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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:14 PM
    Yeah that is a good point about the ears. Also I forgot to mention that we were helped a lot by white noise (we used a machine or a fan) and also by darkening the room. Although third child actually slept better with some light.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:11 PM
    It is always a great idea to hang out with other breastfeeding moms. It can also be helpful to experience a variety of different babies, because behavior can vary so much. Hope you find the help you need.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:09 PM
    Wow cool tip! Thanks! Glad you are feeling better today.
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  • @llli*julienne02's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:53 PM
    Thanks for the reply, I feel much better today after nursing him all last night and morning today. I did want to mention the remedy I use whenever I get mastitis (which has been more and more often with each successive child) since it is simple and may work for other people as well. The very first time I got it, my midwife suggested I drink a glass of saltwater made with Real Salt. I find that it knocks it right out, especially if I catch it early on. Sometimes, like this time, I ended up drinking a glass morning and night for a couple days. I have had mastitis over ten times and never had to use antibiotics. It is kind of gross to drink but it works!
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  • @llli*djs.mom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:32 AM
    I actually want to suggest taking her to the doctor and having the doctor look at her ears. The idea that anytime she is laying down and NOT nursing she is screaming, suggests to me that she may be in pain. Often pain when laying down is ear pain. In terms of sleep, sleep this young is never consistent and always changing. We all did whatever worked. And when they teethe? Nothing does. So when you are getting no sleep or not enough at night? Don't feel bad about sleeping in. And? If you NEED the sleep? I fully enourage laying down for naptime. Being able to rest with the baby when we started side lye nursing (Which was also around 4 months) made a huge difference in the quality of my life. I like Carms idea's about other sleep associations and know plently of mother's who used white noise machines. Good luck to you!
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  • @llli*nivilovely's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:28 AM
    Thanks Madddieb. I think I have to attend a meeting so that I can talk to any mom and see if I make any sense. Because I am unable to explain my situation in words. Thanks for your help.
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  • @llli*carm3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:02 AM
    I've just been reading through all my own posts and just remembering how important this forum has been in my life for the past 5 years. I first found it when I was trying to figure things out with my oldest, and it has been such a source of support and encouragement over the years...I'm not sure what I would have done without it. Probably would've felt very lonely and discouraged! I've really enjoyed reading your posts over the years, Meg, and I have learned so much from you about breastfeeding, and mothering in general! The thought of this all going away makes me want to cry, but I will always treasure the memory of this place and I will do my best to continue to support other mothers in their nursing journey as best I can!
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  • @llli*carm3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 05:33 AM
    I second the idea of trying to find a LLL meeting if you haven't already. Especially since this forum is closing (which no one is happy about). I coslept with my oldest till just before she was 2, and she woke several times during the night to nurse, but nothing like what you're dealing with! I wonder what size bed you have? Our set up when we were co sleeping was to have our mattress on the floor, with the crib mattress tucked up next to it on the floor. I would nurse her to sleep on her mattress and then still be within arms reach, but not so close that she'd be right on me, you know? I think maybe that helped with not waking up quite as frequently. Now she's 5, and has fallen asleep and stayed asleep all night for a very long time, and even if she does wake up she puts her music on and goes back to sleep. The other thing I'm going to suggest trying is to start associating sleep with other things, like a lovey or soft music. It might take a while, but she might come to associate those things with sleep and be able to use those rather than nursing all the time. Or she might just grow out of nursing all the time, but at least you'll feel like you were trying something! I've found that kids change so much on their own, and you're often left scratching your head about whether it was the intervention you'd been trying, or just time itself! My youngest, now 17 months, wasn't a great sleeper either, waking up several times during the night to nurse, but we didn't co...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 09:45 PM
    Hi, so sorry you are having this struggle. Wow your post brought me back to my experience parenting my oldest child at this age! So, it is not your fault. Most likely this is just who your child is now, it won't be forever, but it may be for another several months or even longer. Sorry, I know that is not what you want to hear! But in my experience, a child who is like this at 16 months has a ways to go before they can sleep without nursing, consolidate sleep, etc. My oldest child at this age kept me up most of the night nursing, and was very clingy the rest of the time. It was utterly exhausting. Honestly, the only thing that really helped was me changing how I thought about the situation. Learning to accept that that was who he was and rolling with it. In practice, that meant not worrying about nap schedules and bedtime schedules. Routines? Yes. Mostly for my sanity. But I stopped worrying about what time things happened. I stopped thinking about how often I was awakened at night, I stopped looking at the clock especially at night. Another thing that helped was letting myself off the hook. I was beyond exhausted, so if the house was not clean or dinner was take out, that had to be ok. It had to be great! I asked my husband to pick up the slack as much as he could, or we just let it go. I also had him take our son at night even though he would not settle for my husband and cried. At least I got a little more time to try to put together a little sleep. My...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 09:15 PM
    Hi, mastitis can be very tricky. If your are sure it is mastitis and not the flu, then you might want to pump just a little until you are well (or encourage your child to nurse more often.) And then, unfortunately, you may find you need to wean yourself off the pump again, perhaps more gradually. (pumping slightly less each day, pumping every other day, only pumping if child does not nurse, etc.) Of course you can just treat the mastitis with anti biotics (probably will have to do that anyway(?) and hope that is all that is needed. It really depends on how full you are feeling/how much milk stasis you are having at this point. Hope you feel better soon!
