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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:51 PM
    I will answer last post first. "Normal" latch and nursing is often described as a "gentle pulling." It's a good description, but how intense the sensation is will vary from nursing pair to nursing pair. What to look out for is PAIN when nursing (or in between) or very strong discomfort, and of course, any actual nipple injury, bleeding, cracks, scabbing, or bruising. These things do happen and are pretty common, but they do usually indicate that latch is not quite what it could be. It is pretty universal that newborns HATE to be laid down. This is a biologically mandated response. Your baby is driven entirely by instinct, and biology has not caught up to babies r us. For most of human history, a fragile human infant who was put down by it's mother died rapidly by being eaten or of exposure. Think about it, Primate mothers NEVER put their newborns down. Baby knows where baby is safe, and that is in mom and dad's arms. So many new parents find baby settles best while being held closely by mom or another trusted adult. Snuggled against mom or dad's or a grandparent's chest is where you will find most newborns happiest to sleep. If caregiver is also tired and may fall asleep, there are several precautions that can be taken so baby can sleep safely beside mom on firm bed surface. But if you are doing baby duty, and are sitting up on the couch, (leaning against the back, just not laying down) for example, and have baby snuggled to you against your chest, this should be...
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  • @llli*mommatocomma's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:45 PM
    Yeah, I know but I like to complain (seek sympathy) :). I will try to grow a pair! Don't know anyone who has ebf through this-everyone has given up at this stage. Last night a marginal improvement-went down 8pm, then up 10, 12 and 2, then for the day at 6. Will keep plugging away.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:17 PM
    Vitamin D (when needed) can be found in products that give the daily suggested dose in a tiny drop for babies and toddlers. Vitamin D is a big deal because recent (last 7 or 8 years or so?) research has shown that 1) it is WAY more important for overall good health than previously thought 2) optimal levels are much higher than previously thought 3) lifestyle changes (not going outside and wearing sunscreen) have led to much of the population being low in D 4) due to all of the above, many women are low in D and consequently, their babies are born low in D. I also thought of dyes or additives as the possible culprit in your child's reaction. Whether YOUR child (or you) needs vitamin D supplements or any other supplements depends on your particular circumstances (where you live in relation to the equator and what kind of skin pigmentation you have,) diet, and lifestyle.
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  • @llli*knewbon's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:40 PM
    My little guy had a corrective surgery for craniosynostosis, and we had a three day hospital stay. We're back home and his recovery so far has been amazing, unfortunately I can't say the same for my milk supply. We weren't able to breastfeed since he was wrapped up in so many bandages and IV's and sensors at the hospital, I tried to pump but wasn't able to get much of anything. When I talked to the dietician she said that the stress could have had a big impact on my supply, and I honestly wasn't thinking about myself the last couple days, so I let myself get dehydrated. Are there any other moms who had a similar experience? Is there hope for getting my supply back to where it was?
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  • @llli*minute's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:20 PM
    Here's a potentially related question. My wife mentioned last night that twice she felt a pulling feeling like she could really feel him pulling milk out of her. This was the only time she's really had that feeling. Should she be able to feel each and every pull of milk? Is this a sign that he's maybe not latching properly after all? Or that he's not getting very good sucks?
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  • @llli*lcven315's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:16 PM
    I have been exclusively pumping (6 wks) for twins, born 25 wks & I'm getting mixed messages from my lactation consultants & NICU doctors on what to do for my oversupply and painful, unresolved, engorgment (right breast only, confirmed with ultrasound). The NICU doctors say to pump till I am empty (causing oversupply) and the LC tell me only 20 min every 3 hours to decrease my supply (causing painful engorgment). Decreasing my supply is terrifying to me, as pumping is all I can do for my LOs... plus the process is so painful. I read that moms feed their LO then pump for only 10 min in between feeds to relieve a full breast and was considering trying this. I did try ice and cabbage leaf compresses. I feel like my life is pumping, icing, massaging.... yet I am getting no relief. Any opinions on trying to decrease supply for my situation? Suggestions for pain relief, and frequency/duration of pumping for engorgment?
