk production reducing is a problem or not will be very individual and depends on how often the child nurses otherwise, how much the child is relying on breastmilk for their overall nutrition, and what the moms typical milk production and breast storage capacity is, and what mom's goal is as far as breastfeeding longevity. As far as I can tell, the idea that moms can pump wean at 12 months is based on 1) the desire of moms to stop pumping at some point, which I very much understand and 2) the idea that children no longer "need' breastmilk or to breastfeed after one year, so if breastfeeding is in any way compromised by the lower frequency of milk removal, it is not a big deal. This is different than the idea that pump weaning will have no effect on anything at this age. If there is science or evidence (aside from anecdotal) to suggest that I am incorrect and milk production, breast health, and consequently breastfeeding longevity is never affected by pump weaning at...
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