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  • @llli*hopeful.mommy's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 09:15 PM
    This closes in 3 days?!? On the day I join?! That just adds to my feeling of helplessness. Maybe I can get some responses over the weekend. My 16 month old has ALWAYS had sleep issues. As an infant she hit many of the attributes of the “high needs” baby. I was able to get her to take a passi at 3 weeks but at 4 months she simply refused it ever again. Since about 4 months I’ve nursed her to sleep because sleep was SO HARD with her, she’d cry and cry, and then once she was big enough to side-lie nurse, she’d pass out and we were just like, “Yes!” And, if matched my parenting philosophy. I’m happy to nurse her to sleep. But here’s my issue...she can’t even lay down without nursing, or she’ll scream. She’s always been like this. Neither my husband or I can rock her, hold her, cuddle her. She ONLY wants to nurse. She still wakes up frequently at night, which sucks but isn’t even he real issue. Sometimes she will wake in the night and not easily fall back to sleep. She’ll want to lay and nurse for like an HOUR or more. If I try to get off, hoping she’s asleep, she’ll cry her head off. She’s in hat In between place but 1) I can’t fall asleep while she nursed...I just have never been able to. And 2) my nipples can’t take that for an hour. If she had a passi or a bottle she could hold she could lay there inbetween place and maybe fall back to sleep. But after a certain point and so many tries, I can’t take it anymore and I take her out of the room to cry, because she...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 09:11 PM
    Hi and congratulations! It sounds like all is normal. Many moms make more milk with 2nd baby than with first. It sounds like your production was good with oldest child, so you may be making even more milk now. This would tend to shorten nursing sessions because baby can get all they need quickly. No harm in gently encouraging baby to nurse longer, but if he won't, he won't. I would suggest do not think of baby as "just not a comfort nurser", that is unlikely and would not be clear this early anyway. Most babies who are not comfort nursers are that way because they have been somehow discouraged (often inadvertently) from comfort nursing. Comfort nursing is generally important for encouraging longer term nursing, so it is best to gently encourage it. On the other hand, since baby is gaining well and pooping lots, no need to stress, baby is clearly getting enough. Encouraging frequent nursing sessions is an excellent thing to do when there is lots of milk and fast sessions. Frequent nursing will help the milk flow to be less intense, so baby may nurse a bit longer each time. pumping 6 ounces - that is a lot to be pumping at any point, but in particular it is a lot for under two weeks! Milk production tends to increase gradually for the first 4-6 weeks naturally. I would suggest not worry about pumping for as long as you can, but if you really want to get a jump on it, probably no harm in pumping once a day or a couple times a week. The risk with pumping at this...
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  • @llli*julienne02's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 06:07 PM
    Hello, this is my third son and he is now 16 months old. I had been down to pumping once a day at work (gone for 9 hrs) and he was down to eating 3 ounces the whole time I was gone. I had been doing once a day for four months and thought it was time to quit. I have not been too full except for one day that he didn't nurse before I went to work, and now have mastitis even though my breasts aren't painful or red. Thoughts? Perhaps this is a one time occurrence and it won't happen again? I don't want to go back to pumping.
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  • @llli*littlecavemomma's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 04:37 PM
    I'm sure I speak for THOUSANDS of mothers who say thank you for all of your wisdom and guidance while learning to feed our babies. I could not have done it without the support and help of this forum, of which you were a critical part. Thank you!