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  • @llli*minute's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:52 PM
    Thanks for the advice everyone. The new plan seemed to go well overnight. Mom managed to get a good amount of sleep with very little supplement being needed (hopefully a good sign of milk coming in more). He was much fussier during the day (constantly wanting to nurse) though he seemed to fall asleep pretty quickly whenever he started. The biggest issue all day has been that whenever we try to redress him to put him back down after nursing, it wakes him back up again and he starts fussing/rooting all over again. It has made for a pretty long day. Our other current concern is that his output seems to have declined a bit since we started the new plan. He is still having wet diapers (though some of them are pretty small), but his stool output has gone down quite a bit. We haven't seen any major stool output since sometime yesterday though we have seen some crusty/drier looking stool (and not very substantial) output that was almost staining the diaper more than anything else. As far as the supplementing goes, I've been finger feeding some (2-3 times in the past 24 hours), and he has done pretty well at it. After about 20-30mL he stops taking any more and starts to fall asleep. Unfortunately, like with the nursing, as soon as I pack everything up and try to put him down, he starts fussing/rooting again.
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  • @llli*surimono's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:16 PM
    Hello everyone, I was wondering if anyone could help... my baby was born with a tongue-tie, which made nursing very painful, however it was corrected with surgery at 3 weeks. I have now noticed that he also has an upper-lip tie. He has 6 teeth and seems to bite a lot more than when I fed my other child when they had teeth! Is this related to the lip-tie? I really want to continue feeding him for longer but the biting is almost unbearable now he has so many teeth. There seems to be almost nothing online that I can find (although one article I did find seemed to say that lip-ties can cause biting. Though I can no longer find this source..!) Sorry for long winded post - am sleep deprived and fed up! Many thanks
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:41 PM
    One trick that a lot of moms use to cope with stupid advice about sleep is to never discuss their babies' sleep patterns with people who aren't going to be helpful. Save the conversations about sleep for other nursing mamas, ones who know what it's like to have a baby wake up a lot, and who didn't switch to formula just because their baby was sleeping like a baby! If the unhelpful people ask how your child is sleeping, you can just smile and say "Great!" They don't have to know the details.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:21 PM
    Get checked for thrush. If it is then both you and baby need to be treated. Is baby clamping down on you due to fast letdown? You don't actually have to nurse with both breasts, no reason not to nurse on the good one, just means you wind up lopsided. As for LC support, insurance should cover in the states or if on Medicaid you should be able to get breastfeeding help through your WIC office
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:20 PM
    One reason I always came down on the side of continuing to nurse was that my kids were going to be the same demanding little people whether I nursed them or not. Nursing was more than just food. It was also a tool for dealing with my kids and their antics. When I see my friends with formula-fed babies, I just don't know how they cope... For example, my friend's kid fell down and bumped his head and started to scream. My first instinct was to nurse him, even though he wasn't my kid- because I knew that nursing always worked to stop the screams when my kids did similar things. It took my friend so long to comfort her kid!
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  • @llli*sweeetp0812's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:13 PM
    i can't tell when the let down occurs, until he actually starts swallowing, and he has a pretty strong suction and i would hate to break it mid feeding and make him upset and not want to nurse at all.
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  • @llli*cej2014's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:23 PM
    Thanks bazinga! I'm so sorry that you're having similar issues...your story sounds just like mine. I hope to get to a year but honestly, I'm so worn down, discouraged, and just SORE so much of the time! I've been back and forth about pumping for a few feeds in the day just to get a break. I'm really starting to weigh the costs/benefits of continuing with nursing because I want to be a happy mama for my little girl, not tired/frustrated/maybe even a little resentful.
