Yesterday, 06:32 AM
Hang in there, mama!
I know it's particularly hard when you need sympathy from your friends/family and their response to "I haven't been getting much sleep" is "Here are the things you need to change in the way you parent in order to fix your life, and you'd better do them because what you are doing is wrong and will make things worse". I think that when you are in a situation in which your people aren't giving back what you need to hear, you do better if you tailor your message to them. What I mean is, don't waste your breath seeking support or sympathy or even empathy from people who can't or won't give it. Don't talk about sleep issues with hardcore sleep training advocates, because their only advice will be to start sleep training. Don't talk breastfeeding issues with people who think formula is the greatest, because all you will get from them is a recommendation to try some formula. If someone asks you about your baby's sleep, go with "Oh, he's sleeping well- for a baby. But you know what really interests me right now?" That way you can switch topics to something where your friends/family can give back, instead of needlessly hurting your feelings or undermining your convictions about how you want to parent.
FTR, both my kids woke frequently at 4 months and I nursed them back to sleep every time. DD1 was a terrible sleeper until around 10 months, DD2 was much better- probably because I was a more relaxed mom and didn't care so much about wake-ups or...