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  • @llli*lllkaren's Avatar
    Today, 11:18 AM
    OMG, yes! Too much credit, and way too much blame. My kids are now 13 and almost-17 years old (:yikes) and looking back, I can see that they were themselves from day 1. I'm sure I've had some influence on them, but in most ways I've just adapted to who they already are, rather than shaped them. As far as sleep goes, my philosophy is that every family is different and needs to do whatever gets EVERYBODY the most sleep possible. Try different sleep arrangements and see what works for you. For some families, co-sleeping is the only way they're going to get any sleep. For others, nobody gets any sleep with baby in the bed. Sometimes mom and baby need to be together, while dad needs his own space. It might take some experimenting. One other thing to keep in mind is that whatever sleep arrangements you end up with, they're temporary! They might not be everybody's ideal, but they won't last forever.
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  • @llli*thawingsnow's Avatar
    Today, 11:06 AM
    I've nursed my baby to sleep since my baby was an infant. I went with my instinct and was amazed at how beautifully nursing my baby to sleep worked for my entire family. Everyone was getting more sleep! My baby is over 9 months old now. When I nurse my baby all the way to sleep now and move the baby to the baby's sleep area (which is very near my sleep area, but somewhat divided from my area too), my baby typically wakes up very disturbed and upset now, almost scared perhaps. Thus, my baby's sleep is much more disturbed as is the rest of my family's. There are many developmental leaps happening right now for my baby and separation anxiety seems to be at a peak, so I know these can play a huge factor. An online source is telling me that the sleep issue we're experiencing now is related to object permanence. They're saying my baby needs to be put down drowsy, but awake, so the baby won't be freaked out by going to sleep nursed in mom's arms and waking up in a different place. The online source also says this won't stop until baby learns to go to sleep on its own and is also saying nursing to sleep is a contributing factor. I don't know if I really buy this, because I don't know how I feel about their advice to stop nursing all the way to sleep. It seems a bit insulting to the relationship between nursing mothers and their babies. Stirring my baby awake after nursing the baby almost to sleep is disturbing to my baby as well at times. Putting the baby down...
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  • @llli*lllkaren's Avatar
    Today, 10:06 AM
    I got out my copy of Breastfeeding: A Guide for the Medical Profession, and if I understand it correctly (not being anything close to a medical professional!), it does sound like it's possible to have a few ducts around the base of the nipple. A white bump that stings could be a milk blister or bleb, which is basically a duct opening that the skin has grown over and there's some milk blocked up behind it. If it were to start causing you pain while nursing, this page at KellyMom might have some useful suggestions: How do you treat a milk blister? But if it doesn't normally hurt or cause problems with breastfeeding, there's probably nothing to be concerned about.
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  • @llli*iranzu's Avatar
    Today, 09:09 AM
    Hola. Necesito ayuda porque estoy pasando una crisis en mi lactancia. Hace 2 días que no tengo reflejo de eyección, lo que se traduce en que mi bebé de 4 meses no come bien. Se engancha y enseguida como ve que no tiene la leche fácil no hace sino chillar, llorar y no sigue mamando. Tengo 3 hijos por lo que sé lo que es la lactancia, no soy novata en esto, pero nunca me había pasado tal cosa. Mi vida ahora es estresante a tope y supongo que eso influye. La realidad es que mi hijo no come, mis senos están ya doloridos de que no coma bien y no sé qué hacer, porque no quiero dejar de darle de mamar. ¿Alguien ha vivido lo mismo? ¿Se acostumbrará a tenerlo difícil y acabará comiendo bien? Por favor, ayudadme!!!
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  • @llli*greatestjoy's Avatar
    Today, 08:17 AM
    Wanted to give you another ray of hope: I am another success story when it comes to increasing a dwindling milk supply. I actually have had oversupply with both of my kids (8-9 oz every 4 hrs), so for the first 9 months I was less than diligent with pumping at work. Come 9 months though, my entire freezer supply was gone and I was panicking. Just as my son took the very last freezer bottle, I finally brought back more milk than he had drank in my absence. How did I do it? 1. Added 1 pumping session at work 2. Added 2 pumping sessions at home (previously I was not pumping at home, only nursing) 3. Tried to nurse more frequently, although it really was not possible as he really is such a boob-man, and was already nursing every 1-2 hours, lol. (he is language delayed, but his only word for many months was "milk") 4. Fenugreek and blessed thistle for about 3 weeks, I don't remember the exact dose, but I know I used maybe only half the recommended dose 5. Refusing to fail. I made it my goal to EBF my child, and nothing was going to stop me. This was probably the most important factor. I wasn't going to "try" to increase my supply, I was GOING to increase my supply. I only had to do this for about 3 weeks, then I was able to catch up.
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  • @llli*new.mama86's Avatar
    Today, 08:02 AM
    Your suggestion totally worked! Thank you. Have been sneakily feeding my little nosy baby when she is just waking up from her naps or when she's sleepy and going down and she has a much longer feeds. Last night she went 4 hours between nursing as a result so hopefully it'll continue. Great suggestion!
