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  • @llli*mazeejay's Avatar
    Today, 05:23 AM
    I just wanted to update and thank everyone who gave me advice. My baby, yeah the same one who wasn't gaining weight, the same one who docs wanted to do blood work on and put on formula. The one who docs wanted me to spend $350 on buying milk fortifiers is now the cutest little chunker you ever saw. He is gaining and is about 15lbs now at 10weeks and is even wearing his 6 month outfits now!!! All while being EBF!!Not a drop of formula! lol..I thank God and thank you ladies!
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  • @llli*usafreat's Avatar
    Today, 04:21 AM
    It's so nice to say after all of the issues in the beginning that I successfully breastfed my little sunshine for one year! To anyone questioning themselves--you can do it! Truthfully I feel excited to be freed up a bit from nursing but I feel sick in my stomach at the same time. It's like I have to accept it again (first time being the introducing solids) and I know one day my girl will be old and I'll miss these days so much. But now onto dealing with the pressure of food! Right quantity, balanced food groups, still aiming to bf to cover dairy needs but into weaning too- is overwhelming! Anyone with breakfast ideas I'd love to hear some. Can I cook oatmeal with almond milk? I avoid processed foods and baby kind of has to avoid brat foods :/
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  • @llli*american.honey's Avatar
    Today, 01:02 AM
    Thanks to everyone for all the great advice. I'm just enjoying the fact that we can still breastfeed at this point. It's such a miracle, what a woman's body can do for her baby. I'm totally in awe, that we are mommy milking machines. :rotflmao. Mommal, as far as the food variety I'm still very limited with my daughter. I'm still Leary about peanut butter and honey. Although the Ped said it was okay. She actually does okay with Strawberries and mangos. She's been eating those for a while now. I just recently started her on egg, but egg scares me. She seems fine, but I don't offer too much. I also offered her 2 flavored yogurts this week. But cows milk (dairy) really freaks me out. I think I'm gonna hold off till she's older. What are good breakfast ideas? I do not offer toast either. She had a problem with constipation so I watch what I give her. My poor baby would cry in pain because it hurt her to poop. Since her ped visit he recommended some fixes for her constipation, since the prune & pear juice weren't cutting it. I do give her prunes, pears, peaches ( when in season ) peas; however what else is good for constipation? As far as water intake, since I've always been a runner/ gym rat, I drink crazy amounts of water. So drinking to thirst isn't me. I drink quite a bit of water. But my body is use to it. Thanks for the advice all around. Ruchiccio, I don't have the problem of not fitting in my clothes. I actually have lost all the weight and then some according...
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:55 AM
    Can I just say that you ladies are awesome? Really. I was feeling extremely unsure of my decision, mired in fear, and quite alone, and you have all given me so much love and reassurance. I love hearing everyone's stories about nursing prevailing in special circumstances. You're giving me the confidence to trust my body and my child to sustain this very important relationship. I am so grateful to all of you for your kindness and support at this time.
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:52 AM
    In my faith, natural family planning, broadly speaking, is the only form of birth control permitted.
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:48 AM
    Mommal, you are a total doll. I think you will turn out to be right and, in the unlikely event that you aren't, I have no plan to hold you to your crow-eating promise (though, if you have a penchant for unusual game-bird-eating, who am I to stop you? ;) )
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:47 AM
    Thank you so much for everything you shared, sonogirl. It helps so much to get feedback and commiseration like yours. This decision has been so isolating IRL that it is a balm to my weary heart to be able to commiserate with other mamas who have gone through a similar process of tapering off a support for lactation. I'm coming to appreciate that there are striking similarities between pregnant nursing mothers, mothers weaning from pumping, and mothers tapering off domperidone. I'm taking comfort in learning that these transitions can represent opportunities to consciously sustain the nursing relationship even after a lactation support has been removed. While the situational specifics might vary, the underlying challenge we grapple with is protecting our little ones' very real needs while managing the shifting trade-off between family members' needs. My hope is that coming off the Dom will, in itself, be sufficient to allow my cycles to return. I'm hopeful that I will still be able to produce enough for DS to nurse 5-6 times a day. Even at times where he has consumed all the milk in my breasts, he tells me he likes to keep nursing even without milk. I think at this point, I need to take a leap of faith and just see what my body does. The lack of certainty, combined with knowing the decision is my doing, is the hardest part for me. As you said, it's hard to be the one to consciously make a call to reduce or eliminate a support that you know assists lactation. It feels...
