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  • @llli*tobysmom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:48 PM
    (I should clarify that I said baby doesn't have a tongue tie... rather I don't think baby has a tongue tie. I asked the doctor to check and was told there wasn't one. Could be that something was missed but I would hope not.)
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  • @llli*tobysmom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:31 PM
    Thank you so much for the detailed reply! That's exactly what I was thinking about the latch which is why I went to see the lactation consultant--I was surprised when she didn't see a problem after watching baby eat and I wasn't sure what to say in response to the nipple/palate comment. I actually feel better because it sounds like this is something I can still work on without having to move backwards---I think maybe I will seek out a different LC for another try at help. I'll also check into the cultures to rule out anything bacterial--I didn't realize that can be there without any big symptoms. I don't think it's an issue of being too full--sometimes I am too full first thing in the morning because baby's sleep patterns haven't gotten predictable yet, but it doesn't seem to be an issue for baby eating then and my supply is well regulated during the day. Baby does not have a tongue tie. As far as working on latch, I've tried the basic positions--cradle, cross cradle, side lying, football. Cradle is the worst for pain and football is the best (if not comfortable at least more bearable). So I've been focusing on trying to make that one work and follow videos on proper latch. Baby also first latched without the shield in the football position so I think maybe that one allows him a better hold. I have trouble getting it to work when out and about though so often find myself trying to deal with cross cradle or be stuck on my couch. :/ I've done the breast sandwich. ...
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:25 PM
    Hi tobysmom, I am sorry you are having this problem. Is it possible there was a misunderstanding here? Nipples becoming cracked and sore is almost always a sign of a latch problem. The nipple shape you are seeing after your baby nurses is also a common indication of shallow latch. Also, if the problem is not latch, why are you being told to pump to elongate the nipple? That is a method to improve latch. It certainly has no other purpose. Also, if your nipple is "too short" again the only problem with that, is it might cause a poor latch! I mean, too short for what? This means, too short for baby to latch onto properly! I have a question with this idea I will get into below, but that is what 'too short' would mean. As far as your baby having a hard palate, I have no idea what this means. All babies like all adults have both a soft and hard palate. The trick with latch is to get the nipple back to the soft palate. And this can happen even with short nipples and with brand newborns with tiny mouths so it can certainly happen if your baby is 4 months old.
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  • @llli*tobysmom's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:40 PM
    First time mom with a four month old baby. Exclusively pumped for six weeks following a NICU stay at birth (born a month early), then transitioned to a nipple shield eventually because baby would not latch without it. At 15 weeks, baby all of sudden latched without the shield and we were elated! :clap Baby has been nursing without the shield for three weeks and is doing great--weight gain is good, lactation consultants have confirmed he is eating 70-100 ml each feeding, which is plenty, and baby seems happy and more comforted by the breast. Went from 30 minute feedings to being done in 8-10min. However...mama is not doing well. Without the shield I have been having extreme nipple soreness. It is worse on one side than the other, and worst with the initial latch although it hurts throughout the nursing session on both sides. Both nipples are cracked. On the side with the most pain the nipple often is lipstick shaped or a little flat after nursing, which made me question the latch but I went to the lactation consultant this week and they thought the latch looked good and that wasn't the issue. Suggestions were to pump 5 minutes before each feeding to elongate the nipple (apparently I have a fairly short small nipple and baby has a hard palate) or to go back to using the shield. I'm resisting the idea of pumping because of the logistics involved and making it more difficult to feed baby on demand, plus washing all those pump pieces. Would hate to go back to the nipple shield...
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  • @llli*mmomm1's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:58 AM
    During the day, pump every 2 to 3 hours. During the night, get up and pump no later than every 4 hours. This happens a lot to moms that exclusively pump. You definitely need to try something herbal. Try drinking healthy nursing tea. It has a combination of herbs. By drinking it I was able to pump 4 to 5 ounces at a time instead of 1/2 ounce. Make sure to pump often and give anything you try time to work. Hang in there!
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  • @llli*mmomm1's Avatar
    Yesterday, 11:54 AM
    my baby had reflux and he got so bad he would cry in the middle of a feeding, and i am talking CRYING hysterically the doctor put him on Prilosec and it seemed to be working. but he still was spiting up a lot but at least the crying stopped. the real difference made by baby magic tea and now his symptoms almost vanish!!!
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  • @llli*crr.2017's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:42 AM
    Okay, thank you.
