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  • @llli*pepper19's Avatar
    Today, 06:35 AM
    Hi everyone, My 11 month old baby girl is refusing to drink from the breast and any type of bottle, cup, sippy cup. Firstly, she isn't sick or teething! We've had two weeks of it to observe her and it's definitely neither of those. I've been exclusively breastfeeding since birth, but the other night, she bit my nipple quite hard during a feed and (so very regrettably) I reacted badly, yelling out at her. This scared her and ever since, she hasn't gone back to the boob. She even begins to cry as soon as she can see me getting my breast out. So I've tried EVERYTHING to get her back on the boob. Bathing with her, playing with my breasts out, dreamfeeding, leaving it for a few days so she doesn't feel pressured... I'm certain now that she is never going back, so I'm now focusing on getting her to drink by other means. I'm still expressing milk, but she is barely drinking any of it and neither water or diluted juice or anything. She isn't used to bottles or cups, but she's not even trying to work them out, she just cries and pushes them away when I offer. I've tried a real no-pressure approach by just leaving a sippy cup in her play area or on her tray table during meals, and she plays with it a little but that's about it. I've tried all the different types of sippy cups including free flowing and straw cups. She has drunk from my water glass before but only occasionally. She just seems to be refusing for the sake of refusing. Sometimes she'll let me give her milk through a...
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  • @llli*jessicanewmom's Avatar
    Today, 01:26 PM
    When I lay down next to my 10 m.o. to nurse her to sleep she often spends 20 minutes or so happily flinging herself around the bed. She babbles and rolls and twists and tries to engage me in smiling, etc. She stops by for a quick drink and goes back to her flinging. I usually try to pretend I'm asleep. Eventually she tires herself out and nurses to sleep. So, do I just need to wait longer to try to nurse her down? Or is this just another roll-with-it quirk of nursing a baby who's no longer an infant? Or is this a nip-it-in-the-bud behavior like pinching? It's not a big problem (in fact it's kind of cute when I'm not in a rush), but it does add quite a bit of time to our already pretty elaborate bedtime ritual. On nights when I do wait until she's really tired before nursing her down she doesn't do this, but then we seem to have an hour of crankiness instead.
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  • @llli*emt9514's Avatar
    Today, 05:52 PM
    Hi, I am going back to work in a few weeks and want to start freezing my breast milk to make sure my little one will have enough throughout the day. However, I am not sure exactly how to begin pumping and at the same time continue to breast feed. Should I feed him first and then pump right after? Should I pump in between feedings? Any advice would be helpful as I am a first time mom!
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  • @llli*stw's Avatar
    Today, 09:55 PM
    I am nursing my second son, age 22 months. His older brother nursed to nearly 28 and we weaned slowly and peacefully in my first trimester with his brother. I struggled with night nursing my first as a toddler - basically when milk did not put him to sleep within 15-20 min, I would become increasingly frustrated, especially in the middle of the night. With my second, his night waking is less frequent and of shorter duration, but I am struggling more and more with nursing this one, at night and at bedtime. I have discovered this time around that I am especially sensitive and irritable during ovulation and menstruation, and am taking evening primrose oil to help with physical symptoms of discomfort. But my real struggle is the intense negative emotions I am having. When we nurse in the day, surrounded by plenty of distractions, I am fine. However, I work full time, so we don't nurse often during the day - we are basically down to a bedtime nurse, once or twice in the night, and waking up in the morning, plus a naptime feed on weekends - all the feedings I hate the most, b/c I am trying to use milk to put him to sleep/need sleep myself. Sometimes in the night, I will get up and watch TV to distract myself, b/c I cannot bear to lie there in the dark with nothing to think about than how much I hate the nursing. I feel intense feelings of anger and feelings that I am trapped there nursing him, and I start to get extremely resentful and anxious. After a time when he starts to...
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 08:08 PM
    I think, always feed the baby first! And while you're pumping, if baby wakes up and is hungry again, just pause the pump and nurse the baby. How many weeks until you return?
