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  • @llli*beckyd0106's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:01 PM
    My 16 mo old struggles with constipation. This has been an issue since starting solids but has worsened lately. He eats sporadic meals. Often times he refuses solids. I am not super proactive about refusing boob and there are times that I offer food before boob but it is still refused. He also only eats sporadic meals even during the work day when I am not with him. I'm curious if other moms have had this experience. If so did you feel it was related to the sporadic foods or something else? He only eats healthy foods (beans oatmeal many fruits and veges etc). Every time I findsomething he really likes such as smoothies he decides he ddoesnt want it anymore. I cant force him to eat or drink. I was trying juice but even yesterday he refused it and was finicky about even drinking water. I tried giving him mineral oil last week twice even tho I dont like that idea and he still isnt pooping much. Doctor has basically said only other option if the juice and mineral oil dont work is chemical which I desperately would like to avoid. Should I force him to stop nursing very much? That feels wrong and some other moms have told me that when they force weaned they just ended up with a toddler that still didn't eat and didn't have the benefits of breastmilk.
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  • @llli*merlot's Avatar
    Today, 07:59 AM
    This is not as big of an issue as others have, or that I've had in the past, but if anyone can suggest a solution I'd be most grateful! I EBF my 4 mo on demand, though to be honest not so sure what she"s demanding! I have a feeling that when I feed her e/ 2 or 2.5 hrs it's because she's tired not hungry. However, she very often will not fall asleep and just scream- by naps. Perhaps she can't fall asleep when the slightest bit hungry? Then she only takes 20-30 min naps! About 4 of them a day I'd guess. I'm getting frustrated because it makes it nearly impossible to get stuff done... And I don't have much time with my others in playgroup/school for just a few hours of the day... In addition, she is always spitting up. I mean always. Before eating after eating, in middle of nowhere etc. sometimes she whines, but usually it just comes out. Any advice with any part of my ranting?! Please? :o
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  • @llli*munchmama's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:34 PM
    My 9 month old is BFOD. She is teething and our schedules have been off (due to my working part time and no set schedule) so she is nursing more at night, and is popping on and off the breast a lot when I am home with her, probably due to teething lately and just because we are together and she just likes unlimited access I think :love So we have never had any issues with yeast, engorgment, mastitis, etc and for the first time yesterday I noticed some little water blisters (clear fluid) pop up out of no where on my nipples! I read it could be a blocked opening (that skin grew over a hole?) or possibly a sign of yeast? but she has no symptoms of that and I have some discomfort, but since yesterday has improved. She popped them when nursing at one point and they are not red or irritated. No blocked ducts. No signs of infection and I have kept some drops of breastmilk on there to hopefully keep infection at bay. Wondering if due to the constant nursing and occasional rough or shallow latch when she is being careless. She does occasionally play with the other nipple while nursing and I wonder if she scratched the surface, causing the blisters? Any input on this or recommendations?
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  • @llli*beana40's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:49 PM
    I have a 5 month old and for the last few months, he gets extremely upset if I try to nurse him at bedtime. I work full time, so he gets bottles of expressed milk throughout the day. When I get home at 4:30, I feed him. Bedtime is around 6:45-7pm -- I'm wondering if he's not hungry so he's refusing? He won't even comfort-nurse - he has to have the pacifier to fall asleep. He wakes 2-3 times a night to eat, so I was hoping that if I could feed him at bedtime, he would make it longer before waking. Any thoughts/suggestions?
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  • @llli*falansi's Avatar
    Today, 03:22 AM
    My baby is about 11 weeks old and I am experiencing issues with breastfeeding. I am not sure whether these are problems or these are normal. She does not really hold onto her latch at times and keep coming off the breast. She could be sucking well at one stance and when the milk comes in at the next instance, she pulls off immediately. Further attempts to re-latch is futile. She will either not suck and keeps rubbing her face around my breast or if she sucks, her mouth will not be a full latch resulting in milk coming out all around her mouth, face and my breast. However, there are times when she could hold her latch very well and continue to suck well when the milk comes in. But she would not be able to sustain the hold for too long. It could be about 2 to 3 minutes or at best 5 to 6 minutes. As such I am not sure whether this is a latch issue or there is a problem with the milk flow that the milk comes in too fast for her. Each nursing session will be very frustrating and could last as long as an hour as I try to calm her. On top of this, she always sleeps on the breast and would only suckle. I am not sure how much milk does she manage to take in during each nursing sessions. I thought she might be taking in little as even though I would have multiple let downs during each session, she does not do a lot of active sucking throughout each session. She usually poos one each day, but does go without pooing for maximum 2 days on a few occasions. Wet diapers are about 5...
