Yesterday, 10:04 PM
Hi everyone, thanks for your thoughts. I had not thought about the option of not talking to her about it. She is quite reserved and I try to prepare her for new things like swimming lessons, going to dentist, etc. But I guess weaning is more like talking or walking, and you don't really need to talk about it!
Yes, the thing I would like most is for her to fall asleep at naps without a nipple in her mouth. But she will NOT do it. I can lie with her for three hours and she does not fall asleep. She plays in the bed, until I get sick of lying there. Eventually I send her downstairs to my husband so I can get some work done. I feel that naps are still important, but she freaks out when I pull the nipple out unless she is 100% dead to the world (which is often hard to achieve). If I don't put the nipple back in, she cries and wakes up, and then won't go back to sleep again. sigh.
I know 20 is just a number to her (but scary to me - ha ha)…what I meant by denial is that she just can't imagine life without nursing. It's so important to her.
Songsparrow - I am probably not the best person to advise on how to get a child to sleep without nursing, but what I did at night was eventually, after she was >3, I told her as she came to nurse at night "when my boobs get tired I am going to say 'boobs are tired' and then it will be time to stop nursing and go to sleep". She cried and fussed the first night, but then she got into it. Actually it precipitated a very nice time for us,...