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 05:33 PM
    here is one video with some of them but not all http://youtu.be/0BgGWNp0-GA for the clamping, I think having my little guy chomp on my fingers helped strengthen the jaw and reduce the fatigue that can lead to clamping down.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 05:32 PM
    I think this is normal, at least, very common. My three all did this. I think how you are handling it is fine. Maybe some of the bedtime routine can get moved to the bed, for example, books or lullabies or prayers or whatever while baby is flinging herself around? When mine did this, I never worried that I needed to handle it the same every time. how I handled it depended on how I was feeling and/or whether or not I was in some kind of time crunch. Sometimes, I would just play along until baby settled. or Sing lullabies or read a book in bed. or pretend to sleep myself or give up and bring baby to my husband to be walked down for a while or give up and go do something else with baby until she or he settled down more One thing I found very effective but which I only pulled out for emergencies was to hold baby close and tightly to me, but (usually) with baby's back to me, facing AWAY from me. Baby would cry a bit and struggle, (this is why I had them face away from me) but I would calmly say it was time to sleep, speak soothingly, sing, whatever. The usual result is baby would struggle for a bit and then want to turn around and nurse.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 05:13 PM
    Ok it sounds like you have a good handle on what is going on and that things are improving. Great! The paced feeding video is a great 'how to' -I also suggest talking to your MIL about the 'why to' information so your MIL can have an understanding on why this is important. Your pumping output per pump session and your pump frequency sounds good to me. It certainly can be very challenging to pump at work. I suggest, maybe try to anticipate your baby's cues? A hungry baby will have a harder time latching than one who is calmer. Look over that kellymom article- it has many good ideas.
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  • @llli*sarag's Avatar
    Today, 02:57 PM
    I think its definitely a possibility that she is being over fed. My mother in law who is watching her says she acts like she is still hungry after 2-2.5 oz. I'm sure this has to do with the way she is feeding. She thought that it was good to burp after evey oz just for her comfort, if that's not a good thing I will definitely let her know. I'm going to show her the video on paced feeding, so I really hooe this will help. She does use a pacifier often even when I am home. She wants it usually when she is fussy sitting in the swing by herself or when I put her in the car seat (she hates being in it). I don't give it to her when she sleeps unless she keep waking up every few minutes. This I think is because of gas. She has also been pretty gassy and uncomfortable the past few weeks. I tried cutting out dairy but it didn't seem to improve. She often spits up but swallows it, sometimes a long while after feeding. Is this possibly reflux? I also just noticed today a small whiteish/yellow bump on the inside ridge of her gums. I rubbed it and it didn't seem hard but it didn't pop like there's anything in it either. As far as pumping goes I think its pretty good. I get to pump at least 2 times while I'm gone, but I try for 3. My work schedule is hard to work around because I'm a dental assistant so different things take longer than others and sometimes I get stuck. I still get at least 1.5-2.5oz from each breast every time I pump(about every 2 1/2 to 3 1/2hrs). My pediatrician...
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  • @llli*hkwm0714's Avatar
    Today, 02:11 PM
    Do you know of any websites with the exercises like the ST showed you?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 02:00 PM
    Hi I'm really sorry nursing strikes like this can be so very difficult and frustrating. First I would suggest don't believe in your head that she is never going to nurse again. She may not or she may but there is certainly been nursing strike that it lasted far longer than two weeks and eventually the baby went back to nursing. No reason to not offer on a gentle basis whenever you like or the time feels right. I'm sure you've already been suggested to offer when baby is falling asleep, just waking, or sleeping. Also I'm sure you've already read the Kelly mom.com article help my baby won't nurse. Just remember what did not work yesterday or last week may work today. As far as drinking, I can't imagine a child would refuse to drink just for the sake of refusing. Thirst is an incredibly strong motivator. I can only guess that your child is simply not as thirsty as you think she should be. What did the doctors say about the situation, I'm sure you have a list of the signs of dehydration. There are signs of mild to moderate to severe dehydration to watch out for. Severe dehydration does not happen until the mild and moderate has occurred so if you're watching your baby closely you should be able to tell if she is getting to the point where you're going to have to bring her in to the doctor or hospital for treatment for dehydration. I do not know if there are any illnesses or conditions that would cause a child to refuse to drink to the point that they became dangerously...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:44 AM
    also: Why is this being done? This suspiciously sounds like a technique for getting as much milk into a baby at one feeding as possible. This is NOT what you want to have happening. If baby needs to burp, that will be clear. If baby is being given bottles with appropriate pauses, insisting baby burp at all is probably not needed. As far as burping "every ounce" it just does not even make sense. Why every one ounce? (why not a half ounce? Why not two ounces) and why always? Even if the burping is working well for baby- the ounce per ounce things may indicate caregiver is looking at how much baby is drinking rather than following babies cues for how much baby wishes to drink, which will normally fluctuate meal to meal. Hopefully the links above explain paced bottle feeding well. Kellymom has more info too I believe. It can seem very odd to someone who is used to bottle feeding the 'old' way or who has been told to feed in such a way as to never let any air into the bottle.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:33 AM