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  • @llli*pritz00's Avatar
    Today, 02:41 AM
    Hi! I'm a FTM with a EBF 11wo. For the past few days I've noticed a lump on my breast that gets really tender/irregular shaped when my breast are full so I figured I had a plugged duct, I did the warm compress, the massage etc and it felt like it had gone away, however at night baby only does one breast which means by morning time I'm full and the lump is back, tonigh I woke up from pain after the feed, when I checked it looks like a nipple blister, it hurts a lot, I tried popping it with a needle but is more like a flat white cover and milk does come from there, I pumped and the lump is gone again but now I know the issue is not resolved... I just don't know what else to do...any other advice??? Thanks in advance!
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  • @llli*daisymae's Avatar
    Today, 01:47 AM
    Hi, my 5 mo has been having excessive gas and problems passing gas at night following feeds. It started about 6 wks ago with her stirring around 4am, kicking and twisting but not waking up. Then it became 3, then 2, now it's all night and she often wakes up, sometimes screaming. I usually pull her up on my stomach while half sitting up, her tummy down, to nurse her which seems to help her pass gas and go back to sleep but I have to hold her upright for about 30 mins before I can put her back down. If I nurse her on my side it makes it worse. Lately this has been most of the night so I'm sleeping maybe 4 hours total broken sleep. Another thing is she still nurses every 1 1/2 to 2 hrs during the day and does not typically nap for longer than 45 mins at a time, twice a day. Plenty of wet nappies, about 4 poopy nappies/day. Lately they've been greenish. Haven't weighed her in a while but she was gaining very well after a slow start. Very alert, mostly happy but I can tell she's tired too from all the waking & she's had some tough nights with a lot of cramping and pain. Any advice so so appreciated, especially as I'm heading back to work in 8 weeks...
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 09:03 AM
    I seem to have managed to clear the plug if it even was one. It was hard to tell, felt tender and bruised for days but I never felt like I managed to clear anything but feeling better now. I'm just making sure we wake up to nurse a few times at night and still offering to nurse often during the day and not pumping much anymore except when we drive up to the inlaws. It's been good this week with daddy home, I'm able to let daddy and baby have time together while I get some stuff done in 45 minute blocks between nursing. Unfortunately Daddy is gone again for another 8 day trip on Thursday. I'm rushing to get the heavy work done before he leaves so that I don't need to worry about doing those things while wearing a baby. Weight gain seems to have improved, Even with Pooping yesterday we are at 15lb 6.9oz today. He really likes eating!!! I nurse right before dinner and then he gets to play with solids at dinner. Really into meat loaf, potato, avacado and melon lately. And regularly giving him a stewed prune to make sure we don't see constipation if he insisted on sharing my banana early in the day. He is so mobile now. Able to really hands and knees crawl and then pull up to standing on all sorts of things. Biggest issue now is his falling over and hitting his head.
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Today, 08:24 AM
    Is it possible you just have an infant who is a short napper? Mine was! I don't think her naps lengthened to anything more than 20 minutes at a stretch until she was 9 months old, and even at that point, it was only lengthened to 30 minutes. Her naps got a bit longer once she consolidated to a single nap at around 18 months old, at about 60-70 minutes, but she still does not and likely will not ever take the 2-3 hour naps most sources seem to suggest babies "have" to take. What I did to cope with that was give up on the idea of getting things done during nap time. It helped me out tremendously just to accept that this was our reality, and work out ways of getting things done outside of nap time. In my family's case, what worked out best was to hand over the chores to my husband to do after mom and baby went to bed at night. We also tried doing a lot of chores while baby was awake, but my daughter wasn't keen on being worn while she was an infant, so that didn't work out too well. If your baby will tolerate a wrap or carrier, I would definitely suggest trying to wear baby while awake and working on household chores outside of the nap time.