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:32 AM
    You have me intrigued! Would you mind sharing your dose (am I right to understand you are no longer taking domperidone at all now?), your nursing frequency on and off domperidone, and the timeframe over which you tapered off the drug? How long after weaning, and at what nursing frequency, did your cycles return? Reading your post literally let some of my stress melt away. I am so happy for you that you have been able to keep up nursing! (Good luck TTC!!! Sending my fertility your way! ;) )Your story has given me a renewed confidence in my body's ability to maintain some supply for DS.
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:26 AM
    Thanks for sharing your story about your children maintaining nursing during pregnancy, anaduralia! Nursing through pregnancy is a great analog that I hadn't considered! I am feeling more reassured thanks to your post. :)
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:23 AM
    Thanks tclynx! I think some of your well wishes have come through, because a wave of peace of mind has helped me calmly decide to move forward. :) Domperidone is a wonderful option for mothers who need some support maintaining a nursing relationship. Definitely keep up your dose if it is supporting your desired level of lactation. At your daughter's age, it is, IMO, more important to keep up the nursing than to be drug free. I will make a weekly post during the taper in this thread on my progress. I am hopeful that I will be able to support ~5 feeds a day off domperidone while resuming cycling. Let's see if my body agrees! :)
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  • @llli*alphawoman's Avatar
    Today, 12:00 AM
    My 3yo is currently asleep with his arm draped happily over my breast. DS' best friend (also 3) cosleeps with his mother, though doesn't nurse. His mother is just weaning his 6 month old baby sister, who sleeps in a crib in the parents' room. Another friend, who was unfortunately given terrible medical care and never breastfed, cosleept with her son until he turned 7. My youngest brother in law slept in his parents' room sporadically until 10. My good friend has 3 children, aged 8 months to 4 years, and the children get to take turns cosleeping in the parents' bed or sharing with a sibling (except the baby). The mother was unable to breastfeed the first, breastfed the second until her supply dried up during pregnancy with the third, and is currently nursing her youngest. She has told me she would have co-slept while nursing with all of them until 2+ if they had elected to space the children further apart.
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  • @llli*sahwnm's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:18 PM
    Dear moms, I am wondering if you could share your experience with me. I am still nursing my child who is turning 14 month old soon. About three weeks ago, I got my first period after not having it for almost 2 years. Now three weeks later, I still have the period and tonight, I got the worst cramp ever in my life to a point that I couldn't function at all for at least 1/2 hour. My periods prior to pregnancy never had such serious cramp. I am wondering if this is normal? About how many days/weeks did your postpartum first period last? Did you have any cramps? I think my period has also decreased my milk supply, and my toddler has bitten me several times out of frustration of not getting enough milk. I never had issues with milk supply prior to that. It has been a difficult few weeks for me.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:08 PM
    You and your child are 100 percent normal and you have not done anything wrong. He WILL eventually learn to sleep in his own bed and without nursing. You can move that process along faster if you like, or just let things be for now, as you please. Rest assured, it will happen either way. For a refreshing perspective on bedsharing and many other parenting concerns, I suggest the book Kiss Me! How to Raise Your Child With Love by Carlos Gonzalez, a pediatrician.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:05 PM
    thanks for the update! I am happy that book helped you get some answers, I suggest it all the time. Yes there is no doubt tongue tie can cause not only painful latch but also poor milk transfer leading to low milk production. It is amazing you nursed your baby 8 months despite these challenges. Please let us know if we can help in any way with this baby.
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  • @llli*boogabbalucky's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:01 PM
    Totally normal. Sometimes I will go a week or two with one side consistently producing more and then out of the blue it switches to the other side. Also - I was one of those people that could NEVER just pump one side. I couldn't ever get my breast to empty and sometimes wouldn't let down at all. So, I either had to pump one side while nursing, or wait a bit and pump both. Maybe your body struggled to really let down when you pumped the one side and didn't drain it very well, and then were able to remove much more milk when you pumped both sides later? With regard to dropping a pumping session - while I am away from my baby at work she eats three times. However, I quickly realized upon returning to work that I cannot fit three pumping sessions in. I dropped a pump as well, but am still able to pump the much the same amount with two sessions (25 minutes each - it takes a little longer) than I was doing with three. As long as I completely drain my breasts it works and I haven't had a change in supply. Just an FYI - not sure if you care about that or not since I know it wasn't your question :)
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:57 PM
    Hi glassonion. Here are a few questions I ask if I am trying to figure out if there is potentially a breastfeeding problem. Is baby gaining weight normally? Is nursing comfortable for mom? Is mom feeling overall ok with how things are going? Is baby overall healthy? You are using a nipple shield sometimes. Do you need to use it at all? Is it still uncomfortable to nurse? Does the shield help with the discomfort or anything else? How long it takes a baby to nurse can vary and 40 minutes is not unusual in a newborn. However we do know that shields can interfere with milk transfer. It is entirely normal for a baby to fall asleep when nursing. This is only a problem if baby is not gaining, and even then the problem is the not gaining, not the sleeping.
