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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 09:57 AM
    Well had a diaper rash a while back that didn't go away right away with the Aquamphore the way it always used to. So went to the Dr (happened to be almost at his 6 month check so all that was taken care of at the same time) Anyway, I thought it was perhaps a yeast infection diaper rash so got nystatin but that didn't clear it up and Dr said to stop using that and try triple paste every diaper change and that seemed to mostly clear it up so it seems we have a contact dermatitis issue with something. We had been using some pampers, some huggies, and the g-pants diapers sometimes cloth sometimes the disposable inserts. The rash showed up sometime after we used the huggies for the first time. For several days I used nothing but the pampers baby dry and the rash seemed to almost totally go away. Last night I used G pants with the disposable inserts but then one diaper change in the early morning I pulled out the disposable insert and stuck in a cloth diaper. I can't be certain if the rash was back before the cloth or not since I did that change in the dark but anyway this morning when we got up the rash is back BAD so using the triple paste again and pampers till it calms down and I can be more careful trying to figure out if the issue is with the disposable inserts or the cloth (which might then be an issue of laundry products and not the cloth itself.)
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 09:13 AM
    Read the book Kiss Me!: How to Raise Your Child with Love by Carlos Gonzalez He also wrote My Child Won't Eat which is also a great read I would ignore that advice and probably also look for another Dr personally but I'm all for attachment parenting. Babies are not calling you to them at night because they want to manipulate you, they are calling you at night because they need that security. They don't self sooth, when you leave them to cry they give up eventually and feel scared and alone when they learn that no one comes to help them. Sleeping away from mom and dad is not natural for babies and in the scheme of species development babies who woke up alone and didn't manage to call someone to help them were likely to die or be eaten. Nursing just seems like the best/quickest way to put baby back to sleep since as noted, night waking doesn't stop just because you night wean. Also, most working moms find that night nursing is a valuable way to keep supply up and baby fed with enough milk since pumping for daycare is hard. And extended nursing has many health benefits for BOTH MOM and BABY so I would resist the advice of any pediatrician that pushed weaning before 2 years.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 08:55 AM
    Just because a bottle of formula means baby goes longer before needing to feed again isn't necessarily a good thing, Most formula are harder to digest so baby often needs more time to digest it. Anyway, I think Mommal's suggestions are good. Wheat and corn are both things that can be detrimental so worth cutting those out instead of milk/soy to see if that changes things. (I'm personally violently intolerant to high fructose corn syrup and my cousin has a son with cealiacs disease and he was near death as a baby till they figured out he was intolerant to gluten.)
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 08:41 AM
    Mine would go 5-10 days normally between poops from about 4 weeks till we started solids. I've ready many places where even 2 weeks is considered normal and some rare babies even longer. Beware that when poop does come it may be massive!!!! When mine was on the weekly poop schedule, usually on the day he pooped it was more like 2-4 poops in quick succession and normally 2 of those would be diaper filling and often more poop would come out on the changing table if we were not careful. I've never been able to wait to let him finish before changing since he has always been very distressed by a poopy diaper. How are the wet diapers going? If there are not plenty of wet diapers one might be concerned about dehydration or insufficient milk intake causing the lack of poops. Anyway, if you get to 2 weeks and baby seems at all uncomfortable or you are at all concerned and Mommal's suggestion doesn't bring on the poop, it is probably time to check in with your Pediatrician about it.
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Today, 08:10 AM
    I'm a 1st time mom to a 6 1/2 month old. We had breastfeeding issues at the start so a paci probably wouldn't have been a good idea but the few times some one did try to give him a paci, he spit it out. Remember that many children don't need them and their fingers, thumbs or fists are enough and those can't be dropped (of course they can't be taken away later so could be a more of a problem to be weaned off of them later too.) My take is that they may be needed for bottle fed babies (since babies need to suck for comfort and that can't be done with a bottle) and should only be used occasionally if absolutely needed with breastfed babies. As in they may be an OK tool for use with breastfed babies who have an extreme need to comfort suck after breastfeeding is well established. As Mommal says, if you are getting sore you should probably get some hands on help from an LC to make sure there are no latch issues since even if baby is nursing all day it shouldn't be making you sore.
