June 10th, 2015, 10:52 AM
I am hoping someone might have some experience with putting a 'high needs' aka 'spirited' baby in the care of another. I've been lucky enough to be able to put this off for 6 months, as I've gone back part-time and my mother can watch her 1-2 days a week. But I have to start working more and my mom also works, so we have to look for alternative care options.
She is what I'd definitely call 'high needs'. She naps only with me, has to be held ALL the time or she melts down, hates swings, rockers, high chairs, etc. If she could be glued to a human being 24/7, she would be in heaven.
We have always believed in meeting her needs and not letting her cry, whether it's bedtime, being held, etc. But I'm worried about daycare. The one that I like is a small room with 2 caregivers and 8 babies. When I visited, it was relatively peaceful but most of the babies were quietly in swings or sleeping in their little cribs. I cannot imagine my baby being that content! I'm afraid she'll cry all. day. long. And what will they do? I asked this, and they said that babies adjust, get used to it, etc. But what if she doesn't?
Another option would be having my mother in law come from out of town and do the caregiving. While this is free, she is not physically very well and found it very hard to hold her and take care of her for more than 2 hours at a time. Plus, I am starting to wonder if at 6 months, my daughter would actually benefit from being around other caregivers, babies, etc. She is...