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  • @llli*alaya's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 04:18 PM
    Hi all - I was wondering if anyone else has had babies like this or it is normal. My firstborn's nursing habits were just soooooooo different I'm trying to not worry, but still am. My sweet little guy gained his birth weight back and then some after the first week (BW + 2 oz), which was a huge relief considering my first took a little longer. Once my first took off, he was just fine, but needed a little more time. The first week (and I have continued to do so), I woke him for feedings. I feel like after that first visit with our pediatrician, the little guy will literally only nurse 2 - 5 minutes tops, on one breast. The first week he wouldn't take a second breast either. He usually averages 3 minutes. He's having good urine/BM output. His pediatrician said he had a very strong suck and would be an efficient nurser - like 5 minutes. However, at his little age, this just seems like such a short time? My first was the marathon nurser, and loved to comfort nurse. This little guy will nurse briefly, pull off, and be DONE. Can't coax him to relatch or switch sides, etc. I don't know if I'm reading too much into it because their habits are so different, or if I should be concerned. The reason so is he's also WAY sleepier than my first, and my toddler tends to be waking him up a lot - he'll nurse, fall asleep, get woken up, repeat (that's a whole separate thing we're working on.. ha ha :p). So the other part of me wonders if he's just falling asleep before he's...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 03:38 PM
    One of the myths about breastfeeding that is out there- in fact I spread it myself until I learned better- is that babies sleep more and more as they get older. In fact they of course sleep less and less, because newborns already sleep a total of much more than half the day, they cannot possible sleep any more. Well, at least not until they are teenagers. :) What children do eventually start doing is consolidate sleep. They start sleeping longer periods, up to 5 or 6 and later, 8 or so, hours at a stretch. And usually, these long periods happen at night. But this usually will not start occurring until a child is well into toddler years- in fact it may not happen until they are older than 3! So, in the meantime, what we normally see is a huge variety in sleep patterns. And yes, it is normal. Entirely. When we talk about people getting enough to eat, I think it helps to think big picture. A person may not eat much at a particular meal. They may not even eat all that much for a whole day, or even several days. But then they have meals, or days, when they eat more. So overall, they are getting plenty to eat. It really is not any different than babies, except babies have to eat so much more often overall than an older child or an adult. But they also are normally going to have a good deal of variety in how much they eat per meal or per day- and this is normal and fine as long as they are getting enough overall to develop and grow normally.
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  • @llli*nivilovely's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 01:18 PM
    I will miss you maddieb. I thought I would thank you after breastfeeding my son for 1.5 or 2 years and send you a message that you helped me through it. but since the forum is closing I think I have to say this, Thank you. I will never forget your help. Djs.Mom Thanks for you too.
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  • @llli*nivilovely's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 12:27 PM
    OMG . I don't know what to say. I really cried. This forum has helped me a lot., wihtout this I might go crazy, there is never been a single day without seeing this forum. I have no words to say except my tears.
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  • @llli*nivilovely's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 12:23 PM
    Thanks Maddieb. I can totally understand. He is not dehydrated. My only concern is he getting enough. he sleeps long streches during day time say for 3-4 hours when I had little bit of oversupply. Now the supply has either reduced or matched to his need(I am not sure). Now he wakes up even more during the night to feed (start of the sleep when my supply is lowest) he goes to bed by 9:30 after cluster nursing and he wakes up again at 11-12am, then again in 1.5 -2 hours, and then he starts to take little more long strech say 2-3 hours. He is nursing more than 12 times per day. Is that normal? But he doesn't seem crying or unhappy after every session. may get little fussy if the let down is slow. Is it possible that he is not getting enough either one of the night time sessions? I know I am part of the reason for this night waking since I was encouraging him yo nurse often during the night. One of my friend she has a 4 month old and she says her baby diapers are huge and heavy in the morning, its never been like that for me since I returned to work. I am so confused and worried over this again and again. and I am sorry for posting so much and troubling you.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    November 17th, 2017, 11:17 AM
    I am posting this here in the Breastfeeding Your Baby section, because this is the forum I have posted in the most. I will never forget my early days struggling to breastfeed my first baby, and so have always felt an urgency to help when moms have posted here in particular. With the forums closing in just a few days, I trust no one will mind! 14 years ago I made my first call to a La Leche League Leader. My first baby was 7 months old, and all my mommy friends with children the same age had stopped breastfeeding. My son and I had had so many struggles and breastfeeding was finally starting to feel natural and comfortable and…dare I say it? Easy. The last thing I wanted to do was stop, but because all my friends had stopped, I thought I was doing something wrong. The wise Leader I called (she later became my mentor when I became a LLL Leader) listened to my fears, and then she simply invited me to a LLL meeting. She joked later that it was the easiest help call she had ever received. For me, that short phone call was life changing. The mothers I have since met at LLL meetings, Leader events and LLL conferences gave me every tool that I have found important and helpful as a mother. Every mom I view as a mothering mentor to this day was part of La Leche League at one time or another. I started posting to these forums about 7 years ago. At first I did not post much, but eventually barely a day passed without me visiting the forums- some days, several times. I...
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