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  • @llli*crr.2017's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:41 AM
    Thank you.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 21st, 2017, 10:14 PM
    I am sorry to say it again, but this again sounds normal! This is how newborns behave. There is nothing wrong with a baby who behaves this way. You, mom, may need and can get breaks. Someone else can take your baby and comfort them while you get a break. I found what worked well for my family is I nursed baby then my husband took baby and "walked baby down". Eventually we just got him his own sling to wear baby in so we did not have to keep adjusting the one for our different bodies. Evenings were spent playing "pass the baby." This arrangement or something similar is pretty typical especially during the early months.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 21st, 2017, 10:09 PM
    This all sounds pretty normal. When healthy babies this age scream for hours and will not even comfort by nursing, that is probably colic. There is not much you can do about colic except try everything you can think of and see if anything helps. Colic is difficult but temporary. These tip sheets both have ideas that may help: http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/09_fussybabyideas.pdf and http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/10_what_about_partners.pdf
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 21st, 2017, 01:54 PM
    If your baby is gaining that quickly you are fine as that is above average (nothing wrong with above average, but you certainly need not worry baby is not getting enough in that case.) Fluctuations in gain rate day to day or week to week are entirely 100% normal. Weight gain is just not something that would ever be precisely this or that per day or week. Additionally, be prepared for the fact that weight gain rate gets slower and slower as a baby ages. If babies kept gaining at the newborn rate they would be giants by the time they were 2. At this point you can stop weighing baby so much! Your milk production probably needs to ramp down somewhat, as you are making a little more than baby needs at this point. In that case milk production reducing is normal and expected. The more immediate issue with engorgement is that it might lead to plugs or even mastitis. If you are uncomfortable or getting hard, and baby will not nurse, fine to hand express a little milk for your own comfort. If hand expression is not working, you can pump but again, just enough to relieve the engorgement- this would be a time to pump "to comfort" and not to "empty" the breasts. That way you are getting milk out to help with your health and comfort, but not so much telling your body to make more. If you can get baby to nurse when you feel this way, that is usually the easiest and best option. It sounds like things are going very well so yes, if you know that baby will need to take bottles at...
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  • @llli*crr.2017's Avatar
    April 21st, 2017, 01:03 PM
    My 1 month old will fall asleep at the breast sometimes after 5 minutes, sometimes after 20. She will stay asleep for awhile and then wale up screaming like she's still hungry. How do you know when they are done? Feedings take forever and I feel like I always have my boob in her mouth.. please help
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  • @llli*margutte's Avatar
    April 21st, 2017, 05:46 AM
    Hi Maddie, thanks again for taking the time to answer me. So far, it's going well. I have pumed every other day for a week an then stopped completely five days ago, while keeping track of weight an milk intake. He has been growing well in the meantime, about 10 ounces a week, although his weight fluctuates from day to day, sometimes going sllightly down, which is a little bit scary. He always recovered so far, though. Also, I have been quite engorged all day yesterday, I hope my supply is not starting to go down too much. Might this be the time to offer him a bottle occasionally, to get him used to it, so that he does not refuse it later? He has not seen a bottle for a month exactly. How about a pacifier? He started being quite cranky in the evening, refusing the breast and not sleeping for two hours or so, and it would perhaps help.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 09:10 PM
    My third did the same thing! Awful, several times a nursing session biting that lasted way longer than my other kid who bit (first was a clamper but not an intentional biter.) I forget when this was...I think it started at 8 or 9 months. While it happened, I did not know what to do. I mean she really hurt me sometimes. I even got injured pretty bad once. Sometimes all I could do was take her off and go cry somewhere, it hurt that much. Anyway, it finally stopped. I did not do anything magic to make it stop, there was no reason, it just stopped. She is 4 now and still nurses! I agree, the idea biting means a child is weaning never made any sense to me. A weaning child can just stop nursing. They do not need to bite! (Also weaning is usually gradual, not a sudden stop.) I also never thought my baby biting was caused by teething. She did not bite anything else that I recall. So I am really sorry, I do not have advice about the biting. There are a few reasons babies bite and ideas for what to do about it, kellymom covers them all really well so you can check to see if you missed anything. But in my personal experience this can be just a phase.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 08:55 PM
    This sounds like colic, which can be hard to live through but is common and normal and temporary. It is also something of a mystery, because there is not one identifiable cause that includes all babies who have this behavior. There are many tips on how to help a baby who has colic. What seems to work the most is changing sensory input (exposing baby to different sounds, movement, environment, etc) What I have found is you just try whatever you can and some things work some of the time, but usually nothing works all the time or for very long. I am not sure what "gas build up" means? Lower intestinal gas is a normal result of food digestion, and the gas has to come out by passing gas. Upper GI gas is why baby might need to burp. If someone has trapped gas, either upper or lower, it may cause a pain, and eliminating the gas is what helps it feel better. For a baby, changing baby's position in various ways is probably the best way to help them pass gas. Massage may help too, but I learned the hard way to not lay my baby down to do a massage, as this made him way more miserable! Luckily babies are easy to massage while being held. Here is a good fussy baby tip sheet: http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/09_fussybabyideas.pdf
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  • @llli*vedimama's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 08:32 PM
    She is generally normal after the spit up. Sometimes cries for a few minutes but otherwise goes back to being herself. Since past few days we have been noticing she starts crying in the evening at around 7 pm. and nothing seems to pacify her. I have tried feeding her to calm her but that too doesn't work. She nurses and then again starts crying. Could this be due to gas build up? We give Gripe water which seems to work sometimes as she then calms down after awhile and goes to sleep.
