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  • @llli*3littlesprouts's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:36 PM
    Did anybody else have to sign a form saying they PROMISED not to cosleep with their newborn when the left the hospital? Or have a nurse come to your home to "check their weight" and ask a suspicious amount of questions on sleeping arrangements? Okay... Maybe I'm a little paranoid. BUT, I actually used to think it was against the law the way the doctors and nurses talked about it. Needless to say, I coslept with my twins very early on and still do 7 months later. I have a few reasons, one being general laziness, the other being my love for baby snuggles, and also to make up for the day. I sometimes let them put themselves to sleep for their naps and to avoid resentment (are those stories even true???) I give them extra lovies at night. Here are my questions... Is it possible to night wean, but continue to co sleep? I did with my son, but I used pacifiers and the girls won't take them. They may still need one night feed, but it seems like they're nursing all night. Also. Since there are two, I usually put one on each side of me and I roll to nurse one while the other sleeps, and then roll back when the other wakes. If they wake at the same time, I lay on my back holding them on my chest, with pillows supporting my elbows. Is there a better way? Will it damage my ribs with 25-30 lbs on my chest half the night? Sometimes I wake up feeling like my lungs are a little compressed. Does anybody have another child with whom the baby accepts as a substitute for night...
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:51 PM
    I don't have the time to fully express (pardon the pun) coherently all I think about these issues but mostly I think this: the vast majority of parents, nursing or not, are doing their best for their children. We should treat them with respect. I think there is some pretty unpleasant rhetoric in some breastfeeding circles about people who formula feed and I'm not ok with that. Thank you for sharing this article! I've never heard negative rhetoric in person in re formula feeding (the only example I think I've encountered via media was one couple featured in Breastmilk, the recent documentary), but believe it exists, as I know that negative comments are directed at breastfeeding moms too. I think all of this hubbub about mommy warring is for the most part a media creation though, and for the most part, women are not tearing each other down but are just going about our lives. I wonder-- would you agree with the statement that breastfeeding rates are somewhat a canary in a coal mine, for health of a society? An indicator of sorts? Certainly not the only indicator, or necessarily the most important above all else, but an important indicator of family policy, structural health, etc? I'm just thinking out loud, (typing), and not sure if I think this or no... Because I suppose there are many countries with high breastfeeding rates, but that would still be places I would very much not like to live. So I wonder if I would call it a canary, but only if there were a few other...
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  • @llli*poppy123's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:28 PM
    Is it possible that he's so hungry that he can't wake up to feed? I was nursing him for on and off 10mins and he fell asleep.
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  • @llli*poppy123's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:03 PM
    He's 6weeks 5 days old now and taking 100-140ml per feed. Is that too much for someone his age? most of the time he rejects the breasts, even if he doesn't he's only on it for 5mins. I find that he's more willing to stay on breasts with nipple shield on. Maybe cos it's similar to bottle teat. That's why I've been using the shield for my left nipple too which isn't flat. I understand that I might have to pump after feed with shield on but that's not my concern now as long as he's willing to feed from breast. I do use paced bottle feeding now but not my hubby and mum when they feed him. It does take longer to feed him and he gets tired from drinking from bottle. Besides breast compression, is there any other way to make milk Flow faster?
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:56 PM
    It took me several weeks on Domperidone for my supply to improve (but I didn't start taking it till after 4 months, I started with 30 mg 3x per day) I eventually got to a point that I actually leaked between nursing and definitely felt full so I slowly reduced my dosage. I'm now at 70 mg per day total but when I drop to 60 mg per day I definitely feel supply is low.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:52 PM
    Yep as Maddieb says, nurse nurse nurse, can't hurt. Think of these first three months as the 4th trimester. You can't spoil a baby by holding or nursing. And nursing every hour and a half is not outrageously frequent, My LO often nurses every hour when awake and he is 8 months old now. How frequent nursing happens will depend not only on the baby but also on Mom's storage capacity and there is nothing wrong with nursing every 45 minutes if that is what mom and baby want. Cue feeding is also not JUST baby's cues. If mom feels it is time to nurse, then offer to nurse even if baby hasn't cued to eat yet. And if it turns out baby was just sucking fingers because they were interesting instead of actually being hungry, then baby can refuse to latch on or not as baby sees fit so don't feel that offering to nurse is ever the wrong thing to do. When baby is done nursing or if baby doesn't want to nurse yet, then you can just hang out instead.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:20 PM
    Well, baby being satisfied at the breast when baby was not before would be one sign. some others that may occur: Feeling 'fuller' between feedings or pumping sessions Baby swallowing more often or 'harder' during breast feedings More milk when you pump or 'faster' pumping (not very reliable so if this is NOT happening, don't worry.) Baby growing normally with less or no supplements Output (pee and poop) unaffected even with less or no supplements More output.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:11 PM
    I call that momma instinct. Momma instinct is seldom wrong. So yes, I would say you are overthinking as your thinking about if it is ok to offer to nurse is overriding your instinct to just nurse. It cannot possibly hurt to offer to nurse a baby. There is no such thing as too much nursing, at least not during this period. If baby does not want to nurse, he will let you know and then you can do something else. At 12 days, very frequent nursing overall is the norm. In fact, this is the time (starting between one and 2 weeks of age) that a baby who was perhaps sleepier in the first few days after birth kind of "wakes up" and wants to nurse even more frequently than before. Maybe your baby was having a growth spurt, but it may be helpful to think of the first few months as a time of very rapid growth and lots of nursing. Baby is growing as fast now as baby was growing the last few weeks in the womb, when baby was nourished continuously.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:31 PM
    The article totally overlooks the health benefits to the mother of breastfeeding. And sidesteps the "why" that makes it so hard for the lower class mothers to continue breastfeeding after they go back to work compared to the "managerial class" which is probably primarily having the time and facilities to pump at work. As to "breastfeeding at all costs" ? Well this is a breastfeeding support forum so I wouldn't expect to see moms here to be telling other moms to just give up and formula feed. That said, I've not seen anyone being condemning of using formula when it is needed during my short time reading/posting here. There is plenty of applause for those moms who go to great lengths to make breastfeeding work but still plenty of understanding for the situations when that isn't possible.