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  • @llli*gallifreyshawkeye's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:46 PM
    Thanks! It's certainly worth a try! I think one of the things compounding our difficulties right now, is the fact that he's teething, and I can tell his mouth is bugging him when he nurses which I'm sure makes him more squirmy than he'd otherwise be :(
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  • @llli*glassonion91168's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:00 PM
    Hello All, I have a 5 week old baby and I'm looking to see if based on my particular situation if I'm successfully breastfeeding. A little background: My baby was born at 9 pounds and is a very strong sucker. I found it hard to directly breastfeed him at first, particularly because he tends to not open his mouth very wide sometimes (which was painful) and most of the time keeps his eyes closed while feeding. The first few days were painful, so I reluctantly started using a nipple shield. I've kept with it until late last night and today. Normally, it takes me about 40 minutes to feed him with the shield, and I usually offer both sides and he takes them most of the time. When I decided to offer to feed him without the shield, it seemed as though his feeding time on one side was cut in half. I'm worried that he isn't getting enough to eat, but I'm finding that he now takes just one side and then falls asleep. Without the shield, he sometimes will make a smacking noise, almost as if he doesn't have a good latch going, but I don't feel pain. Without the shield, he sometimes makes a smacking noise, as if he's having a hard time keeping the latch (but he doesn't let go and it's not painful). Usually he's up around 9 PM until 11 or so, and I then feed him one more time before putting him down for the night. Last night however I tried to rouse him to feed around 11 and he wouldn't have it, so I let him basically sleep through until 5 and pumped at 11.
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  • @llli*amypo28's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:50 PM
    Congrats!! I agree with the pp who said that breastfeeding is so much more enjoyable now that the pressure to provide all of baby's nutrition is lessened. I have almost made it to the two year mark... My son's second birthday is next week. Breastfeeding through this second year has really helped to tame toddlerhood! These days, we just nurse to sleep, once or twice during the night and whenever he asks for it. Have you read Mothering your nursing toddler or My child won't eat? Both books are really good. Lots of helpful info that you won't get from your pediatrician. :) Keep up the good work!!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:42 PM
    have you tried talking to an English speaking LLL Leader in Japan? looks like there are some English language groups go to bottom of this page http://www.llli.org/japan.html here is an article specifically for large breasted moms http://www.llli.org/llleaderweb/lv/lvmayjun89p35.html Below I link info on laid back. This position is helpful because it is so adjustable and gravity works for you. You can lean back as much or as little as you like and baby can be in any position. It also helps with arm flailing. Some moms figure out latch while standing up before they figure it out sitting down. What about sidelying? see below link
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:13 PM
    I can't read this website myself, so can't vouch for it being up to date or relevant-- and if it is, you may have already checked it out or know of this group. http://www.amningshjalpen.se I found this link on Ameda (breastpump manufacturer)'s website, and they offered this description: "The Swedish Nursing Mothers Support Group supplies counseling and support to parents-to-be and new parents that want to breastfeed their children. They spread knowledge and information about breastfeeding and work for a living breastfeeding culture in Sweden and other countries. Their site is mainly written in Swedish." Are you familiar with this group? Do they offer peer support, or mother-to-mother services?
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  • @llli*mommymoru's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:05 PM
    I haven't seen any of his yet. I'll give it a looksie now that I've a few minutes of reprieve. Thanks.
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  • @llli*erin.in.middletown's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:58 PM
    Congratulations on your new little one, mommymaru, and I am glad that you are here. I'm sorry that the support you've received so far has been spotty or unhelpful. I hope that some others may be able to respond in depth soon; I'm on my phone and can't manage a thorough reply on the little screen with my thumbs. In the meantime, you mention that you've been trying to watch some videos online for tips. Have you accessed any by Dr. Jack Newman? He runs a renowned breastfeeding clinic in Canada, is a breastfeeding advocate etc. He has many quality videos, and would be worth checking out if you haven't seen them yet. I will try to add more if others don't respond with more ideas soon, too. These first few weeks and days can be so rough.
