Yesterday, 01:51 PM
Congrats on the new baby! Weaning can be mother-led, child-led, or some combination. My guess is that your son has upped his nursing in response to the big change in his life, ie the arrival of his sister! If you do nothing, he will eventually nurse less. But if you're overwhelmed, it's okay to set limits, too. Some strategies are: don't offer; or tell him you will nurse for a set amount of time (for example, until you count to ten, or for the amount of time it takes to sing "Twinkle Twinkle" twice, or whatever). Personally when I've had enough I tell my toddler she can have one more sip. Lately she's started negotiating with me around that ("no, five more sips!") but for a while that strategy worked really well for us. You can also discuss with him the fact that sister needs to nurse first, for example. But perhaps have some special time where it's just you and him, whether nursing or some other activity he enjoys (cuddles, a bedtime story). The other thing is that while your baby is still a newborn and not distractible, baby nursing sessions are a good time to read a book on the couch with your older child, or have him bring over a toy that you play with with him while he sits next to you. My younger two are 22 months apart so I know it's hard with a newborn and a toddler!