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  • @llli*saramama89's Avatar
    Today, 02:22 AM
    Thank you! That was very helpful. I guess I will not be too worried, then, because my girl at least for now seems to still be a champ at BFing otherwise. And I definitely plan to continue using a pacifier/bottle only when absolutely necessary for mama to get a little sanity back. Thanks again!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:43 PM
    Do you feel pressured to wean due to the lead levels or some other reason? Lead exposure concerns aside, which I do not have the expertise to address, I would suggest there is no reason to wean a child earlier than you and your child wish, and lots of reasons to nurse as long as you like. To put it another way, I have yet to meet a mom of a weaned child who wished she had weaned her child earlier then she did, but plenty who wish they had not caved to pressure to wean earlier than they would have preferred.
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:37 PM
    That movie ruined big old hotels for me forever!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 10:35 PM
    :ita and I have to laugh about the bra part. Most new moms I know spend the first several weeks basically topless while at home because newborns like to nurse so often. Bras and even shirts just get in the way! Of course some moms do like to wear a bra for their own comfort. And of course moms who do wear bras often like to eventually get special nursing bras or some other type of easily manipulated bra (like a not too tight sports bra for example) as they provide a way for easier access for baby when nursing out of the home. But this is very individual and not an emergency must have item in any case. This is a nice article that covers some of the typical concerns for the early weeks. And please feel welcome to ask as many questions as you like here. http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/newborn-nursing/
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  • @llli*ehoneybee's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:44 PM
    Thank you, and I love the "here's Jonny" reference (shudder). :)
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  • @llli*cazadora's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:40 PM
    My son spent his first week in the NICU where he was given a bottle. My milk took awhile to come in, I was told I had inverted nipples, and wasnt able to get him to latch on. I had a lactation specialist come and she said my nipples were fine and helped me get him to latch. I was able to get him to breastfeed several times a day for the first couple months (he drank pumped milk from a bottle too) but now, at 4 months It is getting harder and harder. He prefers the bottle I think because its easier. He is resisting more and more and I dont know how much to push him - I dont want to stress him out, but I would really like him to nurse. At any rate I am committed to pumping if necessary but any advice on how to get him to accept the breast? Also, if I keep at it is there a chance when he is older that he will more readily accept it? I hope to breastfeed for 2 years.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:35 PM
    Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! It's great that you've gotten through the first few days of nursing, and so smart that you're asking questions. So many moms are afraid to reach out! Excellent! That's a totally normal length of time for a baby to nurse. The length of a feeding varies widely. Some babies get all they need in 5-10 minutes, others take closer to an hour. We often say "watch the baby, not the clock", because the clock doesn't tell you what you need to know.
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  • @llli*janad's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:14 PM
    My son was born 3 days ago, and we're braving this breastfeeding journey. I have a daughter who I briefly breastfed 5 years ago, but it was too brief for me to really have learned anything. Anyway, my milk has come in, but my babe is only nursing 15-20 minutes at a time, so I don't know if he empties my breast or not, and if I should be switching sides at the next feeding. Also, the nurse mentioned wearing a bra all of the time. I haven't picked up a nursing bra yet because I never wear a bra around the house and have a wireless bra that worked well before for when I go out in public. Is it necessary to wear one constantly?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:06 PM
    Hi congratulations on your new baby. The behavior you describe sounds entirely normal for a month old baby. I think it can be a little confusing to understand what nipple confusion means. Nipple confusion might mean that the baby begins nursing incorrectly causing pain for mom. It can also mean the baby gets unhappy with the flow of milk at the breast. It can also mean that baby begins to refuse the breast. The kind of nipple confusion that causes breast refusal usually happens after bottles and pacifiers have been used for a longer period of time or have been used to much - either too often or for too long a period. In other words it could be many weeks or even months before it becomes obvious that baby is beginning to reject the breast in favor of the bottle. What can cause problems in the more immediate time frame especially in the early weeks is when a bottle or pacifier prevents frequent enough feeding for various reasons-this can possibly cause problems for the mom with engorgement, or plugs or even with problems with milk production, they can also cause the breast to be very full so baby has a hard time latching etc.
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  • @llli*saramama89's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:47 PM
    I am curious what the signs of actual nipple confusion or nipple preference are. We have given my breastfeeding 4-week old baby a pacifier and a bottle of pumped milk probably 4-5 times each over the last two weeks. Sometimes it will seem like she is fussy and hungry but will have problems finding the breast and quickly take it in and spit it back out again, though eventually she will cry herself out and calm down and have a feed later. The rest of the time she does seem to breastfeed fine and well, 10+ times a day. Could this be a sign of nipple confusion, that she is not liking the shape of the breast or not getting milk out fast enough? Or is this normal fussy baby behavior? Just wondering if I should worry or not. Thank you so much! I really appreciate all the help from these forums here!
