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  • @llli*karaeubanks's Avatar
    Today, 07:34 AM
    Suddenly, my 13-month-old has gone from nursing 6 times a day to latching and not drinking. He latches, sucks a tiny bit, maybe, and then just hangs out on my breast without eating, then leaves. Does this mean he wants to stop nursing? Does it mean my supply is too low? Does it mean he doesn't like my milk? He eats TONS of solids, so maybe he just has no room for milk? But he does this even first thing in the morning, when normally he's pretty hungry. I'm willing to follow his lead if he doesn't want to nurse any more, or nurse more if it's a supply issue. I'm just confused about the behavior and would like to know how to proceed. Thanks for any insight!
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  • @llli*podutti's Avatar
    Today, 07:28 AM
    just to follow up on this. I tested out a few approaches and I have found that my left breast really only responds well to hand expression, I have no idea why. So, now, I use the pump to stimulate a let down and then I pump from the right while hand expressing from the left and I am now producing 2oz per breast at each pumping session :) Strangely, I am now leaking all over the place again during night time nursing, is this related? I'm pretty certain I wasn't leaking at 9 months with previous DS. So, another question. Today I got stuck in a meeting and had to delay my first pumping session of the day for 1.5 hours, so that it was over 4 hours since DS had nursed before work. I got almost 5oz from that session. I suspected my afternoon output would suffer. I delayed my afternoon session for about 1hr and I got just short of 4oz. Obviously I don't want to draw conclusions on one days evidence, but it seemed today that I got MORE milk in LESS time. Is it a one-off, would delaying pumping like that impact supply long term, is it worth doing that 1-2 days per week to get some extra milk? Any thoughts....?
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Today, 06:46 AM
    Child-free weddings can sometimes be compatible with nursing babies who won't take bottles if you do things like: - Hire a babysitter to care for the baby during the wedding, close enough that you can go and nurse when necessary, far enough away that baby is not "attending" the wedding - Swap childcare with another relative who is also a parent- maybe you watch the kids for half the time, the relative takes the other half of the time - Beg politely? This worked for me once. My cousin was getting married, in a big child-free wedding. I politely told him that I wanted to come but could not unless my kids could, too, and that whatever he decided was fine either way- if the answer was yes, I would be really happy but if it was no, there would be no hard feelings. In the end, the wedding was so loud, large, and obnoxious that no-one even noticed the presence of my kids, whereas I wished I hadn't brought the kids or even myself! By the time your cousin's wedding rolls around, your baby will be 6 months old, right? Maybe she can have solids instead of a bottle while you're at the festivities?
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  • @llli*jen.r24's Avatar
    Today, 05:25 AM
    My little girl never took a bottle. We started her on a slanted open cup ('doidy cup') when she was 4 months and then a cup with a spout and handles she can hold on to around 6 months. She needed, and still does, help drinking from open cup but handled the sippy cup solo fine from about 7-8 months if slightly reclined. Rather than trying the bottle why not try those types of cup?
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 09:09 PM
    Not really. I am suggesting you educate the day care in how to properly feed a breastfed baby, according to the experts, perhaps using the information I linked. Yes, that does usually mean smaller feedings and feeding on cue. But it is more than that. It may mean changing someone's entire mindset about infant feeding- and overall care. I think 5 ounces fed every 3 hours as a rule is probably too much, yes, unless there is some reason your baby needs more- poor gain rate, for example, or again, if baby does not nurse overnight. Otherwise, if they are insisting on overfeeding your child, that is a problem on many levels, isn't it? I guess I wonder WHY they are so insistent on this point? Do you have any idea? I always have to wonder what else is going on when a daycare is not able or not willing to meet a pretty simple feeding/care request. What is your routine on the days you work? Is baby typically eager to nurse as soon as you pick her up? Is nursing better or worse those days? When does nursing seem the most problematic? Any particular session? If the daycare is that difficult and you have not already taken your business elsewhere, I assume this care situation is your only option. In that case, again, I would suggest doing what you can to educate them and keep doing all you can to encourage baby to nurse frequently when you are able to be with baby- nights, days off, etc. By keeping your baby viewing the breast as the place to meet their needs- hunger, thirst,...
