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  • @llli*m11612's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:32 PM
    Another thread reminded me of this one so I figured I'd update. :) We're in to distracted nurser phase. He still kneads my breast, sometimes "milks" me, pinches, grabs fistfulls of my breast and twists, bobs off and on and is now turning his head to see things while trying to stay attached. He is very social too so this is often done with a devilish grin. The kid looks proud of himself for maneuvering to grab something off the table behind him while still clamped on. However, he is responding better to social disapproval (i.e., frown and say, "ow, that hurst, be nice to mommy, no pinching") of some undesired behaviors and his true biting behavior has (for now) successfully been extinguished by completely removing my breast and my attention every time he bit. I also encouraged him to "just let go" to end a nursing session. I think he had been using biting to communicate this. So every time he let go I ended the session instead of offering again right away to ensure he was done. This resulted in quite a few times that he cued again immediately and sometimes cried, but we have better communication regarding ending a nursing session now. I wholeheartedly expect this all to change any day now for the worse and the better. We are constantly changing beings and growing,learning babies even more so.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:00 PM
    HI and welcome and congratulations on your new baby. Well, this should just not be, no matter how much your baby nurses. Has nursing always hurt or is this new? How is baby's weight gain? Can you explain the pain a bit, is it related to latch issues do you think? Any chance you and baby have thrush? Thrush might be painful to both of you and might explain some of the behavior. But my initial thought is that the body language could be kneading behavior. Just like other mammals, babies often knead when nursing. But if baby is in a position that feels unnatural to baby, that normal kneading behavior may be misdirected. So I would suggest first trying different positions. Laid back and side lying are probably the most normal nursing positions, biologically speaking, but humans are capable of nursing in so many positions it is a matter of finding what are the "right" positions for you and baby to be most comfortable, and there is a wide variety to try. Probably the most destructive myth about breastfeeding is that there is any difference between nursing due to hunger and nursing due to a need to suck. All normal healthy babies (and even most unhealthy babies) are compelled by their biology to suckle frequently and to comfort at the breast. This is how a baby gets enough to eat, stimulates mother's milk production, AND comforts baby. It is all the same to a baby, and we mess with the biological order when we think there is anything "wrong" with a baby suckling for...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:45 PM
    Are you done because you feel as if you do not want to nurse your baby any longer, or because you think you cannot nurse anymore? Since baby has been supplemented from the start, and we know that is not good for milk production (especially if your pump is not extracting milk properly) then it is hard to know right now what is going on with your milk production. But it is clear your pump is, for whatever reason, not working correctly. Issues with "switching back and forth from breast to bottle" are issues that occur overtime. In other words the baby is fine switching back and forth for a while, and then, is not anymore, and that is the point you start seeing baby more or less refuse to nurse, be reluctant to nurse, or simply less interested in nursing. Before that time, baby may already be not nursing with normal frequency or vigor because baby is being fed with bottles, but this may be going unnoticed. Add that to the potential for milk production issues caused by baby not nursing as often or as vigorously as normal, and it can seem as if baby is suddenly done with nursing. BUt this is not what has happened. Instead, baby has inadvertently been trained to bottle feed instead of breastfeed, which are biologically two very different actions. Your baby has been getting bottles from the start, and it sounds like those bottles are unusually large for your baby's age at least at this point. So I think there is a very strong chance that at least one reason your baby has...
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  • @llli*evergreen474's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:49 PM
    My son is 5 weeks old today and is exclusively BF. He's gaining weight like crazy and everything seems to be fine. Some nursing sessions are fine and he is calm and gets all sleepy at the end. But other times he is fussy (possibly gassy) and pulls on my nipple, claws at me and at his face, and pushes against me with his top arm. As I write this, it sounds like his body language is saying that he's not hungry and has some other need. But when he gets close to my breast he roots around and latches on voraciously. Am I missing something? Is he really hungry or just in need of something to suck? Our pediatrician has said we can use pacifiers so sometimes I just give him the paci to suck on while he works through whatever it is. Between that and some recent cluster feeding from a growth spurt, my breasts and nipples are crazy painful right now! Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?
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  • @llli*jmk2015's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:07 PM
    I was taking a supplement and stopped taking it about 2 months later. I still have some just in case but it's been about a week and my supply is still fine. Good luck!
