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  • @llli*janad's Avatar
    Today, 09:14 PM
    My son was born 3 days ago, and we're braving this breastfeeding journey. I have a daughter who I briefly breastfed 5 years ago, but it was too brief for me to really have learned anything. Anyway, my milk has come in, but my babe is only nursing 15-20 minutes at a time, so I don't know if he empties my breast or not, and if I should be switching sides at the next feeding. Also, the nurse mentioned wearing a bra all of the time. I haven't picked up a nursing bra yet because I never wear a bra around the house and have a wireless bra that worked well before for when I go out in public. Is it necessary to wear one constantly?
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  • @llli*saramama89's Avatar
    Today, 07:47 PM
    I am curious what the signs of actual nipple confusion or nipple preference are. We have given my breastfeeding 4-week old baby a pacifier and a bottle of pumped milk probably 4-5 times each over the last two weeks. Sometimes it will seem like she is fussy and hungry but will have problems finding the breast and quickly take it in and spit it back out again, though eventually she will cry herself out and calm down and have a feed later. The rest of the time she does seem to breastfeed fine and well, 10+ times a day. Could this be a sign of nipple confusion, that she is not liking the shape of the breast or not getting milk out fast enough? Or is this normal fussy baby behavior? Just wondering if I should worry or not. Thank you so much! I really appreciate all the help from these forums here!
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  • @llli*soblessed's Avatar
    Today, 03:17 PM
    So do any other ftm feel like they are on a coaster? I do every friday since im off and get to spend the whole day with my 9wk old. Ill notice things and think oh has he been doing that this whole week? Or oh! Thats different then last week. I think im always on overdrive on fridays. Hah!
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  • @llli*jenna8's Avatar
    Today, 02:12 PM
    My daughter is 10 weeks old and I have only a partial supply. :( I successfully nursed our first 2 children exclusively, so this is a new problem. I have been having to supplement with formula since the beginning. I've done everything, pump like crazy + nurse around the clock, fenugreek, blessed thistle, marshmallow root, thyroid check (normal on replacement), chiropractic for my back pain. My daughter's clavicle was fractured during birth and she has a suspected sternocleidomastoid muscle injury that seems healed, but it definitely affected her sucking reflex. She seems just now "normal" in sucking ability, so that's likely why our supply is in the toilet, even though I've done everything under the sun to increase my supply. At the advice of several lactation consultants, I started domperidone. It seems like my last-ditch effort to normalize this breastfeeding relationship. I love nursing and I don't want things to be this way :cry I'm grateful for every drop of milk we have, but having successfully breastfed two other kiddos for over a year apiece, I'm bummed about this. My issue is this: I've been on domperidone for a week with no results. I do understand that it can take some time. I want to hear your experiences! Hoping for some encouragement.
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  • @llli*lan3's Avatar
    Today, 06:41 PM
    Hello! I have been reading forum posts for several months now and have found them to be very helpful. I am now in need of some advice. Fortunately I have the opportunity to change my work hours to be at home more with my six month old son. One of the downsides is my shift (I work at a Children's hospital) will be from noon-midnight three days a week. My son and I have been quite successful with breastfeeding and he takes a bottle well from other caregivers (dad, grandma and two days of daycare). Recently his sleep patterns have regressed a bit. He goes to sleep easily around 7pm and typically wakes up again around 10/11pm then again 1/2am and again 4/5am and wakes for the day between 7/8am. Prior to this pattern he was only waking once a night sometimes two. My concern and where I am seeking your advice is what to do about the 10/11pm feeding while I am at work....one I am not sure this is a needed feed and perhaps more of a comfort feed two I am not sure how much to leave in a bottle for my husband if my son decides to wake at that time and insists on eating. We recently introduced solids (just a couple weeks ago) he eats his serving of solids about an hour or two before bed and then nurses before going to sleep. Is this my window to drop one of these night feedings? Will he likely do it on his own since my husband will be there and not me?? Any advice would be much appreciated! Thank you!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:43 PM
    Do you feel pressured to wean due to the lead levels or some other reason? Lead exposure concerns aside, which I do not have the expertise to address, I would suggest there is no reason to wean a child earlier than you and your child wish, and lots of reasons to nurse as long as you like. To put it another way, I have yet to meet a mom of a weaned child who wished she had weaned her child earlier then she did, but plenty who wish they had not caved to pressure to wean earlier than they would have preferred.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:37 PM
    That movie ruined big old hotels for me forever!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 10:35 PM