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  • @llli*mommymoru's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:35 PM
    Hello. A friend of mine recommended this site in case I needed help with baby things, especially breast feeding. I'm a FTM and currently live in Japan and I have no support system of other moms around me here to go to for advice and, where I live, there aren't a lot of English speaking doctors to help answer my questions. I saw a lactation specialist just yesterday but they did little to help answer what questions I did have but they didn't really show me anything or help with what I really was frustrated with because the consultant couldn't understand my questions. For starters, my LO was born Dec 3 via c-section. During the first couple of days, I hardly saw him even though I expressed I wanted to feed him breast milk. While in hospital, they supplemented milk a lot during the days I was there and I tried my best to breast feed when I could. However, the help they gave me wasn't really clear as they didn't speak English well so my son wasn't latching well in hospital. We've tried various positions and he still is getting a shallow latch. I've watched videos online to get some sort of tips on how to do it properly but my LO has a small mouth and my boobs are somewhere around a J cup now that my milk has come in. My nipples don't even pucker out even though I try to massage them to get them perky enough for a good position, too. On top of that, LO doesn't open wide when trying to latch and his head always points down, not up when I try to latch him on. I'm holding him...
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  • @llli*nat38's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:53 PM
    thanks ladies for the replies! Someone asked if DS nurses during the day - he does first thing in the morning (which I can sometimes refuse with distraction) and naptime only during weekends and if he is having a nap, which is 50/50 and before bedtime. Oh, and during the night when he wakes! so a total of 3-4 times in 24hr I'd say. The main reason I an concerned about weaning is my job - every time I am asked to go to a meeting/conference I panic. The issue is not the BF in itself but the sleep, as it is difficult to get him back to sleep in the middle of the night without boob. So far I have managed to take my DH and LO with me, but it is a lot of money and I am starting to get funny looks at work. Plus it makes me a bit anxious that he depends on me so much to sleep. I know that night weaning doesn't necesraily mean STTN, but I guess that what I am actually looking for is for him to accept other methods and not only BF if that makes any sense. Any ideas?
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  • @llli*tinamanni's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:43 PM
    I just wanted to say thanks for all of then feedback about "non nutritional" nursing. I am letting him nurse however and whenever he wants. Due to LO losing 1 lb after birth we started supplementing with an SNS. We are starting to wean and our routine is: - 10 minutes of nursing on each side (until swallowing stops or he gets sleepy) followed by 1.75 oz formula via SNS - we are up to skipping 2 formula supplements a day.... we had skipped 1for 3 days w good wet diapers and weight gain so we upped it to 2 -I pump after each supplement
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:17 PM
    ok. Yes I am sorry but I really do think there is only so much mom can do trying to figure out nursing on her own when the problem is latch pain this bad by this age, so I hope you can find some help. Especially if there is some physical issue, baby may need treatment in order to latch normally. One thing to think about it is that babies learn to latch by latching, they learn to nurse by nursing. While I do not want you to get injured or be in pain, I do think that trying to nurse more often will be necessary to figure out specifically what is going to work for you. For milk production: First I would suggest, up your pumping frequency. Whenever possible, Do NOT wait until your breasts feel full-this is sending the exact wrong message to your body. The empty breast is a breast that wants to produce more milk, a full breast is sending the message to the body to make less milk. A baby this age would nurse as often as 10 or more times a 24 hour day as a normal thing. So if your pumping frequency can get up to more like the 8-10 a day range, that may do much to increase daily output right there. Remember you do not need to pump on a schedule. Pump more often when you can, and less often when you can't- for example, give yourself a sleep break. But you probably want to avoid going more than 5-6 hours without pumping even overnight.
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  • @llli*ruchiccio's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:42 PM
    Weird question but does anyone mind the way their body's changed since nursing? I feel bad I can't wear all my nice dresses I own because my bust size grew dramatically. I know it goes down once you stop breastfeeding, but even now that I'm nursing half the amount that I did, I'm not much smaller.
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:38 PM
    Nothing to add to the PP's apart from my DD turned one in the past couple of weeks too! Like you we are still feeding and hoping to make it to at least 2 ;)
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  • @llli*bsua65's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:26 PM
    3 months would be a real typical time for nursing habits to change and get quicker. Babys generally do not starve themselves so as long as you are offering and he is feeding try not to worry too much. Rate of gain does decrease as they get older. Hence it being a growth curve and not a straight line! The dream feeds are a great ting to do if you are worried about gain tho!
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