Yesterday, 08:27 PM
Hi, so I had to run before and posted without completing one of my thoughts. What I was going to add was that, even if you can only pump 4 times a day, or even less, one thing you can know for sure is that will be better for milk production than not pumping/nursing at all. In other words, if that is what you can do, do that, and your baby will certainly get more of your breastmilk, for longer, than if you did not do that.
Ok, so I understand your situation is unique with your 15 year old. Every situation is. My point was, even in the best of circumstances, newborn babies require lots and lots of time and energy. Way more than anyone will tell you, way more than anyone can imagine prior to having a baby, or remember later. I have had three children, and every time, I am amazed again at how incredibly time consuming and exhausting newborn care is. And most siblings, while they survive the experience, experience jealousy of and resentment about a new sibling.
Lots of new moms have older kids, older kids with special needs, important jobs, aging parents, ill spouses, etc etc... I would never say they neglected their families because they focused their attention on their newborns. So I will not agree that you are neglecting anyone. That was my point.
There are many ways to make pumping more manageable, but I don't know if you want those suggestions or not. If you do, it would help to know what your current pumping routine is now, including how much you pump and how...