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  • @llli*gold86en's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:20 PM
    He always talks about the new recommendations for Vitamin D and always recommended giving her D.Vi.Sol or Tri.Vi.Sol too when she was an infant... maybe just his opinion? I'll ask him next time we are in just how important it is right now.
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  • @llli*mommatocomma's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:59 PM
    Thank you for your comments and support. Settling in for another night now, dream feeding now in the hope it gets her through a bit longer (not very optimistic!). Will call the doc tomorrow if no improvement. Getting a bit sick of EVERYONE telling me to wean now and to give formula at night so was nice you didn't say that!
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  • @llli*randi.potos's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:12 PM
    This is my first time posting but I am in need of some solid advice. My daughter is almost 13 weeks old and exclusively breastfed. She has never used a bottle or any other device (paci, etc). I am currently not working, but will have to go back when she is 6 months. I'm lucky to have had such a large chunk of time off to get to know my new little one and develop a good breastfeeding relationship, however going back will be difficult if I cannot get her to accept a bottle. I have an electronic pump and have tried on several occasions to pump and offer breast milk via bottle to no avail. She's refused a bottle every time I've tried. She will purse her lips tight, turn her head away, push the bottle nipple out of her mouth with her tongue, gag or cry excessively. I tried introducing a bottle as early as 2 weeks but was advised by a lactation consultant to wait until at least 6 weeks for my supply to come in. She didn't accept the bottle then anyway. I did try again at 6 weeks with just as much difficulty, then once again around 10 weeks, same thing. Any advice on how to have her accept a bottle willingly and happily? I do not want to bottle feed exclusively, but I will need her to accept a bottle from others when I go back to work part-time. :confused:
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  • @llli*iambatman's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:56 PM
    Hi- this is my first post so please forgive me.I Have a premature little one (36 weeks gestation) who is 3 weeks old going on 4 weeks on friday. She had a nicu stay of 9 days which I exclusively pumped during and breastfed once to three times a day depending on when I could make it to the nicu. She still requires 3 bottles of pumped milk fortified with neosure to help her gain weight(both nicu and pedi said not to wean off without their ok) we have been able to drop from 4 bottles to 3 and are slowly weaning down more. here is the issue...my right breast has had little to no issue breastfeeding and pumping wise. I can get roughly 2-3 ozs of milk pumped from this side and latching and such is fine. My left side however it's super painful to the point i tense up. I try to nurse through it but after 15 minutes i have to pop her off. I've tried cross cradle and football, holding my breast and not, using a pillow ect. My nipple is pink but I'm not sure if that's due to pumping (i can't find a flange that fits the nipple perfectly 24 mm are to small, 27 mm are to big medela PISA pump). The nipple before she latches is eraser like, when she pulls off during letdown the milk is squirting out and my nipple is flattened, when she's finished the skin on my nipple is white and flakey. I also get pain within my left breast during and after nursing and if i have a fan on it can continue with the pain within the breast. I don't know of any lactation consultants within my area that I...
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  • @llli*khaledusto's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:45 PM
    waw, thank you friends.
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  • @llli*alicoll's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:37 PM
    A while ago I purchased smaller flanges because I have very small breasts. I also just replaced the membranes on my pump. I feel like the pumping is stronger, but it didn't increase my output. I'm going to replace the tubing today as well. I have the pump set all the way to the highest setting. I know when I first had my baby and started pumping (we had trouble with supply right at first, so I had to pump after all feedings), I could only put it up maybe halfway before it really hurt. Then one day all of a sudden it felt like the pumping wasn't as strong anymore and since then I've had it all the way up. My pump has the letdown button, but I feel like I don't pump as much when it's on that setting. My pump automatically switches modes after about 2 minutes, but I always push the button to put it back on the frequent sucking because I feel like I get more on that setting. DD is 5.5 months but only weighs about 13lbs. She drinks about 4oz every 2 hours at daycare (so she presently gets 2 breastmilk bottles and 1 or 2 formula bottles).