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  • @llli*still-learning's Avatar
    Today, 07:25 AM
    If the waking up at night to nurse is ok with you then its fine. I think with doctors we sometimes have to separate medical advice from parenting advice, and the advice you got was parenting. I also feel incredibly blessed to have had the pediatrician we had when my first was little. At her 12 month checkup I was upset that I couldn't get her to sleep through the night, and had no idea how to wean her. He told me it was very normal for babies to want to wake up and nurse even throughout their second year, and if I was still able to function and find ways to rest that there was no issue with it. He also told me I would know when it was time to night wean/wean altogether. I guess I personally feel I've got 18yrs to teach my children to be independent people (and probably a little longer than that). Trying to cram it into the early years is silly to me. Oh, and just an fyi no night nursing does not mean no night waking. My five year old still wakes up in the middle of the night and needs a little help (back rubbed, snuggled..) to get back to sleep. I don’t mind. Mostly because I know this stage won’t last long. But my two year old sleeps through the night…
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  • @llli*filmmommy's Avatar
    Today, 07:08 AM
    Ah, so many of us have been there with pediatricians. I was told this since my LO was 3 months old. Just ignored it! She started sleeping well (usually through the night or one or two wake ups, occasional bad nights) around 18 months to 2 years old. For some reasons pediatricians are taught this old-school way of thinking!
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  • @llli*terriquitecontrary's Avatar
    Today, 06:58 AM
    So, I just took my 12 month old for her 1 year check up with a new doctor yesterday. He asked about her sleep habits and I said she wakes up 2 or 3 times a night to nurse. He said that we needed to stop doing that and that I needed to start teaching her to go back to sleep and self soothe. And he said at this age we are going to start reinforcing her behavior and she will learn that if she wakes up and cries, I will come and get her out of the crib. I told him that I don't like listening to my child cry and that there is research indicating that infants who are left to cry themselves to sleep have more problems with anxiety, etc in the long term. I honestly think I know my daughter best and that there is NOTHING in the world wrong with responding to her cries at this age. If she were 4 or 5 years old and waking up this often, I could understand the concern, but it seems like her sleep habits are within the range of normal. I'm just curious what others think. Obviously, I would eventually like her to start sleeping through the night, but it doesn't seem like it's time to start with the "tough love" yet.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:52 AM
    First of all, a big :hug to you. 6 months of unexplained crying is very stressful, and it's a real confidence shaker when formula seems to magically provide a solution to the problem. Put even in this circumstance, I don't think you want to switch to formula. The only way to make breastfeeding work is to continue to breastfeed. Your baby is gaining weight well and having plenty of wet/dirty diapers. That points to breastfeeding going well on the most basic level. We often say that "breastmilk is best", but making breastmilk into "best" means that we accept formula as the norm, which it isn't. I think it's better to say "breastmilk is the normal nutrition for the human infant", and if you want normal health outcomes for your child, feed her the normal food, right? After weeks of being dairy and soy-free and no changes to your child's behavior, maybe you need to conclude that if your diet is causing her a problem, the culprits are not soy or dairy. In fact, I would feel free to conduct an experiment- have a big glass of milk and see if your baby's behavior or stool changes over the next few days. If it doesn't, have some tofu and see if that changes anything. And if that doesn't change anything either, maybe it's time to eliminate something aside from dairy and soy. I would start with wheat, because that's the other top allergen, and then consider more exotic things like eggs and nuts. This is the gold standard for managing allergic proctocolitis in an...
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:29 AM
    If you make it to 3 months, my guess is that you won't need the supplement anymore. Young babies are often extremely fussy in the evening, and even when milk supply is perfectly adequate or even overabundant, a lot of them will give you either a nursathon or a screamathon (or some combination thereof) until they finally fall into their first stretch of nighttime sleep. Nighttime fussiness isn't necessarily about supply- in fact, it's generally not. And it usually improves markedly by 3 months, and is gone by 6 months.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:25 AM
    That seems fine. My personal choice at 9 months would be to offer a sippy cup with water or breastmilk alongside of meals, just so that baby can get used to manipulating one and using it as part of a meal, but as you say breastmilk can meet all her needs so I would consider it optional.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:21 AM
    According to my pediatrician, up to a week between poops is normal. After that, you call the doc and discuss ways to get the baby to go. But from talking to other moms, I get the sense that my doc's standard was not relaxed enough because babies often go more than a week between poops, wihout a problem. We had a thread about poop a while back, and one mom reported her kid going 21 days without pooping, but not having a problem despite the long interval. If you want your kid to poop, I suggest doing the following: nurse, and then immediately put baby in a warm bath. Nursing activates the gastrocolic reflex, in which putting something in at the top of the digestive system activates peristaltic motion and increased urge to move something out at the bottom of the system. The warm bath is to relax the baby enough to let things fly.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:15 AM
    My understanding is that pacifier use is supposed to be delayed at least 3-4 weeks, or until nursing is going well. If you're getting sore, that suggests that something isn't quite right, so I personally would want to fix whatever that is before using a paci. We rarely used pacis with baby #1 and not at all with baby #2. My personal take on them is that they can be gross- they drop on the floor and then what do you do with them?- and they can be habit-forming and hard to get rid of. I have friends whose kids were addicted- and I mean that pretty literally- to the paci. One kid was 4 years old and not only would he steal his baby sister's paci, but he had paci stashes all over the house. Worst case scenario, I know! So my personal take is that if you can forgo them, there's no reason not to. If you can't, keep the use of the paci limited.