    Sorry- just saw your other post. If you think fast letdown is part of what is going on, have you tried laid back positioning? http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/01_laid_back_breastfeeding.pdf and http://www.nancymohrbacher.com/ Encouraging frequent nursing also helps reduce the flow. If baby is sucking her hands, or cueing in any way, or you just feel like nursing, never any harm in offering to nurse.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:30 AM
    How frustrating! This is not an uncommon situation, and there are many things to try to turn this around. Since this started after your return to work, it is likely, but not 100% certain, it is due to the introduction of regular bottles. First, I would suggest making sure that your baby is not being overfed while you are at work. If baby is getting more than 1 to 1.5 ounces per hour of separation, it is possible baby is being overfed. A Baby who is being overfed with bottles will often stop being enthusiastic about nursing. As pp suggests, make sure baby is being cue fed using paced bottle feeding positioning and pauses. This is VITAL, as it allows baby to control the feeding just as baby does at the breast. It is your best bet when trying to prevent the overfeeding and/or "flow confusion" that leads to breast refusal. If it is not happening, make sure it starts happening. Is anything else happening that might interfere with your baby's desire to nurse? Pacifier use, sleep training, and meal scheduling are other things that can inadvertently "train" a baby away from nursing. A 2 month old will typically nurse frequently for both food and comfort, and this is behavior that is best encouraged while baby is with you. Pacifier use may be ok while you are at work, but it also may be helpful to suggest other methods of comforting baby to your baby's caregiver.
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  • @llli*sarag's Avatar
    Today, 10:08 AM
    The only thing that is being done now is burping her after every ounce. How should I explain paced feeding to them? I don't think it is my supply being low though, I think I may have a fast let down because sometimes she will choke or click while sucking. That often upsets her further. I think she is mostly used to it now but could I still have a low supply with a fast let down? She eats about every 2-3hrs during the day and at night she has been doing aboit every 4hrs. She recently started sucking on her hands. I think she is doing it because she's hungry but I know its possible she's only doing it because she found them.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 08:45 AM
    It is so odd to me to deal with DS only nursing for a very short time now when he is wide awake. When he wants to nap he will still often latch on and comfort nurse/sleep for a long time. But when not sleepy... Sometimes I'm lucky to get 4 minutes of nursing out of him.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 08:24 AM
    use paced bottle feeding to give bottles so baby learns to work a little harder for it. You might try using a lactation aid or SNS at the breast if you are able to get baby to latch as this will give a more immediate flow of milk. Perhaps expressing a little or dripping some milk on your nipple when getting baby to latch would help give the Idea where milk comes from.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 08:16 AM
    are bottles being given in a breastfeeding supportive manner. As in paced bottle feeding? I found that using the breastflow or lanisnoh mOmma nipples (slowest flow possible, and those also are the best shape for us to keep as deep/wide a latch as possible) and actually taking bottle out of my LO's mouth every several sucks so that he would have to reach for it and latch back on if he wanted more helped me break my lo of his bottle habit. I also had to go to some effort to bring my supply up too.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 07:10 AM
    Here is a resource you might find useful for tracking progress on growth charts. https://iotacharts.com/en/public/info As Mommal says, it is not uncommon to waver on the charts. Going from 10 centile to 5 centile is not "panic" time (My LO has been bouncing back and forth between those two for a while now.) But I agree that offering to nurse more (and nursing before solid meals) may help keep the weight up and provide those extra calories for her increased mobility. My LO used to nurse for a LONG time and he still will when sleepy but when he is wide awake and distracted, I'm usually able to nurse for between 6-12 minutes and that is switching sides several times. My LO is only 6 months old but developmentally acting a little more like an 8 month old so I'm having trouble keeping up!!! (being advanced is not all good.)
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  • @llli*ellie3007's Avatar
    Today, 06:39 AM
    Thank you so much!!!! Im already part of the facebook page milky mamas so ill def check out their meetings! Thanks again!
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 05:14 AM
    (Sorry, posted twice and don't know how to fully delete.)
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Today, 05:13 AM
    Although I can't get much further in the website due to language, this birthing center seems to have many IBCLCs on staff: http://mamasbirthcenter.tistory.com/m/post/5 Again, I am not sure if this is near you, if this is up to date info, or if they offer lactation consultant services, but it's worth checking out. There is also a Korean Lactation Consultant Association; their website is: Klca.co.kr
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