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Today, 08:08 AM
    My daughter did this a ton from about 11-16 months, with some evenings taking up to an hour to finish getting all the wiggles out while nursing in our dark room. And then, it just sort of tapered down. Every once in a while, we have flip-floppy bedtime nurse downs (she's 22 months old now), but they are rare and I attribute it to the same sorts of things that occasionally make it hard for me to wind down for sleep as an adult. I mean, I have good nights and bad sleep nights too, despite doing all of the "right" things to wind myself down for sleep! I didn't really do anything in particular to address the acrobatic bedtime wind down, because I personally feel that it's normal developmentally--I just kept us in bed with the lights off, let her talk and move and do whatever she seemed to need to do. It helped me to just mentally prepare for the possibility of a 60 minute wind down and expect it every night when we were in the thick of it, then just be pleasantly surprised if it happened quicker.
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  • @llli*workermom's Avatar
    Today, 06:21 AM
    Thanks so much for the suggestions. Making it his choice is something we have not done so will definitely try!
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  • @llli*brusselssprout14's Avatar
    Today, 05:58 AM
    We have a lot of flinging going on around bedtime at our house too, with our 7-month old. Our solution is that my husband reads my book to me and our daughter calms down with the sound of his voice. Works like a charm! Audiobooks also seem to work.
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  • @llli*brusselssprout14's Avatar
    Today, 05:46 AM
    Thanks for all the thoughts and tips - I have been leaving between 200 and 250 mL each day, and it seems to be going well. Yesterday I asked if the amount is ok, and she said it's good. I get the sense that they are trying to save me the effort of pumping... they seem amazed that I've pumped this much, for this long, but I'm happy to continue. As far as the method of feeding is concerned, I know that they take their time in giving bottles, and they don't push more than the baby wants to eat. They have some milk leftover sometimes (so are not pushing for finishing bottles) and have reported that sometimes it took a very long time to feed her in several sessions due to distraction etc. For solids, they spoon feed, but in a responsive way I believe, since they some days report that she ate just a couple spoonfuls, other days that she ate a lot, which would imply that they aren't pushing a lot on her every time but rather looking for cues that she is interested in eating. It's a small daycare, 12 kids and 3 full-time 2 part-time caregivers. The tricky part for me is that it's a bit of a mystery since the language & culture barrier is difficult to get through to understand what is really going on while I'm gone. I base it all on what they tell me about the day, which sometimes is just "elle a bien mange" (she ate well) or "super bon aujourd'hui" (super good today)... I'm wondering if you think I need to push for more details or I should just chill out and let it...
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  • @llli*zaynethepain's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:09 PM
    I logged in today to post this! Sounds like some good progress is being made. Hope the momentum keeps up.