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  • @llli*dexterslanding's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:54 AM
    For the past few days, he's only been on formula. I hadn't been able to get him to take hardly anything from me, so I just started using formula. I got in contact with some local donors, and picked up some milk today so he could be back on breast milk, at least while I'm trying to figure out whats going on. He drinks from a bottle. He's never had an issue switching back and forth between breast and bottle. I starting using a bottle practically since he came home from the hospital. At that time, however, it was pumped milk, not formula. He eats 4oz about 8-10 times a day. More like 8 I think. I have an ameda purely yours pump. I know about having to change the different pieces frequently in order for it to work well, and that isn't the issue. I would pump a couple times a day and barely get 1 oz. And then he would go to feed and not be able to because everything I had was pumped out. I know I have some milk, because I can express it when I have tried to feed him, but he just freaks out and acts like he can't get anything. I haven't tried breastfeeding in a couple days, because I was convinced I was done with breastfeeding, but someone recommended I get on here and ask around.
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  • @llli*butterfingers's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:06 AM
    Thanks again, your support and advice is welcome. I also do breast sandwich and flipple... Gah, it seems I do need to have faith that things will settle as she gets bigger. Any idea when?!! I have had a couple of more comfortable feeds on the left side today, this is the better side anyway but to counteract the right side seems to be getting worse... Good to know that milk production will settle soon. Onwards and upwards, this too shall pass!
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  • @llli*thawingsnow's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:38 AM
    My 16 month old seems to be a grazer when it comes to eating solids, not all of the time, but most of the time--small quantities when eating, which also seems like it might be very normal, since her little stomach can only hold so much. How often are your kids eating solids every day? How much per sitting? I'm thinking of setting out a snack tray, but how would this work? Have any of you tried a snack tray? I don't want my child running around with the food from the snack tray as this is a choking hazard, so how would the food be presented? Overall, I'm trying to make the eating situation a little less stressful and more easygoing for both of us. Do you sit your child down for every meal, even the little ones, or let them snack on the go? Thank you so much!
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  • @llli*marleenyowakim's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:10 AM
    - He was 7.12 at birth, decreased and returned to his birth weight as usual. At 5 weeks, he was 8.15 - this is when I had my first bout of mastitis. 10 days later when I saw the LC, he dropped to 8.11. Since July 20, he's only increased to 9.4. - He usually nurses every 1 to 1.5 hours - sometimes even 30 minutes after his last feeding. - Nursing feels fine, but I don't hear a lot of swallowing. He sucks a lot, which leads me to believe there isn't enough milk to swallow or he's pacifying. - Pumping feels fine as well. I used to only nurse once or twice per day, but now I nurse after every feeding. In general, I get no more than 4 ounces per day pumping and usually no more than 2 ounces per pump session. - I used the Medela Pump in Style (double pump) - I had a Paragard IUD inserted early August; it's hormone-free.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:59 AM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! The first thing I suggest that you do is to contact Infant Risk (http://www.infantrisk.com) about the antibiotics. It is very common for moms to be told that they must pump and dump when it isn't actually true. The second thing I suggest you do is to get some help. Now is the time to call in the cavalry. Until you get an answer about the meds, you need someone who will hold your baby while you pump. The average feeding for a newborn baby is just around 2 oz (59 ml), with 4 oz (119 ml) being at the high end. So your pump output isn't bad- the issue is that you need to get in there and pump more often! It's untrue that you only have a certain window in which to establish supply. You can increase milk supply at any time. It's easier to do it in the early days/weeks of breastfeeding, but it's always possible.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:50 AM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! I'm sorry breastfeeding hasn't gone smoothly- but don't worry! There's still every reason to think that you can get things back on track. The first thing I suggest you do is to see a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, for some immediate, in-person help with nursing and pumping. Can you tell us some more about how much supplemental formula you are offering (per day and per serving) and how it's being delivered (bottle, finger-feeder, supplemental nursing system, etc.)? It would also be good to know what sort of pump you have, how often you are pumping, and how pumping feels.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:45 AM
    I'm sorry reclined nursing hasn't made a difference! It may be that the cracking is severe enough that even a good latch is going to hurt right now. I would keep using the reclined position- it should be helpful for controlling a fast milk flow at the very least. And experiment with other positions as well. Maybe something will just click! :fingers A strong suck doesn't cause pain when baby is properly latched and the nipple is sitting in the ideal position on the back of the tongue, underneath the soft palate. Any suck will cause pain and tissue damage if the nipple is sitting on the front of the tongue, underneath the hard palate. You can understand this simply by sucking on your own finger. If it's sitting at the front of your tongue, just behind your teeth, you are going to feel a lot of friction and pressure as you suck. When the fingertip is on the back of your tongue- almost down to the opening of your throat- and you suck, you'll realize that all the motion is happening at the front of your mouth, and that the back of the tongue is almost motionless. This is why we call it breastfeeding, not nipplefeeding- ideally, the baby is sucking on your breast, not your nipple! Young babies often have difficulty getting the nipple deep into their mouth due to their small mouths. It may help to use a technique called the "breast sandwich". You can find a description here: http://feedthebabyllc.com/latch-and-positioning/ Google it as well- there are a ton of...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:28 AM
    Not necessarily. Sometimes a tie is structured in such a way that it doesn't affect feeding but still hurts mom.
