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  • @llli*aranel's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:37 PM
    When my baby was born she had some breathing trouble and was on a Cpap for the first week of her life. Because of this I was unable to breast feed her and she got nipple confused. The hospital was -not- very helpful once I was discharged and didn't really help figure out how best help her nurse. They sent me home with a nipple shield and very little instruction. :cry At her first weigh in she hadn't gained enough weight I had total melt down at the doctors office. I had been trying to nurse her for hours at time with the nipple shield on and I had no idea she wasn't getting enough and passing out from exhaustion from trying. Her doctor told me to throw away the nipple shields and start pumping but keep offering her the breast... Shes 7 weeks old now and she will latch but she breaks suction and/or falls asleep very quickly at the breast. I hate pumping I am doing it every 2-3 hours round the clock and its killing me. I am scared to death to stop pumping because I worry she won't be getting enough milk. How do I safely transition her to the breast?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:29 PM
    Hi aranel. When a situation is this complicated (baby completely bottle fed and apparently having difficulty nursing) I truly think the best course is to see a board certified lactation consultant (IBCLC) for a complete, private consult. Have you done this already or is this possible for you? I am not saying there is nothing you can do on your own. Of course there is- but an in person consult with someone experienced with getting a baby back to the breast is likely to save you a ton of time and trouble and very much increase your chances for success. The short answer is gradually. Once you can encourage baby to nurse with more vigor or interest, you can start slowly reducing supplements while watching weight gain and output- poops and pees. (Some breastfed babies stop pooping with much frequency at this age and in that case you would watch pees.) Once you can reduce supplements or as you do so, you can reduce the pumping. Nipple shields can actually be helpful tools if used properly. The same thing happened to me with my oldest- sent home with a nipple shield no one had even shown me how to put on! Ugh it drives me crazy. But if baby is apparently capable of latching without it, no need for a shield and best to avoid them. It is pretty unusual for a 7 week old who is gaining normally to be so sleepy at the breast. I wonder if baby is not nursing with much interest because baby is simply not hungry? To advise further, it would help to know how baby is gaining...
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  • @llli*kirab's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:29 PM
    I'm in the same boat as you with my 6 month old. Since she was 4 months she has been waking every hour to two all night long, and will only settle back to sleep if I nurse her. It's been rough and I find myself constantly searching for a way to curb the wakings without a harsh method but have come to just accept that it's just a faze and someday I will forget how exhausted I was and miss the cuddles and how much she needed me. The last two nights she has given me a couple three hour stretches of sleep so fingers crossed this is the beginning of better sleep!
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  • @llli*hhof0407's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:12 PM
    Also, I'm praying this is the culprit because this seems way more treatable than yeast. I have also been pumping and saving milk. I have not had the heart to throw it out even though I was told that due to my thrush diagnosis the milk should not be saved. Let's hope I can save my freezer stash for when I return to work!
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  • @llli*hhof0407's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:06 PM
    The nipples do change color a little bit. Is it possible that one breast is worse than the other? Could it be possible that the trauma from the first few weeks of breastfeeding disaster is still causing the pain? He was really bad about creasing my nipples the first month or so. I had a line of scabs down the middle of the crease. The past few weeks they come out very minimally creased. I'm looking into this vasospasm a little more and using a heating pad right now to see if that helps.
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  • @llli*peanutbutter7's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:06 PM
    Thanks, mommal. You are right that is exactly what has been going on. I am seeking support in all the wrong places, and trying to explain myself to people who aren't listening. It's sad but it is what it is. I'll definitely be using your response when asked about sleep. Last night was actually better, he isn't sleeping much longer stretches but he nursed back to sleep faster and was okay being put down again in his cosleeper (husband vetoed the bedsharing idea long ago, so a cosleeper was our compromise). I also tried offering the breast constantly in the evening, that may have helped too. Thanks for all the responses.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:40 AM
    :ita I would also want to take the "meet the need, the need goes away" approach. As MaddieB said, a lot of the resistance is in our heads, not the kid's head.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:38 AM
    :ita The foods that make adults gassy are not the ones that trouble babies, and babies are rarely troubled by gas, because it's normal for all babies. I think a lot of the idea that fussiness is caused by gas is simply due to the fact that infants are generally fussy and gassy- but that's correlation, not causality!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:35 AM
    Do you ever notice any of the following: - Nipples blanching (turning white, or bluish purple, before returning to a normal color) - Nipple appearing pinched/wedged/ridged/creased/asymmetrical/shaped like a new lipstick after baby comes off the breast?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:32 AM
    Hang in there, mama! I know it's particularly hard when you need sympathy from your friends/family and their response to "I haven't been getting much sleep" is "Here are the things you need to change in the way you parent in order to fix your life, and you'd better do them because what you are doing is wrong and will make things worse". I think that when you are in a situation in which your people aren't giving back what you need to hear, you do better if you tailor your message to them. What I mean is, don't waste your breath seeking support or sympathy or even empathy from people who can't or won't give it. Don't talk about sleep issues with hardcore sleep training advocates, because their only advice will be to start sleep training. Don't talk breastfeeding issues with people who think formula is the greatest, because all you will get from them is a recommendation to try some formula. If someone asks you about your baby's sleep, go with "Oh, he's sleeping well- for a baby. But you know what really interests me right now?" That way you can switch topics to something where your friends/family can give back, instead of needlessly hurting your feelings or undermining your convictions about how you want to parent. FTR, both my kids woke frequently at 4 months and I nursed them back to sleep every time. DD1 was a terrible sleeper until around 10 months, DD2 was much better- probably because I was a more relaxed mom and didn't care so much about wake-ups or...
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