Today, 01:01 AM
In my personal experience, a stronger desire for sex tends to return during baby's second year, even though my kids still nursed very often during that time and nursed for several years afterwards.
But of course, even not having much desire for sex does not (or in any case, need not) mean that one eschews all intimacy...that one has no ability to have or indeed, to enjoy sex! It just means it might take a little more mind over matter to get things going. And yes, perhaps a good lubricant. There is nothing shameful or bad about needing a lubricant. Lots of things can cause vaginal dryness and it can happen to women of any age, mothers or not. For anyone who does not like the lubricant they are using, I would suggest maybe finding something that is more natural feeling to you, there are many newer products and even 'homemade' lubricants that may feel more natural than others. You can find reviews online and of course even purchase online.
There is no doubt the hormonal changes that occur with breastfeeding tend to suppress sex drive more or less, BUT this issue is certainly not limited to mothers who breastfeed!
Pregnancy & birth, as well as the responsibilities and emotions of parenthood, and yes, the lack of sleep, freedom and even privacy that comes with parenthood, changes our bodies, changes our minds, changes our relationship with our bodies, and our relationships to our partners.
And age has little to do with sexual desire... It is not 'old'...