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  • @llli*liz.g.autry's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:21 PM
    I've been struggling with low milk supply since my daughter was born 13 weeks premature in July. I've been supplementing about 10oz by bottle, about half expressed breastmilk, half formula. I started domperidone on Monday, 10mg 3x a day. Usually I breastfeed and then offer hera bottleto finish up. Today she hasn't shown much interest in the the bottle and seems satisfied after breastfeeding, falling asleep after and waking after a while alert and happy. What signs should I be looking for to indicate that my supply is increasing ?
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  • @llli*soblessed's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:19 PM
    So my son is 12 days old and fresh off of a growth spurt where I was feeding every hour and a half. For the last few days every time he made a peep he wanted to eat. Now im not so sure. He of course will do the regular rooting and sucking on his hands but then he will be content to suck on his fingers for a bit. But I automatically catch myself wanting to instantly put him on me. Am I jumping the gun? I dont want him to get so stressed out that he is in a fit due to being hungry but I also dont want to put him on me when he could just be hanging out and content. I think im over-thinking?
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:54 PM
    nursing and pumping extra on that breast are most likely things to increase the supply on that breast. Herbs and medications act on both breasts.
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  • @llli*elisabet's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:51 PM
    Thank u for that advise :) I will def try to go through with this. We are also teaching her to ask for other things and not demand them. I dont think she is doing it on purpose or even realize that she is being rude cause we have really never thought about this before. We feel like she was just a baby yesterday and it is sometimes hard to keep up with her growth!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:32 PM
    Your post brings up so many ideas, not to mention everything in the article, I cannot possibly tackle them all. So I am going to just address this one. LLL is a private organization, neither commercial nor governmental, so it is not mandated by anyone or any body to do anything. Here is some info about LLL and its purpose and philosophy. http://www.llli.org/lad/talll/faq.html#purpose "Leaders represent La Leche League, so it is important to know what the organization believes and does." Please note, agreement with these ideas are absolutely NOT a requirement for getting help through LLL , joining LLL, etc. -italics mine) "The general purpose of LLL is to help the mother learn to breastfeed her baby, to encourage good mothering through breastfeeding, and to promote a better understanding of breastfeeding and related subjects.
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  • @llli*cdts9812's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:18 PM
    I have a 4 week old son and I want to increase my supply. I got mastitis when he was two weeks old and my supply in one breast decreased significantly. At this point the doctors told me to pump and feed him until the infection was gone because they were afraid i had an abscess. I did as the doctors told me and now I have been try to go back to feeding on the breast but my milk supply in the one breast is still hardly anything and I have tried fenugreek. Suggestions?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:35 PM
    Good article for mothers concerned about low milk production http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/supply-worries/low-supply/
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  • @llli*nola's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:14 PM
    The medication is fairly new, so there is not much information on it yet, many places when looked up it says "not reviewed". The pain is not from nursing, but from the illness not being treated. I've decided to wean over the next 1-3 months.