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  • @llli*ldivanna83's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:34 PM
    So if she has received 5 oz bottles at day care, you suggest I go back down to 4 and tell day care that she only gets fed when hungry? I'm in such a tough spot bc day care was adamant about feeding her more to the point of her saying I'd have to find someone else if I don't agree with increasing feedings... The whole day care thing has been a struggle and a bit of a nightmare. What do you suggest I pack for bottles for day care? I did not have OP prior to returning to work. There were very random times when she would refuse to nurse prior to returning to work and I could typically associate it with her being too tired to nurse. I did see the paced bottle feeding video and I have shared it with any one who has given her a bottle. I nursed her every 2 hours today on my day off and she did well.
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  • @llli*cmazza22's Avatar
    Yesterday, 07:31 PM
    I am currently nursing my third baby, and just like her brothers, she refuses the bottle. It's happened the same way with each: We started out great, then around 5 weeks, they started refusing, choosing to chew on the nipple instead of suck on it. I then just gave up on the bottle (I'm a stay-at-home mom, so it doesn't really matter). Can anyone give me any suggestions how to help DD take the bottle? She is four months old and hasn't been offered one since she was 5 weeks. When given one, she just chews on the nipple. The reason I'd like her to take a bottle is my cousin is getting married at the end of September, and he has said I cannot bring her (which is frustrating in itself but it's his wedding, so I have to go with his wishes). Normally I just wouldn't go, but if there is a way I can get DD to take the bottle so I can attend, I'm willing to try.
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  • @llli*nap's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:47 PM
    Thanks for reading and for your reply. I'm striving to be ok and I repeat to myself that I am doing everything I can for my baby. I'm still trying, every day I pump twice at work, which is what my schedule will allow me, I don’t get much, but I thought it's better than nothing. While I'm with her in the evenings/nights I breastfeed on demand. I wrote to Dr. Jack Newman and he recommended me to try domperidone which I started today. I wonder if I could take some herbs too or whether I should try the medication and see the response. I would like some info on increasing pump output, I tried with power pumping and had no results. I wish to continue until she consumes solids and need less milk so I can cover her needs. I'll keep working on me and our breastfeeding (:
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:38 PM
    Being played for a fool, eh? :rolleyes: Too bad "working with kids" is not the same as "knowing what is normal when it comes to breastfeeding"! Kudos to you on being the one who is willing to be weird. That's the trailblazer's way. The next mom who is still nursing and pumping at a year may not have the same issues as you- maybe someone will see her with her pump and say "Still doing that? Just like Jen.r24!" And then that future woman won't feel so alone in her decision. :D
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    Yesterday, 12:33 PM
    :it's with MaddieB. In particular, I think it's a very good idea to ditch the "eat, play, sleep" 3 hour schedule. That sort of schedule sounds great when you read about it in a book, but it's not how real babies really behave. Real babies might have a schedule that goes more along the lines of "eat, fuss, eat some more, quick cat nap, eat, fuss, poop, fuss, eat, longer stretch of sleep", etc. That sort of pattern is how babies get their required number of feedings per day, and it's how they get lots of attention, soothing, interaction, and closeness to mom's body. The idea that a young baby could or should eat just for food and then play independently- that was invented by people who saw the behavior of intensively scheduled formula-fed babies as the gold standard- which it is not!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:31 AM
    good to hear, thanks for the update!