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  • @llli*lan3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:41 PM
    Hello! I have been reading forum posts for several months now and have found them to be very helpful. I am now in need of some advice. Fortunately I have the opportunity to change my work hours to be at home more with my six month old son. One of the downsides is my shift (I work at a Children's hospital) will be from noon-midnight three days a week. My son and I have been quite successful with breastfeeding and he takes a bottle well from other caregivers (dad, grandma and two days of daycare). Recently his sleep patterns have regressed a bit. He goes to sleep easily around 7pm and typically wakes up again around 10/11pm then again 1/2am and again 4/5am and wakes for the day between 7/8am. Prior to this pattern he was only waking once a night sometimes two. My concern and where I am seeking your advice is what to do about the 10/11pm feeding while I am at work....one I am not sure this is a needed feed and perhaps more of a comfort feed two I am not sure how much to leave in a bottle for my husband if my son decides to wake at that time and insists on eating. We recently introduced solids (just a couple weeks ago) he eats his serving of solids about an hour or two before bed and then nurses before going to sleep. Is this my window to drop one of these night feedings? Will he likely do it on his own since my husband will be there and not me?? Any advice would be much appreciated! Thank you!
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  • @llli*littlecavemomma's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:42 PM
    Filmommy - You're absolutely right. Those making the rules have no clue. Maddieb - You have some good points I hadn't thought of. I know it wasn't a pumping mother who complained about lack of privacy or anything like that. If I had to guess, they're concerned about dilly dallying. Truth is that room smells and is 105 degrees - we don't want to be in there any longer than necessary. The liability concern is an interesting thought - I wonder if there is some lawyer language in the law that specifically requires privacy? I'll look into it. Mamawin - I'm the highest level to have a baby while working. :/ And we have no female execs. Our HR are all women, but I don't know that any of them know anything about BF'ing or pumping. I think I'm just going to go in and play ignorant. When/If they say something, innocently ask why. And if their reason isn't valid (like a requirement of the law), I'll try to politely explain how difficult it will be for us all to schedule around each other while still making the most out of our work day. The operative word in that plan is "try." Thanks for all your thoughts ladies!
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  • @llli*soblessed's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:17 PM
    So do any other ftm feel like they are on a coaster? I do every friday since im off and get to spend the whole day with my 9wk old. Ill notice things and think oh has he been doing that this whole week? Or oh! Thats different then last week. I think im always on overdrive on fridays. Hah!
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  • @llli*mamawin's Avatar
    Yesterday, 03:06 PM
    Is there a female executive you could enlist to help you? A friend of mine faced some similar crap from HR and she got the company's CFO involved and, lo and behold, HR found a way to modify their rules.
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  • @llli*jenna8's Avatar
    Yesterday, 02:12 PM
    My daughter is 10 weeks old and I have only a partial supply. :( I successfully nursed our first 2 children exclusively, so this is a new problem. I have been having to supplement with formula since the beginning. I've done everything, pump like crazy + nurse around the clock, fenugreek, blessed thistle, marshmallow root, thyroid check (normal on replacement), chiropractic for my back pain. My daughter's clavicle was fractured during birth and she has a suspected sternocleidomastoid muscle injury that seems healed, but it definitely affected her sucking reflex. She seems just now "normal" in sucking ability, so that's likely why our supply is in the toilet, even though I've done everything under the sun to increase my supply. At the advice of several lactation consultants, I started domperidone. It seems like my last-ditch effort to normalize this breastfeeding relationship. I love nursing and I don't want things to be this way :cry I'm grateful for every drop of milk we have, but having successfully breastfed two other kiddos for over a year apiece, I'm bummed about this. My issue is this: I've been on domperidone for a week with no results. I do understand that it can take some time. I want to hear your experiences! Hoping for some encouragement.
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  • @llli*apple963's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:58 PM
    Thank you so much for writing!!! As I am sure you can understand, I am constantly worried that his ties reattached and that is what is causing the issue, but hearing you say that you had the problem with your high palate kids makes me feel so much better!! Its not enough pain to make me want to stop. I think I was more worried about the underlying cause then the pain itself. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:38 PM
    What about a curtain in the pump room to create 'privacy' for each mom, or at least for any mom who wants or needs it? A curtain and some music or a guided relaxation on headphones to block out noise. I would also suggest finding out what the concern is, exactly. If they are making a new policy there presumably is a reason, and knowing what the concern is may help in figuring out a workaround. IS the concern privacy for each pumping mom, or is the concern that two or more moms in the room will be chatting rather than getting down to business, or did some lawyer say that two moms pumping in the same room is a no -no as far as the company being held liable for sexual harassment complaint, or what? I mean it could be something so outrageously stupid there is no way to guess it. I also think you have to assume hr knows nothing about lactation or pumping and why it is important not only for providing milk for baby but for the immediate health and wellness of the lactating mother. A mother who cannot pump when and how long she needs to may well end up hospitalized with raging mastitis. ergh how frustrating for you, I am so sorry! But maybe with four of you united more can be accomplished. Are you in the us? I am pretty sure there is new federal law as regards pumping.
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  • @llli*mygirlx3's Avatar
    Yesterday, 01:36 PM
    I know this is a little late. I'm curious as to how you're doing? I pumped for most two weeks and didn't get a single drop. I got so discouraged I quit. That was 2 months ago and I'm back here trying to figure out if I can start trying to relactate yet again! Don't give up! I wish I hadn't when my daughter was a few weeks old and I wish I didn't 2 months ago. I feel like it's too late for me now.
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