    :ita and I have to laugh about the bra part. Most new moms I know spend the first several weeks basically topless while at home because newborns like to nurse so often. Bras and even shirts just get in the way! Of course some moms do like to wear a bra for their own comfort. And of course moms who do wear bras often like to eventually get special nursing bras or some other type of easily manipulated bra (like a not too tight sports bra for example) as they provide a way for easier access for baby when nursing out of the home. But this is very individual and not an emergency must have item in any case. This is a nice article that covers some of the typical concerns for the early weeks. And please feel welcome to ask as many questions as you like here. http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/newborn-nursing/
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  • @llli*ehoneybee's Avatar
    Today, 09:44 PM
    Thank you, and I love the "here's Jonny" reference (shudder). :)
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 09:35 PM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! It's great that you've gotten through the first few days of nursing, and so smart that you're asking questions. So many moms are afraid to reach out! Excellent! That's a totally normal length of time for a baby to nurse. The length of a feeding varies widely. Some babies get all they need in 5-10 minutes, others take closer to an hour. We often say "watch the baby, not the clock", because the clock doesn't tell you what you need to know.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 09:06 PM
    Hi congratulations on your new baby. The behavior you describe sounds entirely normal for a month old baby. I think it can be a little confusing to understand what nipple confusion means. Nipple confusion might mean that the baby begins nursing incorrectly causing pain for mom. It can also mean the baby gets unhappy with the flow of milk at the breast. It can also mean that baby begins to refuse the breast. The kind of nipple confusion that causes breast refusal usually happens after bottles and pacifiers have been used for a longer period of time or have been used to much - either too often or for too long a period. In other words it could be many weeks or even months before it becomes obvious that baby is beginning to reject the breast in favor of the bottle. What can cause problems in the more immediate time frame especially in the early weeks is when a bottle or pacifier prevents frequent enough feeding for various reasons-this can possibly cause problems for the mom with engorgement, or plugs or even with problems with milk production, they can also cause the breast to be very full so baby has a hard time latching etc.
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  • @llli*littlecavemomma's Avatar
    Today, 03:42 PM
    Filmommy - You're absolutely right. Those making the rules have no clue. Maddieb - You have some good points I hadn't thought of. I know it wasn't a pumping mother who complained about lack of privacy or anything like that. If I had to guess, they're concerned about dilly dallying. Truth is that room smells and is 105 degrees - we don't want to be in there any longer than necessary. The liability concern is an interesting thought - I wonder if there is some lawyer language in the law that specifically requires privacy? I'll look into it. Mamawin - I'm the highest level to have a baby while working. :/ And we have no female execs. Our HR are all women, but I don't know that any of them know anything about BF'ing or pumping. I think I'm just going to go in and play ignorant. When/If they say something, innocently ask why. And if their reason isn't valid (like a requirement of the law), I'll try to politely explain how difficult it will be for us all to schedule around each other while still making the most out of our work day. The operative word in that plan is "try." Thanks for all your thoughts ladies!
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  • @llli*mamawin's Avatar
    Today, 03:06 PM
    Is there a female executive you could enlist to help you? A friend of mine faced some similar crap from HR and she got the company's CFO involved and, lo and behold, HR found a way to modify their rules.
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  • @llli*apple963's Avatar
    Today, 01:58 PM
    Thank you so much for writing!!! As I am sure you can understand, I am constantly worried that his ties reattached and that is what is causing the issue, but hearing you say that you had the problem with your high palate kids makes me feel so much better!! Its not enough pain to make me want to stop. I think I was more worried about the underlying cause then the pain itself. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 01:38 PM
    What about a curtain in the pump room to create 'privacy' for each mom, or at least for any mom who wants or needs it? A curtain and some music or a guided relaxation on headphones to block out noise. I would also suggest finding out what the concern is, exactly. If they are making a new policy there presumably is a reason, and knowing what the concern is may help in figuring out a workaround. IS the concern privacy for each pumping mom, or is the concern that two or more moms in the room will be chatting rather than getting down to business, or did some lawyer say that two moms pumping in the same room is a no -no as far as the company being held liable for sexual harassment complaint, or what? I mean it could be something so outrageously stupid there is no way to guess it. I also think you have to assume hr knows nothing about lactation or pumping and why it is important not only for providing milk for baby but for the immediate health and wellness of the lactating mother. A mother who cannot pump when and how long she needs to may well end up hospitalized with raging mastitis. ergh how frustrating for you, I am so sorry! But maybe with four of you united more can be accomplished. Are you in the us? I am pretty sure there is new federal law as regards pumping.