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  • @llli*filmmommy's Avatar
    Today, 05:25 AM
    I think that's a personal decision. We've used a pacifier with both babies. My daughter was a very restless sleeper and the sucking seemed to help her sleep better. She only used it for naps for a long time, but then started to want it more through the day. It helped her a lot with her transition to daycare when she was 21 months, I think, along with a stuffed animal. But unfortunately, at nearly 3 now, she still needs it for sleep most days and wants it when she's upset. But I can live with that -- she's a pretty easy kid for the most part! She didn't wean until I was pregnant for a few months and was over 2, so I can't say it contributed to early weaning in our case. My son didn't need a pacifier for a while, but at some point started getting really fussy, but didn't want to nurse and no other comforting worked easily. Sometimes he'd just scream for hours at bedtime, but was so upset he wouldn't nurse. I dealt with it for a while, but when he had to go for a hearing test and they said he needed to be quiet or he'd fail AGAIN, we introduced a pacifier (at about 2 months old). It helps so much on those days where he gets angry about nursing and being rocked and such, or during car rides where he has trouble falling asleep. But, again, there's an unfortunately -- both my husband and my sitter seem to pop it in his mouth all the time. I am going to talk to my sitter about using it less, since it seems to discourage his baby babbling, but I'm not sure there's...
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  • @llli*smp0808's Avatar
    Today, 04:27 AM
    The short version of my whole story is that DD (almost 6 months old) has been having increasingly frequent and intense crying spells, in addition to serious lack of sleep (we're talking 9 hours total sleep over a 24 hour period with upwards of 6 hours crying per day). I have tried block feeding, I have cut out all dairy and soy for months now, we have tried reflux meds, gas drops, colic calm, chiropractor, you name it. She has always gained weight well and had plenty of wet/dirty diapers. Other symptoms that may be worth noting are that DD has tested positive for occult blood in stool three times (even after three weeks off of dairy and soy), she sounds congested all the time and she is pretty gassy. Finally, in desperation, I did a 24 hour trial of hypoallergenic formula while pumping to maintain my supply. She appears to be a completely different baby. She slept 12 hours straight last night where we usually spend 2 hours consoling her before bed and then waking up with her every 2-3 hours after that. I really, really don't want to give up nursing but why is my baby so much happier on formula? How can I make breastfeeding work?
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  • @llli*westcoaster's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:58 PM
    So while I know it's really normal for EBF babies over six weeks to go awhile without pooping, I was just wondering what's the sort of mental cutoff before doing any sort of intervention or calling the doctor. My 3.5 month old is on day 12 of no poops - he's not exhibiting many/any symptoms of being constipated so I don't think he's crazily backed up (though today he slept a ton and was a bit fussy tonight - I think it was from just sleeping too much although DH thinks it's because of the poop). I have read that a week or two is normal but what if it keeps on this way? Friday will mark two weeks since a poop. Is that still normal? When is it not?
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  • @llli*sassypants's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:24 PM
    I followed the advice in Gill Rapley's book Baby Led Weaning. She advises to give a cup of water with a "solids" meal. Why no sippy until a year?
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:24 PM
    Any other symptoms beyond fussy and the odd sleep/nursing timing?