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    Yesterday, 08:27 AM
    I think your baby is being overfed at the daycare, and fed too much at once. This is linked to breast refusal which is why people have come up with ways to try to prevent this problem. This means baby is fed when baby shows hunger cues and not on a schedule, it means appropriately sized meals, and it often also means adopting a special method of bottle feeding called paced bottle feeding. Your day care probably has no idea about any of this. They will need to be educated. I will post some links below. Size of baby has little to nothing to do with expected intake or average needed intake. Feedings of between 2 and 4 ounces each are the norm for this age. Assuming baby nurses overnight a few times as would be typical at this age, the total amount that is appropriate for a 12 hour separation is between 12 and 18 ounces for the entire separation. Why appropriate amounts, cue feeding and paced bottles are important: If baby is fed more, that can cause disinterest in nursing. If baby is fed large bottles at a time spaced out evenly, baby becomes used to that which is not typical at the breast. If baby is fed with a gravity bottle technique ( how bottles are typically given) with a rapid but steady milk flow, baby becomes used to the milk flowing into baby's mouth with no effort whatsoever from baby in getting the milk to flow and then controlling flow, as baby normally must do at the breast. This is why caregiver feeding method is SO important. It needs to be right or...
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  • @llli*ldivanna83's Avatar
    Yesterday, 06:26 AM
    I have a 3month old baby and am nursing exclusively. We have had some issues with her--- pediatrician has diagnosed her with colic and reflux. She receives zantac twice a day and has been doing great with nursing for over a month until I went back to work. I work 3 days a week, 12 hour shifts each day. She does great with the bottles. She was getting 4 ounce bottles but the day care told me she was hungry so I caved and let them increase to 5 ounce bottles which seems to satiate her and also let her go longer (3 hours instead of 2.5) until she needs another bottle. (She is a big baby, came out at 10lbs 1.5oz and was 13lb 2oz at 2 months)... When I have her at home on my days off, she will start to nurse and then screams and freaks out after initial let down. I'm guessing it's a forceful let down/over supply..? I don't really want to try to decrease my supply since we JUST increased to 5 ounce bottles- I want to be able to keep up with her. I've read about hand expressing prior to nursing her, and block feeding..? I tried to express a little bit from the other boob after she starts freaking out but it's too late at that point and she won't even try the other breast. But then she will take a bottle gladly... I'm not really sure where to start to trouble shoot this. Also, she is spitting up A LOT when she nurses and not at all when she eats from a bottle. It absolutely kills me when she screams and pulls away from my boob. Please help.
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  • @llli*jen.r24's Avatar
    Yesterday, 04:49 AM
    I'm in the lucky position that my husband has a family friendly contract and will be off all August, which would give me time to pump once during the day at some point while she is being minded and maybe I will sit with a cuppa and a book! Yes I'll look into a car adapter and a hands free bra, makes sense! I would imagine some of my co workers would be freaked out by breast milk in fridge, but aside from that our work fridge is really rather disgusting I don't even like putting my lunch in it to be honest. So I may go for a cool box under the desk. I only know one other person in my office who pumped in work, mostly because we are lucky enough to all have taken 9-12 months maternity leave. Any other women who breastfed in my office moved to combi feeding or weaned to formula on return to work. So I've no one really to ask for advice about it. I'm not sure I'm going to tell anyone since I mentioned it to a coupe of co-workers yesterday and got told that since she'll be 1 I should wean and that I was getting played for a fool because my little girl still feeds 3-4 times at night (on a good night). I have a feeling pumping and feeding at her age will be considered weird. Which a bit strange given that we all work with children !