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  • @llli*mygirlx3's Avatar
    Today, 01:36 PM
    I know this is a little late. I'm curious as to how you're doing? I pumped for most two weeks and didn't get a single drop. I got so discouraged I quit. That was 2 months ago and I'm back here trying to figure out if I can start trying to relactate yet again! Don't give up! I wish I hadn't when my daughter was a few weeks old and I wish I didn't 2 months ago. I feel like it's too late for me now.
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  • @llli*mama7008's Avatar
    Today, 12:18 PM
    Thank you for replying! I have tried the sandwich, flipple, and laid back nursing, all without any improvement. I haven't done compressions primarily because I tend toward over supply/overactive letdown and don't want to completely drown baby. ☺️ I've heard recommendations from other moms with TT babies to do chiro and CST, but frankly we can't afford to do any more therapy right now, especially since the nearest CST is an hour and a half away. I've seen an IBCLC (also hour and a half away, so limited there, too), and she seemed to think at the last visit that baby's latch was as good as it was going to get and main problem was suck pattern. I haven't been doing the suck training as I'm supposed to since we have been sick with one thing after another since I saw her and I'm just trying to make it through right now. I've seen Dr. Newman's protocol and have used some of the tips/ medicines, etc from that, but haven't seen any positive results. I'm hoping the culture I'm about to do will give us good direction. I haven't tried lecithin. While I know part of my plugged duct/mastitis problems might be due to baby's latch, she's nursing and gaining well, so it leads me to believe it's due to my health situation - multiple autoimmune and inflammatory disorders along with some functional issues, so I am just more prone to illness and inflammation in general. Both recent cases of mastitis hit the night after I "overdid" by either cleaning my kitchen thoroughly or cleaning my...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 11:27 AM
    Sometimes an option for private space is to fashion your own. If your company has glass walls and cameras everywhere, then maybe you need to curtain off part of a glass-fronted office, and put a sock over the camera. Not ideal, but better than nothing?
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  • @llli*filmmommy's Avatar
    Today, 08:12 AM
    I guess if you could argue that you are not being given reasonable accommodations. Depending on your state, you may be able to find language to show that. If they're making it impossible to pump, then that's unreasonable. I'm not joking, though -- if you do need to stand in line (as you say, right outside HR's office) to wait your turn, then maybe they'll decide it's not working. How is that a productive work environment? Our building is giant, so it would be very difficult for me to run up and down to wait for someone to finish. It's one of those situations where people who have no clue are making rules, and they don't make sense!
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  • @llli*littlecavemomma's Avatar
    Today, 07:50 AM
    Thanks ladies. Filmommy - we definitely think alike hahahha. I just don't see anyway around the conversation. They gave us such a bottom of the barrel option to begin with that there's no other alternative to suggest. Virginiamomma - there are no private offices in my company. Even our top execs have glass walls (literally). Furthermore, we have more surveillance than the Pentagon. The room they gave us is the only one with solid walls and no overhead camera. Cameras all over the parking lot also. :/ There's no way I could pump while driving, not with my city's crazy traffic. We have to walk past HR to get to the room, so there's no way we can sneak. I think this might be a part of the impetus for the change. I'm just frustrated. They've fixed something that wasn't broken to begin with and this is just one more way for them to exercise control. I really do want to think of a solution they can agree upon so it doesn't become a real issue, but our options are so limited as far as private space I don't see anyway around it?
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 07:33 AM
    Hey, I'm sorry things have gotten off to such a rough start for you! Latch wise you've probably tried the stuff that worked got us, but I will mention them anyway just in case - breast compressions, breast sandwich, and the flipple. If you aren't sure on any of them, you tube has videos! I know you've said you've tried all sorts of positions, does that include laid back nursing aka biological nuturing positions? There's a really good post by Maddieb about this position not do long ago in response to a mama asking. We also did sacrocranial osteopathy but I think that sounds similar to the active release therapy you mention but am not totally sure as I've not heard of the latter! Are you able to see an IBCLC or get more help at meets with the latch? As for thrush, Jack Newman protocol is the most thorough that I am aware of. You can find it here: http://www.breastfeedinginc.ca/content.php?pagename=doc-CP For recurrent plugs/mastitis have you thought about taking lecithin ( either soy or sunflower) it acts as an emulsifier making the milk less 'sticky' at least that's the theory. Don't get me wrong I'm sure your issues have more to do with that bad latch etc but this may be an idea worth reading into.
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Today, 07:18 AM
    Did either LC do a weighted feed to assess how much milk baby us getting in an average feed? As said in my first post your breath aren't supposed to feel full so while domperidone may do that temporarily it certainly won't long term. Mine never felt full by DD being 8-12 weeks old even with Dom, it didn't mean I didn't have enough milk. Was posterior TT ruled out? They are really common with LT's. Are you able to see the second LC again?
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