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:02 PM
    Nursing my 3yo son and cosleeping/nursing overnight. Take heart! I have a relatively simple fix for you. Whining has always been a non-starter for me, so I made it a priority to teach DS the nursing manners he needed for me to be my best self in response. My recommendation is to be laser focused and 100% consistent in enforcing polite requests to nurse during the day. This will carry over to night time requests in about a week or two. If your child doesn't say please and ask without whining or hitting, keep this message: "I am happy to nurse when you ask by saying, "please may I nurse." I will not nurse you unless you ask nicely." Enforce this gently but firmly, even at night. If your child learns to associate polite requests with nursing, with the natural consequence of rudeness being your unwillingness to nurse, she will learn quickly. By 2, nursing is, in large part, about tapping into a satisfying relationship with mum. Remember that a relationship is a two-way exchange, and it is not unreasonable to expect to be treated politely. After doing exactly what I describe above, my son will often half-wake at night and say, "Mama, I love you. Can I please nurse?" It makes me so happy to be able to say yes to a request like that. It's all in how the request is framed! :)
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:17 AM
    Agree with PP about teething. My baby who never really enjoyed nursing so much is a boobhugger when he's teething. Sometimes he'll even cry if I'd unlatch him. At 9 months you could be getting your period back. Even if not, your body could be undergoing a hormonal shift, whether it's ovulation, pregnancy, or an impending period. If you're not doing anything differently and your baby is still nursing the same as always, it's probably not a decrease in demand, but rather a hormonal reason. If that's the case, just give it a few days to sort itself out (it won't help if you increase demand), unless it's a pregnancy ;)
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:13 AM
    My baby stopped taking expressed BM during the day while I'm at work (8 hours) so I could've technically stopped pumping then, but I still pump once just so I don't go 9 hours between feedings. I always breastfeed more during the weekends because I am home with him Fri-Sunday. Even though I might not have much, I still nurse him. But it's not really enough for him so if he wants food also, so be it. Also there's no way of knowing your baby was fussy then because of lower supply.
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:53 AM
    ​I had the same issue as you, only with much less milk (about 100 oz.). I was about to throw it out when my friend told me that her friend collects breastmilk that mothers aren't using and she gives them to mothers of sick babies who can't pump for their babies or aren't getting enough milk etc. So I called up this person and told her my story and she said that sometimes they can use it if the baby isn't being fed via mouth so they wouldn't even taste it. I gave her my whole stash. Since then I still freeze my milk (can't scald at work, it's too complicated) but never let it get past a few weeks old. I find that although there's a smell and bad taste after a day or two, my baby takes it just fine when it's mixed into stuff. And if I freeze immediately after pumping, I can get a few days out of it before it turns bad. I don't know how old your baby is but from your post, sounds like she's over 6 months old. Are you giving her cereal yet, like oatmeal? I use the lipasey milk for that. I mix the milk plus oatmeal plus a dash of pureed fruits or veggies and my baby has no problem with it. These days I don't bother freezing, I just refrigerate after pumping and we use it the next morning for breakfast (he doesn't need EBM during the day while I"m at work anymore, he drinks water then).​
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  • @llli*3littlesprouts's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:19 AM
    My son dry nursed for over six months and the way I got him to stop was with a pacifier. At 21 months I highly doubt you want to introduce a pacifier, but is there some other calm loving way you could give him attention that might take its place? It may just be because you're pregnant and he's feeling a bit jealous. My son was 23 months when I was 7 months pregnant and he started getting really attached to me around that time, started wetting his pants again, and many other things that cried for attention and mommy time! Also maybe teething? My son had stopped nursing by that age, but he was always chewing or sucking on something. Maybe checking for molars and giving a pain relieving remedy could help? Just some ideas as I know how frustrating that is, especially while pregnant!
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:45 AM
    I think the answer varies person to person... I know folks who have breastfed around working hours whose supply seemed really elastic and they could feed when together and not pump and others who struggled to maintain supply without pumping. If switching breasts is all it took to settle her I'd roll with it and suck up the night wakings, but if she seems hungry and feeding isn't helping whip up a bottle of formula.
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  • @llli*brusselssprout14's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:38 AM
    I'm in the exact same situation, a month later than you, so I can share my experience although it's not necessarily the right answer, just what works for us. I stopped pumping at work 1.5 months ago, but we still do morning and evening nursing. She is 9 months and takes 250 mL (8.5 oz) of formula during the day as well as solids. On the weekends, I breastfeed first, and then offer a top-up with a bottle. I keep the formula in the fridge between feeds, and she usually goes through almost the same amount that she takes during the day at daycare. I can tell that my supply varies week to week, so sometimes she doesn't need the formula on a particularly good day. Also it ranges with the amount of solids she eats. At least by offering the breast first, there's some sucking going on to help stimulate more production. I definitely notice I am more full on Mondays after this method. Hope it helps!
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:22 AM
    Just to say definitely try to see if it is a lipase issue... My milk tastes yuk after about 10-12 hours but DD used to take it fine when we were supplementing. I expressed and stored it correctly (back of the fridge etc and taste tasted every hour until I detected a change and then used this time as a frame of when to scald the milk by. Depending on how much lipase is in the long lasting depends on how long it will keep etc. There is a great thread on lipase issues on here! It's worth finding out so you can scald any new stash first! And you know I would probably literally cry the loss of this milk... but as PP's have said you can keep pumping and get back on track as frustrating as that is :( Instead of dumping it tho milk banks take lipase affected milk and/or you can find other uses for it... It's great for nappy rash, excema etc!
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:13 AM
    (Looks like bsua65 and I had the same thoughts!)
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