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  • @llli*zaynethepain's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:02 PM
    How are you doing with the plugged ducts? I'd lean toward cutting sessions out slowly for that reason but it definitely sounds like you guys have found a good place to relax. I don't want you guys to have to deal with mastitis though. I've had it very mildly a few times after ds1 didn't nurse often for whatever reason during the day and both boys slept well that night. I'm trying to get ds1 to nurse less during the day and it's left me with a very congested spot on the right breast. Yep, ds and I also hit this same stage. Longer nursing sessions at nap time (which is slowly consolidating into two distinct naps) and bedtime but quick sips otherwise. He was always a quick, efficient nurser but is too busy playing now to bother. He's LOVING solids and cries the most adorable wail if we don't share everything with him. He cut two teeth last week and another seems to be coming soon. Extra fussiness because of that and his desire to be mobile. He can scoot and roll a few feet but he's determined to follow big brother.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:28 PM
    I agree with mommal. Unless you want to wean for some reason, probably the last thing you want to do with a baby who is being constipated by solids and not eager to drink much is to reduce breastmilk. Nursing can only help with constipation, overall nutrition, and liquid intake. Is someone suggesting your baby needs to eat more solids? Are there weight gain issues for example? A baby this age who 'refuses' to eat much solid food is usually entirely normal. And if baby is getting constipated, it makes sense for baby to not want to eat much. You are 100 % correct that you cannot force your child to eat or drink, nor should you try! For a great read on what is normal when it comes to eating habits, nutrition and growth, I suggest the book My Child Won't Eat! by Carlos Gonzalez. My oldest had constipation both around the time we started solids and then again when potty learning. It was very difficult because eventually he got to the point where pooping hurt and he was intentionally withholding- in other words, not even trying to go. It really became a problem! I would suggest, do not mistake infrequent poops for constipation. They are no always the same thing. signs it is constipation is if stools are hard, dry, overly large, difficult or painful to pass, baby straining, etc. www.askdrsears.com has some nice constipation info that helped me a lot. I would suggest backing off on the solids, let baby eat what he likes when he likes and how much he likes with no...
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  • @llli*jessicanewmom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:49 PM
    Thanks for all the suggestions! The past couple times now I took your suggestion to move some of the bedtime routine to the bed & that seems to work. She's flinging around while we're reading stories and it feels more like hanging out and winding down rather than just waiting for her to be ready to sleep. Ruchiccio, we do nurse sitting up a lot of times, but at night I was often nursing her sitting until I thought she was asleep then laying her down and the she'd pop awake again & start the flinging. I don't really mind it & it is adorable -- I just wanted to make sure I wasn't setting myself up for something by going with the flow :). Thanks experienced mamas!
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  • @llli*beckyd0106's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:41 PM
    Used to be every couple days and go between loose and formed. Last prob two mos has become consistently formed sometimes pellets and up to a week between stools.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:23 PM
    I wouldn't wean, if I were in your shoes. First, weaning doesn't magically turn a young toddler into a reliable eater of solid food. A your friends have observed, forcing the weaning process just takes away the benefits of breastmilk with no sure gains in the solids department. Second, if you have a baby who struggles with constipation, you want him to have as much milk as possible because breastmilk has a mild laxative effect. How often does he poop (# of times per week) and what is the consistency when he does go?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:18 PM
    Whatever you choose- toughing it out and doing baby-led weaning, or deciding to pursue mother-led weaning, it's going to be okay. There's no wrong choice here, and whatever you choose will have a unique complement of benefits and some detriments. When both my girls were in the last phases of nursing, I felt those nearly uncontrollable spasms of negative emotion. The only thing that worked for me was limiting the amount of time that my toddlers could nurse. I would tell them "I will count to ten and then it's time to be done" or "I'm going to sing 'Twinkle Twinkle Little Star' and then you have to stop", and they listened. I think it helped that they were no longer particularly interested in nursing, so they didn't feel the need to fight the limitation. In your shoes, I think I would want to find a different way to put the toddler to sleep. Maybe you nurse- briefly!- and then dad comes in and takes over?
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  • @llli*bfwmomof3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:59 PM
    Keep in mind that you just need enough for the first day. Then, each day you are at work, you pump for the next day. The "rule of thumb" is 1 - 1.5 oz/hour apart. So if, for example, you will be apart for 8 hours, you'd want about 8-12 oz, maybe a couple oz extra as backup. When you think of it that way I think it makes it less overwhelming to think about pumping for that first day.
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  • @llli*ngs215's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:53 PM
    Mine is from 2012, and the button lets me switch both ways. I find it quite useful. If I notice my letdown has started, I switch to regular mode early because I think that is more efficient. And then after the milk stops flowing, I will go back for a second letdown.
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:45 PM
    Can you nurse not lying down? I nurse him to sleep while I'm sitting in bed (I always nurse sitting so this feeding isn't different from others). He can't possibly fly around if I have him in a cross cradle hold.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:45 PM
    15lb 5.5oz this morning
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:42 PM
    Thanks for posting!
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