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  • @llli*maddieb's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 10:20 PM
    Hi, well again I get it. You saw improvement with this formula, I understand, and am not arguing with what you experienced. I am just telling you what the experts say about switching formulas. "GentleEase" is marketed as a special formula for colic, gassiness and fussiness. Ok, so it does not sound like there is overproduction, as in that case, baby would be gaining quickly, typically. But is does sounds like the milk is flowing a bit quickly at least sometimes, and that may mean fast letdown and the "lactose overload" that can happen with that. This is helped by taking shorter breaks between nursing sessions- in other words, nursing more often, because milk has less time to build up in the breasts there is less of a letdown. Another cause of too much foremilk is baby nursing both sides at every feeding. However, since baby is not gaining as well as you would like, and also because nursing session are relatively infrequent, baby taking both sides at this point is probably necessary. If you can encourage baby to nurse more often, baby may choose to nurse one side at a time at some feedings and that may also help. When a baby has reflux, it is usually recommended that baby nurse frequently. This allows for smaller meals which are easier to digest. Also, nursing is typically soothing when a baby has reflux so the more nursing, the better. So also for the reflux, nursing more often would be indicated.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 07:35 PM
    It's very common to have differences in supply between breasts. Sometimes these are quite mild, but sometimes they are so extreme that one breast will be supplying most of the baby's needs and the other will be producing a very small amount. As long as pee/poop output and weight gain are normal, and the baby's pee is generally pale and mild-smelling, you know he's getting enough to eat even if it seems like one breast is dry and barely being nursed on. If lopsided supply bothers you, you can increase supply in the underperforming breast by removing milk from it more often and more completely. So pumping that side is a great way to get a better supply going. You might also want to nurse more often on that side. Even a 5 minute session is great for supply!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 07:26 PM
    Are you located in the USA? Thanks to the Affordabale Care Act, breast pumps are now covered under many medical insurance plans. Check with your insurer before you buy! :)
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 07:22 PM
    I like your once-per-day pumping plan- not only do I think you'll end up with some useful milk, but I also think you may spare yourself some discomfort from overfull breasts. I would store the milk in whatever is most convenient for you. If that means a cooler with ice under your desk, fine. If it means you get your own mini fridge, fine. If it means putting bottles in the office fridge, also fine- you may find it useful to put them in a bag so that co-workers don't get all weird about breastmilk sharing fridge space with their precious sandwiches. ;) Any chance of getting a hands-free bra and a car adapter for your electric pump? That sounds like an easier set-up than a manual pump. I think it's a great idea to add in a pump session in August- but only if YOU want to do that! I see it as a great way to build a cushion of expressed milk, good practice for you- but it's also a time suck and no mom needs that!
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 07:13 PM
    The reasons to avoid soap are: 1. It removes protective oils from the baby's skin. 2. A lot of soaps contain nasty chemical ingredients that you don't want baby exposed to- this is particularly true of heavily scented and antibacterial products, and of liquid soaps that come in bottles containing phthalates. 3. It's just not necessary- warm water is generally enough for delicate baby skin. Washing with a small amount of mild, unscented soap can be reserved for the problem areas where poop, pee, spit-up, and grime can be a problem- like the baby's bottom and neck creases.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 07:01 PM
    Awesome! Keep up the good work, mama.
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  • @llli*mommal's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 07:01 PM
    Welcome to the forum! Based on the photo, I am not sure that I, personally, see a lip tie. That could just be a normal, albeit rather thick-looking, frenum. Because you suspect lip tie and your nipples are sore, your next step should probably be to get help from a professional lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC. If this IBCLC sees a lip tie, you may need to seek further help from someone like a dentist, an ENG doctor, or a pediatrician. The bad thing about lip ties is that they can cause the baby to have difficulty with latching, and may cause issues with lower transfer of milk. The good thing about lip ties is that they often stretch as the baby's mouth grows, and most babies grow out of a difficult latch even when they have a tie. So even if you do nothing to fix a tie, there's a good chance that your baby will hpgorw out of it. When it comes to concerns about baby getting enough, the way you measure baby's intake is by watching his output of pee and poop and his weight gain. If baby's weight gain is normal and he is peeing and pooing enough, and his pee is generally pale and mild-smelling, then he is getting enough to eat.
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  • @llli*merobader's Avatar
    July 25th, 2016, 05:57 PM
    My baby is 10 days old today for the frist week my nipplw was so sore I want to scream every time he touched it was black for the last 2 days things was getting better its still painful but much better still have lipstick nipple all the time but I thought its a matter of time he will have good latch soon but today I found that he have a lip tie and now I don't knowe what to do I used to think he is geting enough milk now I doubt myself Here is the photo
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