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  • @llli*bluegirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:00 PM
    Thought I'd provide an update in case anyone goes through the same pooping frequency issue as me. The problem turned out to be not enough bulky food, or perhaps food in general. I started upping the amount he was eating and added in food like oatmeal cooked with yam, etc. That increased the frequency to every 4-5 days. Now that we're doing 3 meals a day, he poops nearly every day.
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  • @llli*bluegirl's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:57 PM
    @llli*bluegirl replied to a thread day weaning in Weaning
    Thanks! I'm only giving diluted juice because of his pooping issues. I'll start trying to get him to drink water only and when I start weaning, Ill switch to whole milk. I do have 2 pumps (1 electronic, 1 manual), so it wont be a big deal, but will definitely bring it with me in case.
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  • @llli*mrsrodgers0711's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:51 PM
    About my oversupply, i read on here the first step you should take is to feed on one breast for 2 hrsn and after 2 hours to switch to the other side. That lets one breast get overfull and send your body the message to slow down production. Ive only been doing this for 2 days before the fussy feedings started, and it seemed to be working, but now with the shorter feedings im am starting to become engorged again, where my breasts hurt and feel lumpy and baby has difficulty latching. With the feeding on one side for 2 hrs, DS diapers have been fuller with both urine and poop, and ive noticed with his most recent 3 diapers or so that they are more like wet farts, and have been mixed with yellow and green ...althought i know its too short of time to judge any changes...but makes me wonder with the short feedings if he is getting less fatty foremilk .. Il have to keep an eye on everything... I know schedules change and i wouldnt mind the change if he wasnt so fussy and was eatin more...
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  • @llli*jm.mom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:49 PM
    Hi Ladies. I was wondering what your take is on pacifiers. Do you use them? Do they result in early weaning? Nursing has been fine and I'm ok with comfort nursing but do get sore. Sometimes my love is fine after some comfort and others he wants to nurse for hours. I guess my question is, is a pacifier ok in between? If so, do you recommend a specific one? Thanks in advance for your help. I always read posts but don't always get to respond
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  • @llli*tclynx's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:18 PM
    Sorry I don't have much advice other than changes to "schedules" are normal. Babies can get more efficient at nursing so he may be able to fill up faster than he used to. If he isn't emptying you, then I wouldn't worry about the oversupply. Nursing past empty is more likely to trigger increased production. You mention work you have been doing about oversupply, what have you been doing? If baby seems to finish one side and still seems fussy, it is OK to offer the other side unless you are really dealing with an extreme over supply. Just because baby always only too one side in the past doesn't mean that won't change when a growth spurt comes on. In fact if you have been doing something to reduce your supply, baby wanting to nurse all the time and take both breasts may be a sign that whatever you were doing worked too well and baby is working to bring your supply back up. Other things that can cause fussy odd nursing behavior are teething, illness, changes in your diet/medications, and of course the growth spurt and supply thing. Can you nurse side lying in bed? That might allow you to get more sleep.
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  • @llli*usafreat's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:59 PM
    I know that BM is adequate enough to hydrate babies, but I am wondering if while my baby is eating some solids now should I be introducing water, with her meal? I read sometimes the mention of babies with sippy cups but I would rather not use one until she is primarily eating solids. I haven't been giving a drink, and wasn't planning on it, and probably wont be til she's a yr. she is nine months now. Also, I prefer to just give BM to cover dairy and water 'needs' (I know BM is all a baby needs right now anyway) and with solids just have her experiment with fruits veggies and meat or fish. Is that ok?
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  • @llli*ramom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:43 PM
    Thanks for all the suggestions. I feel like things have improved a bit over the last couple days -- she seems to be enjoying the breast more, in fact we were able to get away with no bottles for the entire morning yesterday and today (just stayed in bed and nursed). I'm very pleased to see her enjoying the breast more. However, starting in the afternoons it seems I don't have enough milk for her. She nurses for hours and then fusses, sucking her hand when she comes off. So we need to supplement in the afternoon/evenings with the milk I pumped overnight and in the morning. I'm still hoping that doing lots of nursing and pumping in the evenings will improve my supply, but I've been mostly doing that all along anyway so I suppose things are kind of going to be fairly static at this point unless I get domperidone. We're discussing it, but I think we might just try to make it to 3 months and then start using some formula in the afternoons/evenings. I'll try to update at some point, thanks for all the feedback!
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  • @llli*usafreat's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:29 PM
    i just stumbled back across this post, and update on my joint pain, it did go away
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