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  • @llli*lmt5007's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:55 AM
    Several new label designs are available at www.lechelabels.com (previously dittilabels.com)! You can now select a letter of the alphabet or a zoo animal. These labels save me so much time in the morning. I ordered a 3 month supply and just placed a second order. Another benefit... if your daycare requires you to label the bottle with either 'Breastmilk' or 'Formula', you can add this information to the order and the LecheLabel's design team will design a label that includes this information. Highly recommend these labels!
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  • @llli*fruitysher's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:11 AM
    I developed HELLP syndrome and my baby was delivered via emergency c section at 32 weeks. I think the lactation consultant visited me within 12 hours of the surgery to get me started pumping with a Medela Symphony. I happened to leak a significant amount of colostrum the day before she was born and was able to pump 18ml on my first try. The amount decreased for a few days to nothing at all and then my milk came in. I seemed to be pumping a decent amount from the get go but between too many visitors always in my room and trips back and forth to the NICU for weeks, I was never very consistent about pumping every 3 hours as I was instructed. I often went 5-7 hours without pumping and always figured I was doing okay because I was way ahead of the amount she was taking I at the time and the nurses were all so enthusiastic about the full bottles I'd bring in (I could yield about 4oz total after a stretch of 7 hours without pumping for a couple of weeks before my supply dwindled). Sometimes I'd pump more often than others. I still wasn't that consistent when my supply dropped off because I was an idiot and didn't know about needing to establish a full supply before the hormones shifted. Now the baby is home- she's almost 12 weeks actual, 3 weeks adjusted. From the get go in the NICU, she breastfed remarkably well and we supplemented per the NICU instructions upon arriving at home until the pediatrician said we could EBF. After 2 weeks of exclusive BF, the pediatrician thought we...
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  • @llli*dexterslanding's Avatar
    August 28th, 2015, 11:27 PM
    Hello, severely frustrated mama here. My baby boy is 10 weeks old and we have been struggling with breastfeeding lately. From the start, it has been a battle. The first couple days were extremely rough, and I had to go back to the hospital to see a lactation consultant. She gave me a nipple shield to use because she said my nipples were "too short" and he was having a difficult time latching on. He had to do weekly weight checks for the first month because of this. We are STILL on the shield (which is my next issue to resolve) and things were going decently until a week ago. Ive always felt like I had a slightly low milk supply, because I was never able to get much when I pumped, and it was impossible for me to pump and breastfeed, unless he slept for a good amount of time in between feedings (i.e. 4 plus hours). Recently, it seems like my milk supply has tanked, and is getting smaller with each passing day. It started out with him breastfeeding, then acting hungry 10 to 20 minutes later and returning to feed some more. Then, he could no longer return to feed because I basically had nothing left. Now, I can't even get him to sit though one full feeding. He gets about ten minutes in or so and starts acting hysterical, like he can't get enough to suffice him. He starts rooting like crazy and kicking and screaming, but when he calms down and latches on again, he just starts it all over because his hunger isn't being stifled. Because of this, I have had to start supplementing...
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  • @llli*umg's Avatar
    August 28th, 2015, 11:16 PM
    I'll leave the advice to the experts since I'm new here but I just wanted to say it's going to be okay. You are not alone even if you feel you are right now. Many have gone through similar situations and it all passes. You are doing a great job and your baby is lucky to have you. :)
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