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  • @llli*gagliano's Avatar
    Today, 08:02 AM
    Hello, I have a 10 day old baby. I've struggled to find a good latch with her since day 3 when my milk let down. She's gaining weight so she's definitely getting milk. Yesterday I was able to finally get a good latch on both sides in the side laying position. But then as we got into the night it didn't work anymore. Every night I have issues getting her latch correct and it's so painful. But I'm always so tired I end up just letting her eat since she is actually getting milk. Plus at night I'm super engorged. The last two nights I soaked two breast pads through to my bra and shirt and bed. I slept on a towel last night. Any ideas what could be going wrong? I hand express when I'm engorged before I feed her so that she can get a deeper latch. I try different positions and her mouth looks the way it should. I had a visit from a lactation consultant a week ago and of course things looked fine at that point and all she could tell me was to make sure I hand express before feeding so she can get a deep latch. I'm so discouraged and in a lot of pain. It feels like once I finally get something going and my nipples look healed for the day it gets bad again and I totally dread feeding my baby. :( help!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:40 PM
    :ita with MaddieB. I only want to add that for nighttime leaking, I suggest investing in a washable adult incontinence pad. They are less scratchy than a towel, they absorb better, and milk doesn't pass through the waterproof backing and get onto your bed. Plus, when your child is older it can become a waterproof pad you slip under their sheets. They cost about $20-30, but they are an investment I would make again!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:30 PM
    :ita with MaddieB. Tantrums are normal, and you can deal with them compassionately while also not giving in to a child's unreasonable demand. It takes mountains of patience! I just want to point out that hating being separated from mama even for the length of a bathroom break is totally normal, and one of the unheralded joys of motherhood. I vividly remember taking a much-needed bathroom break and having my child pound on the door. "this is mama's private time!" I yelled, desperately. She ripped open the door and looked me right in the eye and said "No. I need to see you." Ah, the memories...
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  • @llli*margutte's Avatar
    Today, 12:32 PM
    Thank you both. I called my lactation consultant today, she suggested to pump a couple of times a day and see if the milk intake drops too much in the next week, then maybe go to once a day. She also says that his latch is ok, and not to worry too much.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Today, 11:12 AM
    Hi gagliano. What you are experiencing is pretty common for the newborn period. Your milk production has been increasing every day since baby was born. So this is a common time for feeling super full if it has been a while since baby nursed. Leaking is 100% normal and in fact, it is good your breasts leak as this will act to alleviate some of the pressure and issues of engorgement. Latching at night when everyone is more tired is also commonly more of an issue. Usually as both you and baby become more practiced at latch in general, this will improve. If baby is capable of having a comfortable latch during the day, she is capable of having one at night. It is just harder due to the tiredness and you may be more engorged at night. Certainly this is one way to help a baby get a better latch. But it is not the only way. Aside from trying different positions and latch techniques, another way to alleviate the engorgement being a problem is to encourage baby to nurse with high frequency. The more often baby nurses, the less full the breasts will get between nursing sessions. If it is helping, fine to keep hand expressing before latching baby. But there are two potential issues you just may want to think about 1), if you are hand expressing milk frequently, that is going to give your body the message to make even more milk. 2) hand expressing before nursing delays baby getting to the breast. If baby starts out hungry and eager to nurse, but then putting baby to the...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:13 PM
    My oldest child never threw tantrums. Ever. I thought I must be an awesome parent, at least in this area. Then came my second child and I lost that delusion! Second son had such intense, scary tantrums I was afraid he might hurt himself. I was so freaked out I asked our pediatrician what to do. He was (and is) our third pediatrician who we love because he never acts condescending, is entirely positive about breastfeeding and bedsharing, is generally awesome. We trust him. He said "put him somewhere he cannot hurt himself and let him have his tantrum." I was amazed. Really? Not try to help him? Not try to stop it? I could not get my mind around doing nothing in the face of these terrible tantrums. So I kept trying to keep my son from having tantrums. Over time, I learned some things that helped prevent or avert tantrums. But in the end I also learned that it really is true that sometimes he simply wanted something that I could or would not provide for him, and there was no avoiding it, he just needed to have his tantrum about it. Then it would be over and we could go on with life. Third child also tantrums, at 4, she still does on occasion. She had one today over not being allowed to watch TV. She is funny, she will cry and scream and then be happy as a clam afterward. Basically, do not fear the tantrums, is my point. For many kids this is how they deal with discomfort, frustration or disappointment, until they are old enough to learn to deal with these...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:28 PM
    Yes I agree with mommal. Here is what I wrote earlier but did not post as I was called away from computer: It makes sense. This actually can possibly happen- a baby might have nursing issues that would cause poor milk transfer that are hidden because mom makes so much milk baby does not have to be nursing effectively to get enough. When her milk production reduces to normal, the problem with baby's ability to transfer milk is revealed. I would think yes, most likely this is a very different situation now. But I am afraid it is impossible to know for sure without more time going by or a trained person watching a nursing session and concluding that there is no problem with transfer. This is why I suggested seeing an IBCLC, but it is possible they would not be 100% sure either. If you would like to see an LC again, maybe there are low cost clinics or some other way you can see your LC again or a different one. Often there are more resources available than you might have heard of. It never hurts to ask. To find out what may be available, you can call your LCs, ask any local LLL or other breastfeeding support group, breastfeeding coalitions, etc. Also your LC may be able to talk to you on the phone for a follow up.
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