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  • @llli*hippie1220's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:31 PM
    Hi ladies, Hoping to get some help here. I am 19 weeks pregnant and also have a 2 year old who still loves his "milk time". We nurse in the morning, before and after nap (and somewhat to sleep) and at bedtime (again, somewhat to help sleep). I have always had a low milk supply and I am quite certain there really is no milk at this stage but he still wants to chomp away - I say that because it is getting really painful. I know he really isn't ready to wean and I'm facing a couple problems: 1) Like I said it's getting quite painful and I am also getting frustrated with his need for nursing to sleep - he used to fall asleep quite well on his own but due to an overseas trip for most of the summer and my not wanting him to cry he's sort of reverted back to needing a lot of cuddling/nursing time to fall asleep or fall mostly asleep. When we nurse before nap/bedtime he spends a lot of time squirming around, sometimes hitting a bit too much on my pregnant belly and digging in my belly button which I imagine will also be more painful quite soon. I do'nt mind the morning or bedtime (pre-story) nursing or even another session during the day - I'm mostly getting frustrated with being a punching bag of sorts at naptime. 2) Because of my low milk supply I had to take herbs with my son for the first few months (he gained a LOT of weight that way). I am nervous that with this next child I may have to do the same and I want to make sure the baby gets what he/she needs and not worry...
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:17 PM
    Have you troubleshooted your pumping at all? Tried different size flanges, different pump settings, or even a different pump? I know of many moms here who needed to rent a hospital grade pump in order to meet their pumping needs. Is that something you might consider? I don't think you are worrying over nothing. :hugs At the same time, I also do not believe that all is lost if you need to supplement a little bit, either. How much milk is your baby drinking at daycare?
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:48 PM
    I think the solution to this behavior, assuming all else is otherwise normal, is typically time. Most of the breastfeeding moms I know experience pop-on-pop off behavior--myself included! What's NOT normal is that you are experiencing hurt and irritated nipples. This suggests that you might have a latch issue. Even with constant on and off behaviors, I never experienced any soreness or irritation. Have you experience any pain or soreness prior to the third week? Is your pain constant? Any issues with weight gain?
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  • @llli*sonogirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:40 PM
    That is so adorable. Great read!
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  • @llli*alicoll's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:21 PM
    I just returned to work this week. I was EBF and now I'm pumping at work. I have known from the start that I'm not an effective pumper, so I knew I was going to have to supplement whatever milk I was able to pump at work with formula while LO is at daycare. However, now I'm afraid that my milk supply is decreasing because I'm not expressing as much milk as LO does when she nurses. I'm pumping at work 3 times (in about 7 hours) and I only get about 6 ounces. This morning I had my first pumping session and I was only able to pump a little over 2 oz (usually my first pump is my largest). I really don't want to give up BF. Am I worrying over nothing? Or is this something that typically happens to moms who aren't good pumpers? Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm using the Medela Pump in Style.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:21 PM
    Ugh, that's a sign to see someone else. What did the blood test cover? I'd want to see a thyroid hormone level in the mix.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:18 PM
    Since it happens a few times during a feeding, I'm going to guess that it's a letdown sensation. Seem women describe it as a tingling sensation, some as cramping. Some don't feel it at all. It's not weird for it to happen on one side and not the other, either.
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  • @llli*kamy04's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:13 PM
    Backstory is rather long. DS2 was born at 35w3d. He was 4lbs15oz, so pretty small. His sugars were borderline so he got 2 small bottles of formula, but has been EBF since. I did a lot of pumping at first. He had no NICU. Bf has been challenging. He had a mild tongue tie that was snipped at 8 days. He flat out refused my left breast until 6 weeks when I got a nipple shield (my nipple is shaped funky I think. Ds1 didn't like it either.). My left is very much an underproducer despite power pumping/upping feedings. I've just accepted that. My right side seems to have oversupply or a fast letdown. He may have some reflux, too, but pedi isn't sure. He seems satisfied with 3.25oz of ebm.
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