Today, 04:13 PM
Toddlers are such interesting creatures! My daughter just turned 2, and it definitely takes a lot of energy to do the things that seem to help make our days more peaceful. The biggest thing is offering as many choices as possible, like 'do you want to wear shorts or a dress today?' and 'do you want to brush your teeth and go to bed, or brush your teeth then read a story and go to bed?'. Either choice is fine with me, and giving her some control makes her much more agreeable. The other thing is to let her know what we're going to do, and how I expect her to behave before we get there. For example 'we're going to the library after breakfast. How do we behave in the library? We keep our voices down, and no running'. We repeat the expected behaviour on the way there. It's no guarantee that she won't do those things, but usually all I have to say while we're there is 'how do we behave in the library', and she'll stop. Generally, things have to be repeated about a million times for them to sink in, so it does take a lot of patience. The last thing is to just give her attention when she needs it, as much as possible and within reason. Many times she'll do things she's not supposed to do when I'm distracted (like standing on the couch while I'm cooking supper), but if I can redirect her to a different, more acceptable activity (like colouring in her chair and singing songs with her), we're both happier!