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  • @llli*cagirl1214's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 07:19 PM
    My son turned 1 on April 5th and he's my 3rd. I breastfed my first until he was 2 and my 2nd until he was 14 months. My youngest has always been a biter and though my older 2 bit too, it was basically a one day thing. I said no, put them in their bed a few times and they stopped. My 1 year old will not stop biting me no matter what I do and it's been this way since he was probably 5 or 6 months (even before teeth). Recently he has started nursing until letdown then stopping and trying to bite but I know when he is about to do it because he pulls back so I stop him and he gets upset but when I try to feed him again after that he does it right away again and does literally nothing else until I give up and he gets no milk. This has been going on for a few days. Of course everyone around me says he is self weaning which I don't believe but I don't know how to get him to stop or to nurse normally. He has 7 teeth and is working on #8 but I don't see why that one would be so bad that it's all caused by teething. I already can't eat eggs because he is allergic to them so he's really not making this BF journey an easy one for me. lol Any advice?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 01:49 PM
    It is normal to not have a period at this point. Most likely it will return within the next 6 months. There is no way to jump start this natural process I am aware of. If you are comfortable nursing once a day, (not having an fullness or heaviness that is uncomfortable when baby is nursing that infrequently) that would indicate that you make very little milk at this point, so it is highly unlikely lactating is causing any delay in return to fertility. The vast majority of women see a return of fertility by 18-24 months after baby is born (if not before) even if their child nurses frequently. Some moms do experience "secondary" infertility even if they had no problem before first baby. But it is far to early to assume or even suspect there is a problem.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 09:33 AM
    Hi bachandl, and welcome to the forum. It sounds like you and baby are doing great and have made lots of progress after a rough start! If your baby is able to latch and nurse now, it is time to gradually wean off the supplemental bottles and the pumping. These things are all normal and expected: and In fact m,any moms never feel letdown. It does not mean it is not happening. What is also normal at this age is for baby to be nursing at least 8-12 times in 24 hours, to not nurse every such and such hours, but rather in clusters, and to prefer to be held most of the time but especially for at least 30 minutes after nursing. If you are pumping after nursing, of course this is difficult. This is another reason to start weaning off the supplemental bottles and weaning. How much a 5 week old "takes" in a bottle is not relevant. It truly means nothing. Babies have a compelling need to suckle and they will drink from a bottle as long as they need to suckle. This could be long after they have gotten what they actually need.
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  • @llli*bachandl's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 08:51 AM
    My baby girl was born at 37w2d. Labor was 52 hours. Had complications and was in the hospital for a week from NICU to Peds. Able to get her colostrum by bottle but would only eat that way and had to keep her stimulated. She would either not stay latched to my breast or scream uncontrollably. The past 4 weeks I have been pumping after she finishes off a bottle, which could be anywhere between 2 to 4 hours between feedings. The past week she has gotten the hang of latching. Some feedings will be sufficient yet others she is still fussy afterwords, which is kind of where we're at now. Sometimes I can feel the milk let down, others I can't. She will latch and "feed" for 45 minutes to and hour. Afterwords, I lay her down thinking she's in a deeps sleep, but for only about 30 minutes to have her wake up and scream again. Butt has been changed, gripe water or gas drops given, and burped. She still polishes off 60+ml bottle.
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  • @llli*florida2001's Avatar
    April 20th, 2017, 04:50 AM
    hi, Im 17 months postpartum, nursing only once or twice a day and still no period. how do I resume the cycle? I would like to conceive, but not sure if this can happens if my cycle is not back.
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